Do u know a Good BOOK on BABY ?. How to get them into a routine, play with baby, sleeping, crying ...?

Question

Does anyone know a GOOD BOOK on how to deal with your few months old baby?

I am interested in how to get them into a routine, if/when play with them, sleeping, feeding, crying ...

Answer 1

The best I read (and I read a lot!!!!) was The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg. It was down to earth, good old fashioned values, baby led rather than whats best for you, didn't advocate leaving your baby to cry and I used her advice and had my wee boy sleeping through the night at 4 weeks!

Get it - its the best I promise!

Her ideas are flexible and not regimented or anything. The main principle is

E - eat
A - activity
S - sleep
Y - you time

It applies from day one and my son is 8 months old and still on his routine but its adaptable and easy!

The Contented Little baby is guff, as someone saif she isn't even a mother and expects you to leave your baby crying!

Answer 2

The best information and advice you can ever have is other parents. Particulary those with more than one child. When in doubt ask your family as well.

My husband read all sorts of books withour first. I didnt bother.
He noticed that the tenede to contridict each other and often the ones who wrote them had no children of the own. Case studies are all well and good but practical knowledge is best. I am not saying that there are some books that are not good, or have good advice or that every parent is an expert.
But that knowledge from many sources is a good idea.

I have 2 boys and a baby on the way.
There are 13 siblings in my family.
I have 34 first cousins and 19 neices and nephews.

Routines are good. But for the first few months I suggest letting them grow first. If breastfeeding especially there wont be set time for things at first but gradually the feeding sessions should even out. Sleep when baby sleeps. It stops you from being exhusted. Your baby wont want to be able to set a regular feeding and sleeping reigime in the first few months and to force one is not good for their emotional security. With feeding its better in the first month or two to let baby eat when the hungry until they are full. Don't time the feeds or regulate the amounts. Its no good if your baby is hungry all the time. Be close to your baby pysically as well as emtionally. They like to hear your heartbeat...it rminds them of the comfort and security of the womb. It will also bring them closer to you.

Babys are not machines or pets. When they are able to be more aware of there surroundings and can eat solids will be easier to create set routines.
Oh and you CANNOT make them cry in a routine. Think about it. Its how a baby communicates with about what they need.

Answer 3

Hi,
I think you need to be really careful when looking for books on parenting. I had THE NEW CONTENTED LITTLE BABY BOOK by GINA FORD and thought it was great to start with as it told you step by step and hour by hour when to feed and let your baby sleep. The downside of the book is that it can make you obsessive about the routine and you can get lost in it and forget to enjoy your baby or to trust your own instincts which is soooo important. Thats why I stuck the book up on Ebay x

Answer 4

Unfortunately the only person that knows that is the baby. Understand his/her routine guess what he/she wants and go on from there.

With my two I just made myself a list of things that could possibly go wrong and try each one until I get to the root of the problem. I soon got used to the different types of noises that they made and we`ve been happy ever since.

If you`re still struggling, ask your midwife for any tips or help that she can give.

I started with Changing, if not, extra winding, then playing, after that food and if all that did not work I would put them down for a sleep

Answer 5

Some people recommed Gina Ford's Contented Little Baby Book but I found the ideas too restrictive - e.g. waking your baby up to feed! How ludricous! There are some good suggestions in it but I found that I worked out my own routine, based around sleep times and feed times.

My two children are now in a wonderful routine, which I've stuck to since they were little tiny ones and it works brilliantly for me.

There are plenty of web sites (netmums.co.uk, pampers.co.uk etc) which offer really sensible advice from experts and other parents.

Good luck!

Answer 6

A great, well-known book that's often referred to as "the New Parent's Bible" is "What to Expect the First Year" It's written by nurses and easy to read. It's very informative and extremely helpful. The hospital where I worked used to offer it as a gift ...if the parents didn't want the cheap-o carseat. Sadly, most people opted for that piece of junk. They didn't understand how much more they'd gain from the book, which is actually worth more than the seat.

HAPPY PARENTING!!!

Answer 7

Books are a good place to start but each child has there own pattern you will figure out what times there more active and what times they like to sleep. I hope for your sake you do not end up with a lets get up at 2 am baby ;-)

Answer 8

My favorite book is "The Baby Whisperer". I learned so much about my daughter thanks to this book. The author has also written "The Baby Whisperer-The Toddler Years" which I am reading now. These books are simple and her "method" makes so much sense. She also incorporates other "experts" advice and either agrees with them or puts her own perspective on them.
There is also "What to Expect the First Year". It's a great backup book.

Answer 9

I have four boys and have used What To Expect The First Year and What To Expect The Toddler Years for a long time! I love these books because they answer almost any type of concern along with the basic daily care questions. Please find it and just read through a few pages to see what you thinik.

Answer 10

My favorite (off beat) book was The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance by Louis Borgenicht, Joe Borgenicht, a son and father team who, while they are both doctors, give a quite humorous and educational approach to caring for your new lil one. I like it because its not all techinacal jargon...they talk about your computer like you are maitenancing a car. Would especially be a great book for dads =)