I had a really great boyfriend. We were going to get engaged and try make a baby. But things were moving too fast. He moved in after a week and after 3wks he wanted to try make a baby and get engaged. I was keen, but then I freaked out, as I didn't feel ready to have another child. So I dumped him. After about a week had passed, I realise it was a bad decision. But he was really hurt and not ready to think about taking me back. After a few weeks, I slept with a guy, which felt wrong and I wish it never happened. It made me realise even more, that I didn't want to be with anyone but my ex. I proposed to my ex about a few weeks later. And he was thinking about saying yes, but them asked if I'd been with anyone new, to which I said no twice and then said yes, as I knew he'd be hurt. But I couldn't live with a lie. Then he has been thinking about giving it another shot. Do I deserve a second chance? I love him, I want only him : (
2006-08-08 23:56:27 · 13 answers · asked by feraud79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I definitely think things would be ok between you guys. Yes, it sucks that things turned out this way, but believe it or not, what you did is a very very common thing. Please don't beat yourself up over it. You live and learn. I guarantee it would never happen again, would it?? This type of thing happens a lot, and things will get easier with time. Trust me...Good luck!!
2006-08-09 00:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day.. yes u slept with sumone else but u wer not 2gether at the time.. i think that u wer right 2 b nervous of getting involved that quickly.. i just done the same thing and it hasnt worked out cos u cant no someone after such a short time.. please dont rush anything. if u both care about each other wot is the rush u hav all the time in the world 2 get married and hav a baby.. just enjoy gettin 2 no each other and havin time 2 yourselves. a baby can be a big strain on a relationship so enjoy some time alone with each other b4 u do the baby thing.. u wil both be more sttled then and ready 4 more committment.
2006-08-09 00:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by pankypaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves a second chance.. It's good that you realise that you love only him and want to be with him only..Now show him he did well for giving you the second chance and dont mess it up.. There is no problem now since he accepted you and since you realised what he means to you... Don worry if you deserve the scond chance or not.. we all deserve it.. Just try to be the best gf for ur man and dont let him down ever again cz accepting you back after all that means he really loves you..
You are lucky.. =D
2006-08-09 00:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is ok to feel freaked out sometimes especially when things are moving in a fast pace bu u shouldn't have broken up, maybe you should have taken sometime to think thing over. anyway, everyone deserves a second chance wen they have really regretted what they had done and recognized their own mistakes. since you have done that, you are entitled to a second chance but this time try to hang on to what you have. i wish your bf will c that too.. Good luck
2006-08-09 00:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo, you don't have any idea about you want. You sound like you are well on your way to making another huge mistake by getting involved with this guy again.
How many children do you already have?
2006-08-09 00:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistake after mistake you do should he trust you & live his life in foolines or should he dump you & live his life in lonlyness cuz he can't holdon without you....
You & him must have a serious conversation as if you live together you must be married cuz i think that's the only good way for you 2
2006-08-09 00:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Yagami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, am i the only one reading this crap. you barely know him. if yall gone be together forever anyway then theres no rush. especially with a baby. of course you got scared, thats your first instinct telling you your moving to fast down a dangerous path even if he is the right one. were just ordinary people, we dont know which way to go...take it slow!
2006-08-09 02:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tel him the truth if not u be livin w guilt all your life. And tell him the reason of doin that. That u loved him too much.. ask for his forgiveness..
2006-08-09 00:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by chyi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is are you both experienced enough now not to make more mistake. that is you aware the chance will be given to you at one condition are you willing to loose it all once you in doubt five years from now?
2006-08-09 00:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by eurometrix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
technically it wasn't cheating since you all was broke up when ever it happened. so yes i would give you a second chance
2006-08-09 00:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋