How Long Can You Live A Nice Sane Life Trying To Deny The Fact(even to yourself)That You're Only Attracted To

Question

The Wrong (same) Gender?

Answer 1

How long can you live your life convinced that being attracted to the same gender is wrong? Hi, ever heard of the APA? They announced back in the EARLY SEVENTIES that your bigotry is unsupported and basically totally baseless. Guess you missed the memo.

Answer 2

Who says it is the wrong gender if it is the same, if there was less intolerance in the world from blinkered bigots then the world would be a much nicer place, hey gay, straight, asexual, who cares, just go for what you want to enjoy.

If you try to deny you will have a very unhappy life, never realising your true sexual vocation and always looking for something you are denying yourself having, be like you are on a diet, not having all the food you really enjoy but for no reason because you don't need the diet, but you are just eating the same food but it is food you don't even like.

If you think you are gay then at least explore the area so you can know for sure, if you know you are gay, then be gay, be happy and be proud!

Answer 3

First off it is not the "wrong" gender, at the end of the day you can never be happy unless you are true to yourself!! If you are gay, be gay, don't worry about what others think, it has nothing to do with them, it's your life, live it the way that you want and the way that makes you happy, if you go around trying to make other people happy in life and not wanting to upset them yada yada yada you will never be happy in your own skin because you are living a lie for the benefit of others, just relax, be yourself and f*ck everyone else, if it your family you are worried about, don't, yeah it will be a major shock to them but they will get over it because they love you and at the end of the day all they want is your happiness too and half the time people know anyway especially mums and dad's and they may just say oh yeah i've been waiting for you to tell me that for years!!!

Oh and can i just say to the rationalist, you need to get a life you moron, you are a small minded biggot, i cannot believe people like you still exist in this day and age! Grow up!!!

Answer 4

I know that it can take a very long time to accept who you are so ultimately the decision rests with you. There are, of course, those out there that spend their entire lives trying to live a "Nice Sane Life," fighting against their natural attractions but i think if you deny a natural craving long enough you snap. If you really think about it...How nice is your life? Does it really feel sane pretending to be something your not? Is it something you stress out about daily? Why? Remember your not the first person to have asked themselves this question so your definitely not alone. I tried living a "nice sane life" but in the end i realized life was to short for me to enjoy it as much as i can in the time we are given. No regrets....and i've never looked back;-)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Hi Jason,
Being attracted to someone regardless of gender is natural. As humans we cannot help who we love. You need to experiment. If you find another young man who feels attracted to you, kiss him, and let the evening proceed from there. You'll know if that is right for you. You can try the same experiment with a young lady. Again...you'll know. If you feel sick to your stomach with either one... I would opt for the other. If the evening goes further than kissing, be sure to wear protection. The last thing you need is a baby or a disease. Good Luck...

Answer 7

It depends on the person really.... some people never become "ok" with it to a point where they can allow themselves be who they are. And if you ask those people to think about when they stopped being able to be happy and productive chances are they will tell you it was when they lost all hope
of being able to live a free life as who they are, continuing to be loved and accepted by friend and family ect... and decided not to allow themselves the option of being with a same sex partner for fear of of loseing the love and respect of their friends and family.

people make many sacrifices in the pursuit of happiness.. some more then others... only you know which ones are worth going after and which arnt... I lived in the closet a long time... and trust me when I say... I was a very angry and bitter person to be around... and not only angry twords others... but also twords myself...

Answer 8

Whatever gender you're attracted to is the RIGHT gender. So the sane thing to do is to ADMIT that, and to tell anyone who doesn't like it to take a long walk off a short dock.

Answer 9

Where's the sanity in denying who and what you are? You will never be truly content with your life and you might find that your discontentment will affect those around you.

Don't deny yourself the chance to love, simply because you have it in mind that a same sex relationship is wrong. How can love be wrong?

As for what everyone else may think... those who matter will grow to understand and be reconciled, because you will be happier. Those who desert you cannot have truly been close to you (even family) if they allow themselves to be so affected by your sexual orientation.
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Best Wishes

Answer 10

You probably can live with it until life drops a bombshell (which might not have anything to do with sexual matters) on you and part of your world collapses. Then that secret part of yourself, for some strange reason, starts to assert itself. Most nonheterosexual people (gay or bi) will eventually admit to themselves that they are "different" but a huge number will not confide that fact to others, even those who have the same orientation as themselves. My advice to you is to get to a good counselor and talk this over with him or her, or even open up a little more here, in this anonymous venue.