i need good advice.
2006-08-08 21:22:44 · 15 answers · asked by iam_gino19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Leave this message on your answering service:
" Hi, I have decided to change my life and detach myself from people I consider are not suitable for me (or who I am not suitable for". Please leave your number. If I don't call back, you are one of them."
2006-08-08 21:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How do you detach yourself from fake friends? It's so painful..I need help? "
superbooks ANSWERS:
First make the decision that you really want to detach.
Once that decision is made, all you need to do is spend less time with that person.
Begin doing things with your other , more genuine friends. Make your plans six weeks ahead of time (Fill your calendar) so that you always know what you re doing and you have only time for your family and very close friends.
When your fake friend wants to go somewhere , say no, and explain that.
When she or he calls on the phone , just let the voice mail or the answering machine get the call.
Begin spending less and less and less time with the fake friend and begin filling that time up with other friends, people, police and things.
Make new routines for yourself that were different than what you were used to doing.
Like a new routine might be instead of going out on tuesday , you might just want to go to the movies on Tuesday. That way, if your stalker was bold enough to follow your routine, he couldn't see you any more on tuesday.s .
Make different appoinments with different people. Your uncle lives ona fish farm ? Hey, do go visit that person instead of doing your regular routine ?
The main thing is DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY and keep doing them differently for as long as you want to have a new life or have new friends.
JOIN large groups of people for events, ie. clubs always have regular events time.s
2006-08-09 04:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple.. get yourself detached voluntarily forthwith.
If you are convinced that your friend had faked, there should not be any pain in getting detached from him or her.
A normal courtsey of informing your decision personally with full explanation in taking such a step could be made aware also.
2006-08-09 04:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky, you have so many good answers for your question. I would say that you should follow the advice when you get ready (especially the advice from superbooks) and move on. I know it's hard, but you know what you deserve and that is something better than what you feel you are getting now, so I commend you and am happy for you. You will get through this and be stronger because of it. Be Blessed!
2006-08-09 05:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by caramel_angelkiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Stay away from them and gradually you won't feel it. Create a new social circle with the good mates and organise single partys so your better friends can widen your circle. I'm happy you've come to the decision of not letting fakes in your life. They are a waste of time.
2006-08-09 04:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake friends are usually only around a person when they are using them or manipulating them in some way. Stop giving them whatever they are after and they will stop coming around. Don't initiate any contact or, better yet, ask for help. Fake friends are almost always takers and abandon their "friends in need" in a heartbeat. It will sting for awhile but you will be okay and stronger when you build new friendships.
2006-08-09 04:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is painful, but most friendships are of a temporary nature anyway. You will gain and lose friends throughout your lifetime. For example, when a friend gets married friendships often end. In many cases, the new wife gets rid of all of her husband's male friends, and God forbid (in her opinion) that he should have any female friends. To lose them, begin showing a lack of interest in them and their activities. They will get the message and go their own way.
2006-08-09 04:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself one question.
" Will I falter if I continue to associate with certain people who have shown me that they are shallow and worthless?"
You really need to look in the mirror when you ask yourself that question, because it also come back to you to decide is there anything that you are doing that might make them treat you in that manner.
Once you have soundly pondered the question and answered it , then you will know how to either separate yourself or keep them.
Nothing is painful if done right but anything and everything is hard if done incorrectly!
2006-08-09 04:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say "You know theres a time and a place for friendship, and all good things have to come to an end. I hope that you can find some real friends because I no longer have time in my life for you, Good Luck- bye" then leave
2006-08-09 04:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't bother yourself with them,and just meet new people and before to long the pain will be gone.
2006-08-09 04:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by lilastevenson42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋