wanting to break out of her shell!?

Question

i am really shy around people and i need advice on how to break out of my shell. right now im known as the shy smart girl but i want be know for being outgoing not shy can you help me everybody!

please help

Answer 1

I was once a geek, introverted and terribly shy. Given, I'm still a geek; but I was pushed out on a dance floor by a spanish instructor. He took me under his wing, I was scared stiff of salsa but eventually managed to grin-bear it. I forced myself to just go, be around people, step by step, each Sunday one-hour class at a time. No quick solutions work, this takes time. Find your intrests, book club, swim team, church group, or do what I did salsa or get a job at Best Buy (meet and sell lots of stuff to lots of people, quick decisions quick interaction, constant learning of the most important skill in the world, selling your ideas, thoughts, advice, etc.) As we learn to walk, we fall down, scrape knees and get hurt feelings. Making mistakes is part of the process but you must start somewhere. Acting on this advise starts the process, having a job eases the pressure, you get paid and have a legitimate reason to "interact" with people. For pleasure stuff takes motivation, incrimental steps, let people discover you and soon this hesitation may even be appreciated! (just don't forget to listen)

Answer 2

it doesn't matter on you being shy you just have to work on your social skills. you can be shy and still have friends, you can be shy and be outgoing when the time comes. It all depends on how you want to feel and if you feel you want to have friends and be outgoing then just do it. The only one that can do anything to help you become what you see as a better person is you. Believe in that and it will get you far.

Answer 3

I'm still shy in public situations, but being around friends that are a lot more outgoing then me helped a lot. Also, I got a job where I had to be social and outgoing, still doesn't help me in a lot of public situations but I am more outgoing then I was about a year ago!

Answer 4

have an outgoing friend help you and take u along to a party where there is a lot of people and have her show you how to not be shy. All you have to be is confident in yourself. Learn to love yourself.

Answer 5

Try one new thing everyday. Make it something you are usually too shy to do. Speak up in a group one day. The next day say hi in the hallway to someone who is in one of your classes. All you have to do is one thing a day. This will help. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

I used to be very shy but i quickly found out that i am not that kind of person. so i started smiling and talking to people i didn't totally know and i started to try new things and i went out with new people to places i had not been before and then bubbly people sooner or later just kind of get drawn to you and before you know it you are not so shy anymore.

Answer 7

I am still the shy prson I was when I was younger.
I am also a good friend to many.
It is better that people know you as you are then what you are not.

Answer 8

You just need to be yourself. When you are at a party or around new people just smile. If somebody is staring in my direction I just say hi and a conversation starts.

Answer 9

Read books in hoe to improve your self...
what makes you to be shy...?
r u afraid of being hurt.../
r u scared...?
you need to know first of all what's going on with you...then take some action baby..
Jesus loves ya.
[e-mail] if u want to keep in touch please feel free to write.

Answer 10

read:
the 7 habits of highly effective teens by Sean covey

and then:
the power of focus for college student- by Andrew Hewitt and luc D'abadie.

they saved me!