I am 24 years old, married for 2 years and have 2 children. I have been together with my husband for over 9 years and I just have no desire to have sex. He is still very attractive to me, I just hate my body and feel totally unsexy. For some reason, sex is kind of gross to me?!?! I am constantly pushing my husband away, even though I feel bad.
P.S.- I have only climaxed once in my life from sex.
2006-08-08 19:04:24 · 9 answers · asked by oxosasoxo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
spice it up at bit. try new things .learn to love your body so then he can love it too. go to victoria secret or something. change ur style up a bit. dont let it die. keep the spice..theres got to be a reason u guys have been married for soo long!
2006-08-08 19:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Paola! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married 14 years and im am only 30 and i have 4 kids .
the answer is that for some reason you don't feel that you look good and getting other peoples approval don't work, it brings up your emotional side to a plus yes but it is you that has to realize that you still look good and for being married 9 years you must not be as bad as you think and you might have a better time giving yourself a climax than he would just from experience.you have to know what your body likes before you can ask him to do it.
2006-08-08 19:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by skulllivin2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get in touch with your own body, literally. Your very poor record regarding orgasm means there is no incentive to have sex with your husband. Sex is all about conditioning. Orgasm is what makes the conditioning work.
Find some alone time, and learn to masturbate to orgasm. It may take a while, maybe a vibrator to begin with, maybe a glass of wine to relax you enough. But you need to learn what it takes to get you there.
After a few months of this, you will have some knowledge and some learned pathways in your brain. Then you can show your husband what to do. He can start using the same techniques you use to get yourself off. That will connect with those learned pathways in your brain. Then gradually, he can start to add things he likes. That will add more conditioning, etc. Eventually, you will reach a state where all sexual activity can lead to orgasm.
2006-08-08 19:17:07 · answer #3 · answered by pondering_it_all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may happen in life because of many reasons. May b ur husband is not inovative thats he is not trying something new or make love in difeerent ways. n as u said u had climax just for once in live so that can b another reason. anyways u can msg me n i can let u feel something good. msg me at hanishmittal@yahoo.com
2006-08-08 19:13:17 · answer #4 · answered by bestguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been with him for 9 years total married 2...YOU have 2 kids but never had it? I'm confused? Anyway just tell him the truth about the way you feel and like idk how to be sexxy again but ya try to be more like you know anywayyss sorry thats all I got..sry but its my best! Well your still young 24 sooo? Life goes on..
2006-08-10 12:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by SOCCER4LIFE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only climaxed once in your life? Does your husband know what or how to make love to you??????? It might not be your fault at all.
2006-08-08 19:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by ky_wild_cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...there's your problem. Get your husband to eat your pussy until you *** at least 4 times. Until you climax you won't like sex. God, what kinda guys you been with?
2006-08-08 19:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please. dont tell me ur not sexy. everybody is sexy. sex isnt just about the body. u and ur husban love eachother. love=sex
2006-08-08 19:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by andrew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-09 00:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋