My wife never takes a bath....well not very often. I would like to have sex with her but her its kinda a turn off knowing its been 5 days since she had a bath.
How do I hint around to her or tell her she needs to wash her body? I dont want to hurt her feelings or make her angry.
2006-08-08 23:05:09 · 28 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
just tell her its not good for her health.. sex is secondary
2006-08-08 23:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe she doesn't have time to relax? Time sometimes is a hard thing to work round! Try having a bath WITH her to make it a form of foreplay? They you can be intimate put scented candles round the bath and all lead her to the bath room if she doesn't want to get in get in with her, and if she doesn't even get in when you are in talk to her! Not nastily tell her gently that her having a relaxing bath is quite a turn on to know that she's clean,relaxed and smelling all nice. If still no change maybe it's a phobia of hers that she doesn't like water too much so she doesn't do it often? I drowned when I was little and someone saved me but for aggges I wouldn't take a bath because I was scared, maybe she doesn't bath often because she had a bad experience? And she can only bare it a little bit. But as you said it'd only 5 or so days its probably not that. If you speak to her tell her you don't want to her hurt but be truthful, I think she'd find it more upsetting that you didn't tell her and that you find it a turn off when she wants to be intimate. I think you'd be better speaking to her! You fancy her that much you WANT to make love to her is really nice even if its an issue because she hasn't bathed, tell her this I say! Or shower with her? If that doesn't work ask a doctor. I dunno what that could be otherwise, I know some women don't have time if they're tired & working and all.
2006-08-08 23:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious about this? I will assume that you are.
First, I would have to question why you didn't know this about her before you married her.
Is it possible that she is in a deep depression, or maybe this is her sub-conscious way of not having sex with you?
ICK, I still can't even imagine not showering, though.
I think I would tell her my concerns, in a loving way, and add that you realize this is a sensitive subject, but it is important to you.
Then, I would ask her why she does shower at the times that she has. If her answer is that she feels dirty,, or is starting to smell "not-so-great." then let her know that you notice it way before this time.
truthfully, I couldn't stay with someone who had poor hygiene issues. it is just a sign of another underlying problem.
It is also cause for divorce, if you have kids with her, I suppose that brings on a whole new set of problems, though.
Good Luck.
By the way, I just read the titles of some of your questions, and I think that you truly should leave this woman. I don't think you would be alone for long, but you need to start expecting better for yourself, there!! Put your big boy pants on, and dump her smelly a$$!!! Lots of love!
2006-08-08 23:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Fitchurg Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some candles, some nice music, some bath salts/oil/bubbles, and bathe with her. If the bathtub is too small, shower with her, or just go into the bathroom with her and bathe her from the outside of the tub. Make it really sexy and sensuous. She'll think it's romantic. After that, dry her off and then ravish her.
Tell her there's more where that came from if she'd remember to pamper herself like you just did.
2006-08-08 23:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by pynkbyrd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross...maybe her doc should tell her something, s/he would definitely listen to your concerns and address the problem without implicating you. All sorts of things can 'grow' on the human body, not the least of which are yeast bacteria which can give you itchy red rashes too. If you can't get through subtly, you'll have to try another tact...AND it wouldn't hurt to buy her a bunch of lovely bath related items, bubbles, oils, relaxing herbal dissolving salts, luffa, wash mitt, bath candles with relaxing qualities (lavander) etc...and tell her how its such a huge turn on when she smells so delicious straight out of the bath. If that doesn't work....I'm single!!!
2006-08-08 23:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by twinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making turning it into an intimate moment for the both of you!
You could put candles by the tub with some chocolate covered strawberries (if you perfer), some soft music to get into the mood and bathe each other.
That way, she'll be clean and it would be romantic for you two.
2006-08-08 23:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Q.S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has she had this issue? If you knew she had a personal hygiene problem when you got married then you know what you were getting into.
I would go "Bath & Body works" or a similiar store and get her some bath beads, scented soaps, etc. You can get a nice bath kit and they are not expensive. This might encourage her.
2006-08-08 23:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer to join her in the shower or bath and see what happens next! ;o)
if that doesn't work, be a marine, suck it up, and tell her that she needs to bathe more often. she's your WIFE, for pete's sake, and if you can't talk to her about something this important to your relationship, what CAN you talk about?
p.s. an additional thought--is this a change in her behavior or has she been this way since the beginning of your relationship? if it's recent change, she may be depressed, in which case she needs YOU to help her get help.
whatever the cause, you need to act soon becuz it's obvious that the status quo STINKS!
2006-08-08 23:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by mizz_melanie_wilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta make having a bath sexy...
Girls are crazy when it comes to this crap....get hew candles for the bathroom, those smelly things that girls like to put in there.
Some stuff for her to do her nails with when she is in there....
Give her the stuff so she can pamper herself in the Bath! make it a present and don't tell her why or else she will kill you twice and jump up and down on your body (which is a bad thing)!
2006-08-08 23:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her to take a bath or shower WITH you. the two of you can take turns washing each other.... then you'll both be clean and turned on and you wont hurt her feelings.
2006-08-09 03:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you try running her a nice bath, with nice smelling oils in there and candles round it. maybe even a glass of wine on the side. if she sees bathing as a pleasure instead of just another chore it might be more appealing to her.
2006-08-08 23:10:15 · answer #11 · answered by kayfromcov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋