So.. This is a difficult subject.. But I think its a really good one as well..?

Question

I live in Bryan-College Station.. The ethnicity population or whatever here is very mixed.. I mean everyone from around the world can be found here.. I am highly sure.. But there is always some kind of black-white drama and I am going so f'ing crazy! I am not racist.. I am FAR from it.. Which was hard to grow up with, My dad had friends who were out of the caucasion ethnicity but he was very racial, espessially if I was to be dating, he thinks it is immoral to date out of your ethnicity and to me its not about that.. I dated a guy who was white.. We dated for a year before I found out his mom was actually black, and my dad liked him.. Once he found out the truth I was demanded to call it off or he would. Well anyways, why does color matter? and my biggest question is why is it my fault slavery happened? Why is it my fault my ancestors caused what they did?

I regret what they did, but what can I do to change it? What can I do to say to the racial to make them see past skin color? Nothing at all... I am bringing this up because for example which I have many of them.. I was riding the public bus and the driver was a more then anything nice black man, I was really friendly towards him, and I tried so many nice friendly convo's but everytime I was rejected as "racial" or "I needed to seek help for being white" Because all in all he was a older man, maybe was part of being in slavery, he always treated me harsh, a few times he would pass me up when trying to catch the bus.

I mean, I know there are still rude white people, but I am not one of them and it doesnt matter how hard I try, or what I do to prove it, I am still bad in a lot of opinions for being born what I was.. Sometimes I feel bad for being white, sometimes I wish I could change it, but in the end.. I am who I am, and I can only try to be friends with everyone.. I dont see color, I see smiles, eyes, friendship, hurt, things that matter.. I am just so tired of this racial crap.. I want everyone to just get the hell along, and I want to apologize to anyone who will take my apology to the black community for what has happened in the past.. and to say not everyone is like that! I am also sorry if any of this has offended anyone.. I am trying to be straight forward and honest.. I would also like everyone else here too be as well.. If you are against interracial relationship/marriages/friendship.. so on.. Please explain why..

I didnt know what subject this would go under so seeing as I want friends no matter race, i put it here

Answer 1

There is a difference between remembering and learning from the past, and harping and whining about the past. At the risk of sounding insensitive, many blacks continually erect the whole issue of slavery in order to instill guilt in a society for its past wrongs, solely for the benefit of exploiting that society, and also excusing themselves for their own shortcomings. Many times when a black person doesn’t get the career that they want, desired position at a university, or the scholarship they desire, some advocacy group blames it on discrimination and racism, without even assessing whether that person, who was contending for those aforementioned things, really had the merits to qualify for what they were vying for. Their response is more reactionary than reasonable.

Many groups, surprisingly to this day, like to attribute the lower socioeconomic status of blacks, the high solvency of their families, the large incarceration rate of their men, their rampant illegitimacy problem, and a host of other maladies to the issue of slavery, without looking deeper into the inherent flaws within the culture itself. Much of what has set African Americans behind other races is not coming from the enemy without, but starts with the enemy from within. As much as blacks pay lip service to hard work, family values, Christian morality, and determination, when they see one of their members excel in the area of academics, or legitimately in the area of business, immediately the term “sellout” is invoked to describe them. A whole host of denigrating terms is used to describe these intrepid few, and all those insults imply in some fashion that they are abandoning their culture for success.

The African American culture more than any other culture that I have observed relishes in being the victim, indeed many times it can be called a culture of victim hood. They act as if they are the only ones who have been subjugated, discriminated against, and treated inequitably throughout history.

If blacks can attribute their lowly station in life to past injustices, how much more so can the Jews, who just as recently as 60 to 70 years ago were systematically slaughtered in the millions; who in almost every era have been living in exile from their homeland, ostracized in every foreign land they lived in, enslaved by numerous despots, and till this day are vilified by groups that far out number them and seek to destroy them. If anyone has a right to have a chip on their shoulder and decry the unfairness of the world it is the Jews - more so than the blacks. Yet do they allow the past evils that they were subjected to, or the current global acrimony that they face, to deter them from being successful? No. Jews make up the top doctors, scientists, inventors, engineers, businessmen, philosophers, entertainers and political leaders of the world, and they have done it all without special concessions like affirmative action. They have surmounted seemingly impossible setbacks to stand head and shoulders above the forces that seek to destroy them. You don’t see them lament ad nauseam about how they were wronged in the past. They don’t seek to have a month set aside to acknowledge prejudices they have overcome and accomplishments they have achieved; though as a small group they have accomplished more so than a much larger black community.

How odd is it that such a tiny group as the Jewish people can attain so much and contribute so greatly to the betterment of mankind, despite the horrors they have been put through, but the much larger black population has done proportionally much less. Sure there are many black people who have succeeded in the above areas that I have mentioned, and they should be lauded as beacons of hope. They should be emulated. Yet, for some reason most of the black community does not follow in step. Instead, we hear about how they are downtrodden, and treated like scum, and it is the white man’s fault that they are in the predicament they are in, and therefore they are owed something.

I can give numerous example of many ethnicities, aside from the Jews, who have been oppressed in one form or another, and how they have risen above that oppression to be something better. Their plight was no less harsh than that of blacks historically. So what is really at the root of the black population’s underachievement in the professional, academic, and social arenas? Ultimately, it comes down to their own vilification of success as losing ones identity, and in essence equating success with assimilating to a slave master’s ideal. Until they get over the sins of the past, they will never have a bright future.

Answer 2

girl what are you apologizing 4 it wasn't you regardless of what happened back than you were no part of it and you can not change it as much as you may want to you haveto realize that and so does alot of other people some people have their ways and theres no changing that all you can do is stay open minded as to what goes on in the world i like everybody i dont care what you are but please dont feel like you haveto be nice to every black person that passes by just speak smile or whatever just like you were not in the time when all that was going on they weren't either ok here goes your answers color does not matter its people that make it that way if everyone were the same color they'd just find something else to complain about got me its not your fault it happened you weren't there and last its not your fault

Answer 3

You should never appologize for feeling the way you do nor should you be sorry for anything that wasn't your fault there is alot of hate out there but you did nothing wrong. And don't be sorry for saying whats on your mind. As far as interacial dating I don't see anything wrong with it. If the person makes you happy then by all means. I commend you for your thoughts alot of people can learn from you.

Answer 4

Racism and bigotry is still very present in our society. When we recognize our faults and try to change, we make ourselves a better person.

Answer 5

These issues will never go away don't worry yourself with them. Just continue to be an open minded person.