If you only made love to your wife maybe 4-5 times a year due to GOD knows what mostly her refusals, do you think it is ok to cheat on her.The marriage is Beyond a crisis point. Heres my dilemma I don't believe in divorce, and as a matter of fact I really don't believe in cheating BUT a man has certain needs if You get my drift!! SO what is a man to do to cheat or not to cheat that is the question? the truth is DIVORCE is not an option so please help me out on this one thank you
2006-08-08 20:45:52 · 15 answers · asked by HENNY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce may not be an option but COMMUNICATION with your partner is ALWAYS an option. Let her know that her cold fish ways are causing you to want to seek out sex from another source. A good healthy sex life is important in a marriage. You need to find out why she doesn't want sex....that is odd. I don't know how old you are but sometimes age is a factor, maybe SHE's cheating, sex may be painful to her, or ....maybe you don't satisfy her so she doesn't really desire sex from you. If you don't get her off during sex then she has no reason to want it. You should get that book The G-spot and Female Ejaculation by Deborah Sundahl and suggest to your wife that you two practice making her squirt when she orgasms. or you could buy some new toys or lingerie for the bedroom. Trying new things can be pretty exciting if you two have fallen into a boring sexual routine. Kama Sutra books or a book called the Sexopedia are great for the bedroom too. Try any book by Anne Hooper. Don't cheat...it doesn't solve anything. You will get TEMPORARY gratification but will have PERMENANTLY tainted your marriage by committing adultery. Cheating is just a dispicable behavior and trust me, it's hard to conceal cheating for very long....she WILL eventually find out.....and once you get caught she may leave you...could you handle that? A person's instincts will alert them to a cheating partner in due time so don't think you will get away with it.
2006-08-08 21:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same beliefs as u do, and before i got married I use to strongly believe that cheating is so wrong, until i got married and had the same situation u are talking about. Even though i never cheated on her, i also didn't have anymore sympathies to women who do that to their husbands and the husbands end up cheating. Sometimes they forget that it's part of marriage. Women have so many requirements for men, and men try to keep most, if not all. but man has 2 requirements (more sex, and beer) and some even just have 1 (sex), but they don't get it. And when they find someone who wants to do the wife's job for her, the wife complains that he's cheating. And women, don't say we can talk, because we do and u do shIIt about it.
How much do u wanna bet that if women stopped treating sex like a damn chore and started giving their husbands what they want, their men will be happy to come home almost all the time, and it will dramtically decrease the cheating curb?
2006-08-08 21:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why she is refusing you. Perhaps there is a medical reason. Perhaps she isn't getting what SHE needs out of the relationship. Sometimes it can be really difficult to talk about this kind of thing with your spouse for a myriad of different reasons and I know that sometimes it is more difficult for women than for men. Tell her how you are feeling. Tell her, without blame, that you have thought about cheating but you don't know what to do. Express to her how grave the situation is without giving ultimatums or casting blame. And no, cheating is never ok. Why would it be ok to cheat, lie and betray, but not ok to divorce? Good luck.
2006-08-08 21:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by ~*~Lynda~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got married you took a vow and you signed a contract. Cheating on your wife breaks that contract. If you don't REALLY believe in cheating then you wouldn't be asking about it. I'm not going to help you cheat on your marriage let alone your wife.
2006-08-08 20:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this puts you in a bit of a spot... you don't believe in divorce, but don't you think if your wife finds out you've cheated, she'd divorce you anyways? talk to her, and tell her your thoughts. be totally honest, even of your thoughts of cheating ~ who knows, maybe she may be ok with that, sort of like an "open" marriage or something? stranger things have happened.
2006-08-08 20:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how tangled a web we may weave it can always be undone. Relationships should be open and able to express eachs needs and when those are not getting met..... cheating or divorce is inevetable! Try and talk if possible if not lay down the law!
2006-08-08 20:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by unhappilymarried420+ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you gotten to the bottom of why she doesn't like to participate more often? This is something you need to know. Cheating is wrong but you have to communicate with your wife and tell her that you have needs. She needs to understand this. It is not fair to you as well.
2006-08-08 21:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. There may be a way to meet your needs without cheating. For a while, when we were not synchronizing our sexual desires well, my husband and I got along by touching each other just on shoulder while the other masturbated.
2006-08-08 20:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is NOT a moral dilemma...I think you know that already...I don't understand how you can justify cheating and not divorce...why would one be an option and not the other?
2006-08-08 20:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to Cheat
2006-08-08 20:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋