Would you wait for someone for 3 long years?

Question

My husband and I have only been married for 5 months. We also have a child together. But we've been together for almost 2 years. We have our ups and downs like other couples. But my main problem is that I don't fully trust him to go to Wales - England to study for 3 years. It seems a very long time and what if he fells lonely or a woman seduce him etc? He said he will only see my and our son once a year. But will keep in contact through emails and phone as much as we can. I really want to give him a chance for the sake of our son and family but I'm so afraid to get hurt, for what ever problem that may arise. His already made up his mind that he is going. People please, what shall I do? Has anybody experience this before? He does really love me. I broke up our marriage for this and he is asking me back to work it out before he goes. Please help. Thank you

Answer 1

My sister waited for her hubby for six years while he completed her MBBS. Now they have 4 children.

Answer 2

Well it depends WHY you don't trust him. Is he that kind of person, or are you overthinking the possibilties, therefore making yourself worry (when really there isn't reason to).
I know what you mean though...I worry about things like that a lot, especially with those I am closest to (I can imagine it's tougher for you though). But I also know that I have a history of issues...distrusting relationships. I frequently can worry that if I'm apart, he may find someone better. But that means it's a problem I should work out within myself. Not that I'm saying that this is what you're like...it's just something to think about.

But I can't speak for him, because I don't know anything about him...just what you tell us. Is he a good man? I know it's a very vague term...but sometimes i can just feel it when he has enough integrity to not give into temptation like that.

Personally, I would wait many years for the one I love. And I know that even though I don't trust others, I would never go after someone else just because I'm apart from him.

Is this trip a sudden decision? Why is he going there to study?
I hope my personal life isn't making my answer too biased.
I think you should be able to talk to him and express why you're worried. Think about the reasons you are worried. I would hope he would be understanding, AND willing to respond. Know what he's thinking, and also...he should know what you are thinking. Basically. It's up to you to decide. It's a very hard thing to say so easily.

Answer 3

Three years is short, i suggest you to wait for him. Is it okay to wait for someone you know will be there too and wants to be with you again.. Talk to him and let him know that you have worries that he's the only one make your worries let go of your system. Just remember that if he really loves you, he will be back to you no matter what happens. Love always have its own way for the two of you to be together again someday. Think positive. Good luck!

Answer 4

Three years is just a drop of a bucket. If you love him, you two will work it out. Sounds if he is going to be busy, and you have the child to keep you busy. 3 Years really is not long, it will go by before you no it.
Good luck!

Answer 5

i think that you must wait him because 3 years is not too much for the love that you have.i was waiting for my husband for 4years while he went to IRAK,and our love was much stronger after,so i say that you shall wait him..Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!