I'm 20 (nearly 21) years old, and beginning my senior year in college. With all the moving back from an out of state college to where I grew up for the summer it has made it very difficult to find many solid or lasting friendships. I'm realizing at this moment, besides my family, I have very few people I can call to hang out with or talk to. It's depressing to me, a lot of times i'm too busy to care, but I don't think it's normal for me to be both single and without many friendships. I am quite convinced I am a normal twenty-something, but I'm afraid i'm going to spend a great deal of my life lonely.
2006-08-08 20:21:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
don't worry about it. you have your whole life ahead of ya. you'll make many friends along the way. good luck, Val :)
2006-08-08 20:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are moving around and don't plan to spend a lot of time where you are you may not be ready to make long term friendships. Start with groups with which you have some things in common. If those aren't available you may just want to look for someone who you can talk with, share a coffee with or go to a ball game with. And don't limit yourself to people who are just 20. Older people can make great friends.
You will go through periods when it seems like you don't have a lot of personal contacts. But you will get as good as you give. By even weighing these feelings, it sounds like you have a lot to offer.
2006-08-09 03:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out more...once you hit 21 go to clubs, bars, any place where people hang out. A little bit of alcohol will loosen you up and you can end up meeting some potential friends. Hang out with them and if you feel a good vibe, get a number at the end. Give a call the next time you go to the bar/club and meet up with them a few times...from there you can most probably develop a friendship and hang out elsewhere. Eventually you will meet his/her friends and start building up your phonebook.
2006-08-09 03:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of these days kiddo you are going to wish you were alone!Right now you need to concentrate on your studies, friends will come along soon enough when you get out in the workplace.Are you picky about who you want to make friends with?Friends can come from surprising places.How about taking on a part time job?I've met most of my friends from places I worked at.When I was a waitress I made friends with both the customers and my co-workers.I was also a bartender.Now that's a job the will get you friends!And the chicks dig male bartenders!How about the gym or rec center?You have to make the effort,people are not(there's a few!I've been fooled before)going to just offer their friendship.People get in cliques and they are hard to break .Don't be put off by that. There's someone out there just like you, waiting for someone like you,a guy just looking for someone to hang out with,you just need to cross paths.Good Luck!
2006-08-09 03:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by homey_girl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be normal for you to lonely in your situation. Just get out there and get involved in the community. What are you studying in college. With only one year left start working on getting yourself in that kind of environment. Find a church with lots of people your age to visit. Sporting events, whatever. to have a friend you have to be friendly.
Kathy
2006-08-09 03:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by c2god2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, yaar everyone is alone in this world. people r ther only when u r happy, but not at times when u need them .you can surf through various web sites & make friends nowdays there r a lot of sites 2 make friends. u need 2 just believe in yourself ok. u can make me you friend if u want i'll be there 2 solve you problems as a friend. whenever u need me just tellme!!
2006-08-09 03:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by simble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ur bein terribly fair to urself, the only problem is ur busy jus make sum time 4 urself aside from work and school, join sum clubs and go to parties u'll be sure to meet alot of ppl, all u need is "me time"
2006-08-09 03:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and be yourself. and be outgoing. go find a group, join them, show them the real you and if they still dont want to hang out with you than they not good friend and yeah same with the girlfriend thing
2006-08-09 03:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sierra and Bailey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28 and still alone, you must go out and make new friends. it's not worth being alone
2006-08-09 03:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by bekkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a reason, I dont.. Sometimes its better to be alone, I have enough experience to know that.
2006-08-09 03:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋