Oh well it happened the other day, my man started playing some game on the internet where you can play with others from around the world. I noticed that then he added some chicks name to his list. I was curious due to my depression i get jealous at the smallest things like a nice girl walking past., i kept hovering over his shoulder and he told me if he was gonna cheat on me would it be infront of me..So i sat down, then i noticed that hed asked her for a pic which i confronted him abt and he said that it wasnt for him but for another person.He told me i was wrong for not having trust in him.still didnt believe him so the next day when he was at work i checked the history of their mesages it was for him, he had also made a comment about do you want "to play with me". i broke down. is this cheating ive confronted him abt it and he said he didnt think id find outwe just got married and have an 8 month old ..what should i do, coz i feel like he doesnt want to be with me.!!
2006-08-08 19:41:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men do things like cheat or flirt, just for something different. It has nothing to do with the woman they are with. Your husband still wants to be with you and is not going anywhere. He is letting you into what he is doing to that you will feel more secure that he is not going anywhere. His actions are not showing you that he wants a divorce are they? Ask him how he feels about you and you will get his honest answer.
2006-08-09 01:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
***I revised my answer, please re-read***
If he was just talking about playing the video game, then that question would be completly innocent. I can't see why he would need her picture, though.
Tell him that you are not interested in sharing him with any other women. If he had planned on 'playing' with other women even after getting married, then he should have asked if you liked 'open' marriages, before tying the knot. Since you obviously are not cool with that, then definitely call him on it. Chatting with people of the opposite sex online can be fine. But IF he is flirting and joking about cheating with them, or trying to hide his conversations, then he is not truly committed to your marraige.
You need to try to have a serious, calm discussion with him, and find out how he really feels. If he loves you and honestly is only talking to this girl because they are playing a game online, then you need to trust him, unless he gives you a reason not to. Tell him that knowing that he is flirting with other women makes you feel betrayed and you will not accept this behavior. Tell him that you also expect an appology and reassurance. Try not to be too confrontational if possible, this will help, even though it is hard.
If he accuses you of just being jealous, then you can agree, saying that you felt you had a reason to be, but that you will try to not to jump to concusions in the future.
I hope you two can work this out, not only for your sake but for your baby's.
And I hope your depression gets better soon. I had post partum depression for several months after having my son and it was very difficult. Take care! :)
2006-08-08 19:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by kikisdragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds horrible. I'd tell him that you cought him,you don't want him to play games with anyone else(these internet games) because it is hurting you and your relationship.if it's too hard for him to stop then he's not that into you. And tell him you want to be the girl he's flirting with.Make your self look cuter,flirt with him too. Girl, he's your man,he married you and let him know that it's only worth talking about cause your'e a family!
2006-08-08 19:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disconnect the tower, go to a tall building and toss it, make sure no one is below. When he gets home, tell him what you did, and tell him he's next if he don't straighten up.
2006-08-08 20:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so that was all he said...he didn't think you'd find out?...that was it?...You do have a problem with jealousy...BUT...I can see why your like that living with someone like he is....I understand having a baby is hard...especially when your on your own...which is what I would be, if I was you right now...on my own!...why be with someone who you can't trust...you'll always be wondering what he's up to....do you want to live like that?...I LOVE what fordkiller said...good advise that!!
2006-08-08 20:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, something is mentally messed up in your head.
as a sidenote, you should have never married him and never had a kid with him
2006-08-08 19:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋