do you think once a cheater, always a cheater??

Question

What if what happened wasnt actually sex, but it had every sexual intention possible? What would you do? And if you gave him/her a second chance how do you trust them at all?

Answer 1

No, I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. The trust that was once there can be built back, but it takes time and alot of it. I know from personal experience it is hard as hell to trust again. My husband cheated on me a year ago this past July and it has been really hard for me to forgive him. I will never forget it, but there was one major circumstance behind it that helped me forgive him alot quicker than I would of. The girl that he cheated on me with drugged him with ecstasy. I still don't agree that he went to talk to her about us instead of talking to me, but things happen. I did forgive him here we are over a year later, and things between us couldn't be any better. But, no, that old saying once a cheater always a cheater, isn't true with everyone. All situations are different. I hope this helps some.

Answer 2

I do not know about men but as a female cheater i can tell you that cheaters can become faithful people if they are truly in love i have been married 5 times and just now on my 5th husband have i been able to stay faithful and happy so it's not often that a tiger changes it's stripes but it can happen good luck

Answer 3

I think once a cheater, always a cheater. Just like once a Marine, always a Marine. No, not the same thing, but some will argue that it's close.

Answer 4

I do think it is possible for someone to make a mistake so grave that it changes them. So, some cheaters become cognizant of the costs of their actions and wise up.

If you really love him, you may want to give him another shot. But, he has to come completely clean and re-earn your trust.

I know some people ridicule Dr. Phil, but I have found his website to be very useful. Check out the article below and see if it helps.

Good luck to you!

Answer 5

yea it is true. seen it with many of my friends. if you take someone back that has cheated on you, your just letting them know that they can walk over you. you need to be firm and not take it. they'll respect you for that and if they truely regret what they did, then a loooong time later, things may be better, but i mean a loooong time. this is only for a cheater that did something once though, and constantly says how much they regret it. if they've done it more than once, leave them cuz things wont change. good luck, i'm sure you can do better :)

Answer 6

Yes, once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't recommend giving him/her a second chance because they will think that they can get away with that behavior and repeat it. Hope I helped. = ]

Answer 7

No - I think someone can make a mistake and never make it ever again.

I almost cheated on my partner once. I backed out, owned up to it to my partner, searched within myself as to why I put myself in that position and have corrected the underlying problem. That was 9 years ago and I have since married my partner. I have never been tempted since.

I think the fact that I was completely open with my partner about what happened and why and showed him that I had cut all contact with the person and never gave him reason to distrust me again helped him to forgive me. It took time though.

Answer 8

Yes. Never trust a cheater-- ever.

Answer 9

i love this question because i always clarify this assumption that we as a culture has made up
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first of all the important things are not whom the other person relates to or even how they relate to someone other than you
the second thing is there is no such thing as cheating on someone you see it don't exist it is all made up!
and if it was only sex and not emotional than that is safer if safe sex is involved then for them to start growing emotionally that is when it is hard to accept you understand me

Answer 10

Once a cheater, always a cheater.