Why is my sister in law behaving like this? What is her problem?

Question

We recently lost our dad. Mom sold the old house and moved into a new smaller home sense the old one reminded her too much of dad. Im currently staying with mom helping her out and taking care of my granny who is blind , cant walk and has dementia.

We also have my brother and his wife and child living with us.They live in the basement. My sister in law claims that she is severely ill, she stoped going to her courses( which i dont mind its her thing). What doesnt sit well with me is that she claims that she is ill and then as soon as my brother leaves for work she runs upstairs in the kitchen, make a huge mess and then spends her entire day on the phone. I also notcied things belonging to mom dissapearing in the kitchen. Mom's casseroles, utensiles, my glasses and plates. I had to buy a whole set so i dont get to loose my stuff.

I made the dishes last night , magically both sinks are dirty full of pots and plates and utensiles.What the heck is her problem!?!?

Its at the point where mom no longer feels comfortable at home. I myself will move out of there as soon as humanly possible.

My sister in law also talks behind everyone's back( family members on both mom and dad's side) constantly.SHe even critisized dad.. its hadent even been a month he was barried!?!/ Tells mom that grandpa( mom's dad) dont like her. Told my granny that her hubby hates her, like what is the point she is old, can t walk , cant see.What is the point attacking her!?!?

No oneever did anything to my sister in law , we all welcomed her int he family and her mouth worked with a quickness that i have never seen. She even goes as far as saying to mom that her and my brother it will never work. Why say that to mom. she has enought to deal with.

So far i keep my distance from her but remain the same with my bro. I never talk about this or anything. But someone please explain why she is behaving like this?

My granny cant walk nor see. so she cant make it the kicthen at all.

Answer 1

She's lazy, a liar, and wants all the attention on herself. You're doing right in ignoring her, you're onto her and know what she's all about. Thank goodness your mom and grandma have you there. What this world needs is more people like you.

Answer 2

Your sister-in-law sounds miserable! Chances are she's miserable in her own marriage, and with her living arrangement. It's not easy being married and living with your in-laws. Maybe she's upset with your brother for not supporting them and moving out of this living arrangement. Usually when people are miserable with themselves, they put down other people to make themselves look better. She can use a dose of self-confidence, and I'd bet the only person that can give that to her is herself. Approach her with a gentle word and a smile, you never know she may just warm up to you and let you in on whatever is really bothering her. People often claim they're ill just for attention, unfortunately the only attention she's getting is a very annoyed family. Hopefully she will not settle for being miserable and making everyone else around her miserable for long.

Answer 3

I think she needs to be brought back into the world of everyone else, and it's going to have to be by you. She seems like she has some issues, and your mom doesn't need to deal with anymore, and I think you are the only one who will be able to deal with it. Have you told your brother? You are going to have to tell her how it is going to be otherwise she is going to keep attacking your grandmother, your mother, and you. It's absurd the way she is acting and needs to be stopped. I would get your dishes back, explain to her what needs to happen, or throw her out. None of you need that she is a guest and is now wearing out her welcome. I hope this helps

Answer 4

Maybe you should try to talk to her; not directly into the matter. Ask her how she's doing recently, talk to her about joining some activites. Maybe she got bored staying at home. Try to get her to do some charity work or work in a small diner or anything. Don't keep her alone. Ask her whether she has any problem lately. If you found some difficulties talking to her, try to get her to talk to a shrink. It might help her.

Answer 5

hi there im sorry for the loss of youre dad that is a hard thing to go through and it must be hard for youre brother,and youre mum as for youre sister in law i dont really know what her problem is but by christ she would have a huge problem with me if i was in this position .......does youre brother know what she is up to and if not id be sittig him down and having a good chat with him and trying to get this sorted youre mum has the right to feel happy and safe in her own home and by the sounds of things youre brother needs to pull his finger out and take note and get this wife of hi sosrted out ,i cantbelieve that this cow is behaving the way she is in youre mums house and as for the dirty dishes i think i would have thrown them at her just to see that female move im really sorry i probably havent helped you ,but i would be talking to youre brother about this good luck and take care

Answer 6

ur sister in law ain't comfortable in the new life style ur family has after ur dad's death.

and i think it's somehow normal because she could be depressed. it's not a must that every1 shows depression through tears, ppl could act in different ways to release the frustration and depression.

maybe she's toooo sad that ur father died,and that could be a reason y she criticizes everything and every1.

be nice to her,and talk all together to her as a family. and explain to ur sis that all of u r going through a very hard time.

be there for her and for ur mom. and t.c.

may god rest ur dad in peace.

Answer 7

I think so she is willing to hear that all people in your house must rely upon her for every things hap penning in the house.

When you are responsible in the house, she wants to divert it for her side,

Hereafter wards she would try to act too smart

Leave, character's like this wouldn't change forever.......

Try to save you and your family from her, Because you can do only this because you are living in a joined family

ALL THE BEST........

Answer 8

It sounds like you are in a real stressful situation,you need to say something to your brother if you haven't already because what is going on there right now ain't working.

Answer 9

Man, she's being a pain in the ****, and is useless. She either needs counselling, or a shrink. She seems to be living in her own selfish world.

Answer 10

time to ask your brother to check that *****, put her in her place. Your brother sounds like a total wussy. If he's whipped, there's no hope, just move out.