my husband is crazy, he hates me and it started after i borned a baby?

Question

my husband is psychologically ill. few times he tryed to kill himself but he could not. or maybe he was not going to kill only he tryed to scear me. after doing this he was asking to forgive him and was telling that he loves me. but after i borned a baby i fealt that hates me, he hates everything what i am doing or what i am not doing, i am warking but he is not, few times we spoke about divorce but he is saying that he will do everything for to get a baby. i am foreign in this country and scear to divorce not to loose baby. also it became impossible to live with him because we are fighting every day. he is screaming on me when i am doing anything or i am not doing anything or i am earning not enough money or something else. if i did not sceare to loose baby i would be in my country long time ago. i do not know how to protect myself. if anybody was in same position please tell me are this type of people really this much dangerous as they are trying to show?

Answer 1

as he has no job and you do, and if you can go to your country and get job there, i think it would be easy to get kid for you, as long as he has not job, his chances for getting a kid are very low, aslo you did not tell from what country you are, but if you need free law help you can visit Citizen Advice Bureau

if he hits you or gets drunk, you can always call police right away, also if you have any medical prove or from police that he tried to commit suicide he will not get any permission for get the kid, and every court will let you divorcie him , as safty of kid, and your is in danger.

Answer 2

It sounds like you screwed up. You brought a baby into the world in this situation, which is a mean thing to do to a baby.

You need to make the best of the situation. You should divorce this man, and ask for the child to be put up for adoption. Your baby deserves two parents that can care and love you baby, and you should give your baby the gift of adoption.

It seems that you are not in this country (I guess the US) legally. You need to return home, so that you are protected by your own countries rights. Bad things happen when you are here without the law on your side. It's too bad that these bad things are visited on your child, too.

Answer 3

You do not say which country you are in, so the answers you receive may not at all apply. In the US, if the child was born in the country and at least one of you is a permanent resident, the child most likely has the rights to citizenship. If you have been in the country for a number of years, you have the right to apply for permanent residence and/or citizenship. Look at the rules at the immigration offices websites.In many cities there are women centers or shelters. I suggest you also keep a diary of everything. I suggest you go the local church and ask for help. And observe that if there has been case of violence, you must report it to the police. in the report you can state that you feel threatened of loosing the child.

Answer 4

you need to think about what this abuse is doing to you, and the baby. The baby can feel your feelings and is probably as scared as you are. your husband needs mental help. you need to get out of the situation. just ask yourself, what is better. staying in this situation and letting it effect you and your child for the rest of your life. Or, taking your baby and going somewhere safe for both of you. his yelling can lead to physical abuse, to both of you. if you are working and he is not, why do you think that he will get the baby in a divorce? he has no way to take care of the baby, you have a job and are taking care of all of you. You need to make sure that if you are going to get a divorce, you file the papers, and keep your son. Just because you are not from here does not mean that you are not capable of taking care of your child. If you want a divorce, make him leave your home. try and have a friend their with you in case something happens.

Answer 5

Okay...this is what you need to ask yourself: Are you willing to put up with him for 7 years to get you citizenship in the USA.

If not...move back home and try again. Girl, I feel for you.

Either try to get another man......or just move back.

Nothing else to it.

I love the ppl who try to move here. But sometimes its not worth the hassle....

You either live with it or move on to someone different, or just move back, hopeing for a good life.

Don't keep a man b/c of a baby. Don't torment your baby with foul parenthood. Your "its" mother. That is all its need.

Good luck, and I hope you make the best decision.

Answer 6

"Barking dogs never bite" is a time tested saying, if you can comprehend in its fullest magnitude. Moreover, you should try ensure to have a routine as was prior to birth of the baby, in a manner that the baby is not at all of any consequence for maintaining your relation between you both, as he desires! Passage of time could make him to accept the baby and all other unnatural behaviours under control accordingly. Confrontation is not a desired remedy.

Answer 7

this is a really serious issue and i don't feel that asking people you don't know online is good for something like this. i don't want to give you marriage advice but i suggest you read what you wrote again before reading anyone else's responses. To the level this seems like it has rose to I think you need to ask your family, friends,. and yourself. Your baby is a legal issue and can't be resolved here unless there has been abuse.

Answer 8

You never mentioned if you love him or not. So, if you do care for him then have him see a doctor. His mood swings could be due to some hormonal imbalance or he could be going through a depression. If it has gone beyond that, for the safety of yourself and your child, you should leave him and see a divorce.

Answer 9

well in this factor the baby being born in usa gives you parental rights to raise the child here atleast till hes eighteen.but i would consult your local human resources and get the facts down straight in the mean time try applying for your own citizenship.you do not have to stay with him tho.

Answer 10

If there are women's shelters in your area which help abused women and their children, you need to enter one right away. Your life and the life of your child depend on it. There is no way you can survive in your current situation. May God bless you and your baby. I will be praying for all of you.