We recently lost our dad. Mom sold the old house and moved into a new smaller home sense the old one reminded her too much of dad. Im currently staying with mom helping her out and taking care of my granny who is blind , cant walk and has dementia.
We also have my brother and his wife and child living with us.They live in the basement. My sister in law claims that she is severely ill, she stoped going to her courses( which i dont mind its her thing). What doesnt sit well with me is that she claims that she is ill and then as soon as my brother leaves for work she runs upstairs in the kitchen, make a huge mess and then spends her entire day on the phone. I also notcied things belonging to mom dissapearing in the kitchen. Mom's casseroles, utensiles, my glasses and plates. I had to buy a whole set so i dont get to loose my stuff.
I made the dishes last night , magically both sinks are dirty full of pots and plates and utensiles.What the heck is her problem!?!?
2006-08-08 18:50:45 · 8 answers · asked by liipl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its at the point where mom no longer feels comfortable at home. I myself will move out of there as soon as humanly possible.
My sister in law also talks behind everyone's back( family members on both mom and dad's side) constantly.SHe even critisized dad.. its hadent even been a month he was barried!?!/ Tells mom that grandpa( mom's dad) dont like her. Told my granny that her hubby hates her, like what is the point she is old, can t walk , cant see.What is the point attacking her!?!?
No oneever did anything to my sister in law , we all welcomed her int he family and her mouth worked with a quickness that i have never seen. She even goes as far as saying to mom that her and my brother it will never work. Why say that to mom. she has enought to deal with.
So far i keep my distance from her but remain the same with my bro. I never talk about this or anything. But someone please explain why she is behaving like this?
*My granny cant see nor walk. She cant make it to the kitchen
2006-08-08 18:52:11 · update #1
i am sorry to say this but your sis in law is a biatch and maybe my approach isn't the best, i'd def confront her... she is not a good person at heart and if you just ignore the problem like this she will soon be walking all over you and your mom...
2006-08-08 18:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by rei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is simply a lazy bump who want to live off your brother. She is saying all the evil things about your family to others so that should anything happens she will always be the angel and put your family in a bad light.
Its difficult to fight her words against her words. Fix a CCTV, at least you have evidence on her behaviour and show it to your brother. Keep the CCTV on for at least 5 days before you reveal it to your brother.
That will shame her enough to move out of the house. You seems like a sensible child and you should stay with your family during the mourning period.
2006-08-08 18:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord what a douche bag your sister in law is. It sounds to me like too many people are taking advantage of your Mom. With her just losing your Dad she is very vulnerable and just doesnt want to deal with it nor should she have to. Your sister in law is a lazy, good for nothing mooch. Is there any way you can talk to your brother about it???? Do you have a video recorder, if so take some film of what she does all day, even if you have to go rent one. Good luck and sorry about your loss.
2006-08-08 18:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i think the girl is lazy and is backstabbing all of you and your brother and she is making your brother feel sorry for her. if i were you i would have a chat with your brother about what goes on after he goes to work and let him handle it and then if this doesnt get results i would go to your mom and then if this doesnt work move out and explain to your mom why you are and maybe she can come to an agreement with you sister in law and then you can move back in or go over there during the day to help out
2006-08-08 19:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to have your mother have a heart to heart talk with your brother. She needs to tell him that it's time they get their own place. Your mom needs to get that woman out of her house! Maybe once your brother lives alone with this woman, he will notice what a slob she is. She won't be able to lie about who made the messes if they are the only 2 living there.
Sounds like she has psychological issues and maybe she's a pathological liar.
Good luck, get her out!!!!
2006-08-08 18:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by oxosasoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to have a talk with your brother and let him know what's going on. if he believes u he will do what he can to change it. if he doesn't believe u chances are he will move his wife out of there anyway so that nobody is uncomfortable. either way problem gets solved. also remember he is the one who chose her so it is actually his problem to solve. very sorry to hear about your father. it's really difficult when u lose a parent. remember to be supportive of mom but help her to stand on her own two feet. u have to take care of yourself also. my prayers are with your family.
2006-08-08 19:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not asked your brother to have house of their own....life is so difficult to stay with a person like that...it's normal....but if you like you can ask your mom to confront your sister-in-laws misbehaviour...if nothing happens it's either them or you, your mom and granny that needs to look and transfer to a new house. Goodluck and God Bless!!!
2006-08-08 19:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the best for u..
I wish.. everything will be fine for u, and your family..
cheerss....
2006-08-08 19:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by LuTcU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋