Today at band practice my friend had 2 bruises on his arm and face. I asked him what happened and he said he didnt want to talk about it. He looked like he was about to cry when i asked him this question. Is it a type of abuse or what? If so what should I do im only 14 years old. I dont want to make a big scene about it and lose my good friend. Please i need scereous answers.
2006-08-08 17:28:36 · 10 answers · asked by Hugo P. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would say indeed there is wrong with him. All you could do is always be ready to be there for your friend when he needs somebody to lean on. Make him aware that you are just a call away. That whenever and wherever you are, you could always be there for him. Don't ever force him to tell you as that could make the pressure to him bigger and that he would just get mad at you. Give him the space BUT give him the assurance that you are always a friend to care and to lean on :-)
2006-08-08 17:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by huggermugger4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think this boy is being abused then yes I believe the only right thing to do is to call the authorities , or if you don't want involved let the school do it but know one deserves to be abused for any reason and I say this because I was a beat up in this life and many times I ended up in the hospital , talk to your counselor at school , he might get mad at you but n the long run He'll not be hurt anymore , maybe he can be court ordered to a family members household , and this is a touchy subject but if he is being hurt , what other choice does a friend have, of course you know so follow your instincts and good luck and god bless both of you.
2006-08-09 00:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by rdwncndy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is talk to a teacher you trust or one of your guidance counslers. Explain to them that you saw a couple of bruises on your friend and when you asked him what happened, he told you he didn't want to talk about it. It sounds like it is abuse. Explain to whomever you tell that you are really concerned for your friend and you want to help in whatever way you can. You won't be making a big scene, you will be helping a friend who is obviously crying out for help the only way he knows how to. If you need any more advice or even someone to talk to about this, feel free to email me at davidsgirl4282001@yahoo.com I hope this helps out in some way.
2006-08-09 00:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by Heather M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. If you feel something is not quite right, then something is more than likely wrong. Call a hotline in your area. I volunteer at a rape crisis center and I know that most cities have a domestic violence or child abuse center. Look in your phone book for maybe a government program.
In my state every person is legally required to report suspected abuse. But that aside, your friend may really need your help. It would be alot more important to protect your friend from abuse than to keep yourself from making a scene.
2006-08-09 00:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by cutiekewterson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, is this just recently? Have you ever noticed a bruises, etc. before?
If not, then try to give it some little time.
If yes, try to talk to your friend again..
and try talking to your teacher (the teacher is your closest adult that wont over react unlike your parents [except if your mom or dad is a psychologist or something]) to tell what you think. your teacher will think about something that will be the best for all of you.
2006-08-09 00:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by ssr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real friend stands on their square and protects. One who isn't worries about losing someone they call friend!
A true friend is the most precious of all possessions and the one we take the least of amount of thought acquiring.
(La Rochefoucauld)
2006-08-09 00:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a watchful eye...and in the next few days....ask him again what happened. Tell him you are worried about him, and you think something might be wrong.
2006-08-09 00:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by MandyHawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it probably abuse by his parents, talk to someone about it and try to get him help, and be there for him, support him
2006-08-09 00:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would tell my parents first, it is too tough a situation to handle on your own
2006-08-09 00:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to someone you can trust,tell him/her your thoughts, and try to be there when your friend needs you.Because when he feels secure he will tell you more.
2006-08-09 02:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by southern girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋