ive heard of instances where a woman would date the guy to justify the whole rape incident.
2006-08-09 00:44:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is not normal.
2006-08-09 00:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by sanja77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible in the following instances:
1) The victim finds the rapist attractive;
2) The victim knows the rapist;
3) The victim rather finds the violation satisfying;
4) The rapist have a crush or has been long attracted to the victim;
5) The victim worries about embarrassment/humiliation;
There could be more, but I think what will closely apply to "justify the whole rape incident" is no. 5 above.
2006-08-09 03:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allot depends on the women, and the circumstances. I have heard about that. I have had the same thing happen with me. So yea you can call that normal, however I would think twice before going further into this. As the man who raped you could be violent or extremely nuts. Now that I think about it, if a woman is raped and she looses her virginity or she had some attachment to the rapist that could trigger emotional feelings. Also I know this is hard to admit, a recent survey has shown women do fantasies to be raped which if a man satisfied that urge that could also trigger an emotional feeling. That is a common human response when a person satisfies a sexual fantasy specially guys, it triggers the partner’s feelings. So again yea you can call that normal so don’t trip.
2006-08-09 00:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by glenn s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not common, but it happens. Victims may be subject to various psychological influences.
Of course if you include statutory rape then "falling in love" with the "abuser" is far more common.
In a case a year or two ago a woman convinced her rapist to use a condom, and the defense lawyer for the rapist tried to use that as evidence of consent, if not romance. The judge thew that out on public policy grounds. (She was justified in doing whatever she could to minimize injury, including infection with STD.)
2006-08-09 00:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's normal at all. However, I had a friend in college that married the guy that raped her four years earlier. I have never been able to understand that, being a victim myself. She said that she always compared the guys she dated to the one who had raped her, and that they never measured up. I don't know what the hell that means, but she says she's very happy with him now. Go figure.
2006-08-09 21:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by emily_rose_4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. there are many kind of strange relationships of why a woman would love or date a man who raped her. i think the most common is that the woman is scared and doesn't want to have her situation to get bad and she can get hurt (physically and mentally). so she maybe just dates the man so she gets him happy.
or maybe she kind of "brainwashed" and thinks he raped her cuz he loved her 2 much. its crazy but sad =(
2006-08-09 00:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the two parties involved must have been attractive looking to fall in love. But a rapist would be unattractive in the SOUL to do such a thing!
Women love jerks, and the nice guys don't get any luck. I guess a rapist could fall in that "jerk" catagory, so it doesn't surprise me that a woman could fall in love with a jerk who raped her.
Maybe it's not even love, but lust. I think God confused the whole human race by giving us guys eyes to see a beautiful woman. He gave us a heart to fall in love with her, but a warning not to fall in lust with her.
2006-08-09 01:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by snafu1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There are reports on this in torture centers, concentration camps and similar. But it is understood as a survival strategy. Whatever the case, the victim needs help and the man should go to jail.
2006-08-09 00:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by regis_cabral 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is an act of violence. No, I don't think it is common. Perhaps the girl in question had issues and needed help.
2006-08-09 00:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is really possible to fall in love bcoz on my own experience, I was raped by by a very cute discrete gay last month...He let me drink a glass of wine then I fell asleep so quickly..I noticed that he kissed me..undress me..he suck my nipples down to my penis..my penis got hard as he play with his tounge..He sucked, lick and my balls too...After I noticed that I was not dreaming...I stood up and realized that I was being raped and I was totally naked..My penis is still hard...After I saw his mouth watering penis that was so hard and big, I tried to hold it and I suck and lick it....Then I ****** him so hard that he moaned....We then ended up sex partners and we are planning to be married soon....If u would like to answer ur own question, why not trying to be raped by somebody else........According to a survey by Nielsen, more that 80% of the raped victims realize that they fell in love with the rapist afterward most especially if the rapist inserted his penis on the victims mouth.........
2006-08-09 01:01:26 · answer #10 · answered by marco p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually you hate the person who did such an act....hence its very uncommon to fall in love with such a person !!
2006-08-09 00:46:55 · answer #11 · answered by young_friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋