I decided to post this in Marriage and Divorce because I figure there are a lot of people who would have good advice about making the best decision in a relationship... For 2 years, I was friends with a guy in Dublin over the internet. A while back, he "introduced" me to his roommate, and we are crazy about each other. He's visiting this Fall for the first time, and I have never been so excited. However, I know my family would never approve of the relationship, simply because it began online. But I know my feelings are real; I have never felt so strongly about someone. I just don't know if I should pursue happiness with someone I adore, or cater to my family's wishes and settle for less. On the one hand, I'm with him, but my family is severely disappointed.... while on the other hand, I'm miserable without him but pleasing the people who raised me. What should I do?
2006-08-08 19:36:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hi there you and i have something in common,thats where i meet the love of my love and alot of people where against them ,but to be honest ,i refused to listen to them we are now engaged and we will be getting married ,regardless to what any of the family think the way i look at it ,yes they raised me but the dont have the legal ties to rule my life ,life is a really short road and if you have found true love and happiness then go for it girl i did and its the best thing ever we dont argue or fight we do have different views but we are so good together,youre family will get over it and there problem is more likely that they dont know him ,when they see how happy you both are then they should sort them selves out but if not then i say that there problem and not youres and tell them that you deserve some happiness ,good luck with you future together i hope you go for it take care xx
2006-08-08 19:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your family really cares for u they will understand, and love seeing u happy...Alot of times parents dont approve of your realtionship or how u met someone but its ur life and u deserve to be happy.. Most of the time family is disappointed at first but come around after they met them or see how happy they make u..
I WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK
2006-08-09 02:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by *tattooe chick*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and you deserve to have a happy one. Don't live for other people, live for yourself. Your family should respect you and be there for you no matter what the circumstances!!! And if they don't, then at least you have a good one to turn too! Just make sure they feel the same way before you make your family mad! That way you won't lose everything at once. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 02:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you first and foremost...I'm sure that your family will come to once they see how happy you are together. Another thing you might consider unless you've already spilled the beans to them is not tell them exactly how you met each other...tell them he's a foriegn exchange student you met in college/high school...or come up with a cute little story...like how you met him at a church outing...i mean this would be considered a white lie...just listen to you heart...it whispers so listen closely.
2006-08-09 02:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by lanceh13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The family aren't the ones in this relationship and if you both love each other, do what you need to do to be together. DON'T NOT be together because of them. they are not in this relationship you both are, and you two should be happy. They'll get over it, it may take years, but at least you won't have to worry about your family butting into your business, right off the bat.
2006-08-09 02:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family loves you then they should want you to be happy. Don't settle for less, you'll always regret it.
2006-08-09 02:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually i think your family would grow to accept him, if not then i really don't know what to tell you, but i think they would come around
2006-08-09 02:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life. You have to decide it. As long as there is no REGRETS in your life.
2006-08-09 03:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋