Pleas need ur advise.?

Question

I need your help if u read my previous question i think u know how to help me. Continuation of that part.?
My Ex-bf & I, had talked becoz of that feelings that i was shared 2 all of u guys. This is really serious, I told him my feelings and he told me that he felt the same way too, yeah he knew from the very start the he had gf but he had also this feeling that someday we can be together, its like our rlationship before is not yet finished, he always pray God for our both feelings and I really believed him coz even if were not together we had a good raltionship to one another, we've been friends after we broke up.. because now I'm in another country, he misses me so much. We have both the same feelings that ever since we cant say it to one another becoz we dont want to hurt each other relationship.. God only know when. He will be the one to decide.. And we have faith in HIm. Dont be funny in my story coz its really true.. I want to tell all of u guys the whole story about us but the space here is not enough.

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4 hours ago
my question is what do you think of this situation? do you think its all true about him? i dont know what to do.. or am i juz blind becoz i still love him? y am is till holding on for no assurance.. move on? i tried it for how many years, but he's still inside my heart. God knows everything..

Answer 1

Ok I didn't see your previous question but it would seem to me that this man i aware of your feelings towards him and he has a girlfriend. This leaves the ball very much in his court.

He has a choice, he must decide whether its you he wants or this other girl because to lie is probably morally wrong from both of your standpoints. It's not a kindness to keep either of you in limbo in this way. Somebody will be hurt, but sometimes the right thing to do is not always the easiest thing to do.

I'm not disputing that your faith is helping you to unravel this problem and helping you to deal with the emotional issues attached to it. In fact many people turn to the Bible or their particular faith in times of hardship. Perhaps you could confide in somebody from your church who may be able to advise you and offer you some wisdom in that regard.

however, God gave you free will, and you have the ability to choose and shape your life. The desicions you make are yours alone and you must take responsiblity for their consequences. God can not solve all of your problems for you, but God can provide a framework of morality and guidance by which can help you to make personal choices which fit accordingly with your faith.

Lastly, I get the feeling that your self esteem may be running a little low. Those who subscribe to Christianity would argue that if God loves you, then are you not worthy of giving yourself that same love?

I wish you well and hope that whatever you do you're happy

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Answer 2

when you have broken up with someone and are now good friend with him it might sometime be tempting to start again. its not a bad idea at all.
you two are away from each other and miss each other more. think of these few things:
why did you break up? is it because after being in the relationship for a while when things started appearing normal you broke up coz you thought there was more out there and now you havent found things as such you are regretting it.
think why you have that feeling esp when u are away. is your surrounding playing part in it? is it because there arent many things that you can relate to, you remember him more? this might be another reason.
or do miss the physical closeness with him? so many things to think of..
whatever it is dont rush into it now as you are away. if you really wanna give it a go.. stay together for a while and try to see if there is any change in him - good or bad- while you were away and how does those things play in your relationship.
lot of things to consider.. but the most important thing is not to rush to fail again...
good luck

Answer 3

U really are in a situation. You broke up in the first place, seems like you two have realised your mistakes and you find them correctable. Trouble is that if you failed to communicate and solve things then, and you ended up breaking up, you are likely to end up the same way. Right now you sound like you are after an illussion, not love.

At least you were able to find new partners. I think you should grow up, stop eyeing the spilt milk and move on. It will hurt you in the long run if you get together, especially now that you live in two countries.

Answer 4

You sound like a sweet, thoughtful and insightful woman, looking for answers that are probably right in front of you. I think maybe you are being blinded by infatuation, or what you think is love .. I say you are best to move on ... there are many fish in the sea, and I am certain there is one waiting for you... if you want to talk more, or share more, you can e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 5

Don't think too much cz if you have faith then you should also know that if you were meant to be with each other then you will be whatever life brings and if you weren't meant t o be with each other then whatever you do it won't work.

Answer 6

Since your in another Country,well lets face it,It would be a little tough,I would say move on....and I,m sure it will hurt..Time will heal,and good luck

Answer 7

We fully understand that your decision is to re-unite with him!! Well done!! Go ahead!! Do you want our concurrence for a mutually affecting decision?? From your words, it also seems that he also loves you and like you!!!
My only question is this--why did you breoke-up if you both loved thsi much? Whatever it is, please do not repeat the same mistake after this re-union.....OK?

Answer 8

if he cheated on his girlfriend for you - you can never trust him completely even if ye DO get together- i say cut ties and move on and forget about him - plenty more out there in the same country as you!
Best of luck

Answer 9

Loon.

Answer 10

move forward and learn to forget.