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Question

My counsins father committed suicide 9 years ago. He went down to the basement and blew his brains out. They still live in this house. She sees him all the time. Sees him going up and down the stairs and sees him sitting in the living room. They hear a lot of noises in the basement. Her mother brought in a psychic who said that he did make it over to the other side but he is just coming to visit. My cousin sits alone in the basement with a ouija board trying to talk to him. No we are not alcoholics or drug addicts and this is for real. I heard on Sylvia Brown that sometimes people do not know they are dead and you need to tell them that they are & and to go to the other side. Do you think he is just visiting here or do you think he could be stuck here. He was a wonderful guy but he had a lot of problems. Also, a friend of mine went over there with her 4 year old son and he said "mommy look at that man on the couch". Many people in the family see him there. Thanks.

Answer 1

Does your cousin ever have any luck communicating with him using the ouija board? From what I've heard those boards don't communicate with regular ghosts they communicate with those who will harm you and are not friendly so your cousin may want to be careful when using that.He may not be ready to move on. He could feel he has unfinished business. There may be something holding him back from crossing over. Tragic deaths often lead to the persons spirit sticking around in the area it happened. Or like you said he may not realize he is dead. If you are unsure what to do or what is going on get a 2nd opinon. Bring in another psychic or see what other options may be available for you. Do internet research that may give you some answers. I don't know of any websites off the top of my head I could give you, but by running a search on the topic I'm sure you could find more info that'll help you. Good luck!

Answer 2

As most people have already said, advise your cousin to see a grief counselor, and tell her to stop using the ouija board - they're not safe, and you can't control who you actually contact on there. There's a good saying that I heard once that I think describes the ouija - you can open a door to let things out, but other things can also get in. I'm not trying to scare you, but it's true, and I would have her quit it as soon as possible. Now you ghost story I do believe, but while he may just be visiting, there seems to be a LOT of activity from what you've described. If you're really unsure that he's just in visitation only and has truly moved on, I would get a second opinion (or third, if absolutely nessecary) - bring in another psychic, one with no connections to you, your family, and the first psychic. Make sure he or she is credible, as you don't want to be taken advantage of in this situation. While Sylia Brown is mostly likely a fraud (google her name with the word fraud after it and see all the examples), she does make a point here. I would have a professional who can actually sense his spirit do the coaxing, just so you know for certain that he's really at peace. Best of luck, and I'm very, very sorry for your family's loss.

PS. I seriously doubt he's a demon as many people are saying. But either way, be careful.

Answer 3

There could be a couple of things going here. 1. It could be whats called a residual haunting. His energy is embedded in the house and you are actually seeing what he did while he was alive. 2. He is grounded to the house because of the fact that he committed suicide.

He would not be visiting at all. When a person commits suicide they are not given the pleasure of going to the other side. They are immediately reborn in to the next life without the guidance and support of their guides. And without knowing the joy that comes with a respite on the other side.

If you want him to leave contact a reputable medium to make contact and ask him to go over to the other side. If he is not bothering you then leave well enough alone. He will find his own way eventually.

Do not continue to use the ouija board. Unless you know how to control what comes through it is dangerous. Many mediums are unable to control the spirits that talk through the board. It can and will invite unwelcome beings to the house if you continue to use it. Good luck!

Answer 4

There are many possibilities.

You might be seeing what's left of his spirit on this plane. I know that a house was haunted by a young man who had died suddenly in the house and kept coming home every night at the same time. It was thought he didn't know he was dead - or part of him that loved his home and looked forward to coming home, still performed that action.

If the spirit in question is stuck here, then you need a religious person to help him cross over.

It's also possible he left something unfinished before he died and wants to see it completed.

However, do NOT use the ouija board!!! It is dangerous. You don't know what it will call up. It has been known to call up very unsavory and evil spirits. It most likely will not work on communicating with the ghost. Prayer will work better I think.

Answer 5

He might not be ready to move on. He could be feeling regret for what he did. Children are most receptable to being able to see spirits. If anybody else can see him, try talking to him and tell him he is forgiven and can cross over anytime and is able to stay there for as long as he likes. Give him the choice of going or staying, eventually he may move on, but if he doesn't want to, don't force him.

Ignore what people say about the bible as well as Jesus, most non-believers of this kind of thing will associate it with devil work when it's not. I've even been called a satanist, uhhh yea, for the record, I'm not, I don't believe in hell nor satan or demons. So yea, don't force him out, try talking to him and getting an idea what's going on and how he's feeling. Sometimes by watching him you can see or feel what it is he's feeling. It's a good way to communicate and help him move on and that everything is okay.

This sort of thing doesn't have a whole lot to do with religion so really religion needs to be set aside. Open your hearts and make sure he knows everything is okay. I'm not sure where the comments about the ouija board came from, but it's true, stay away from them, although from experience, mine never worked.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

I don't think there is anything amiss. The psychic is probably right, and he's just visiting. Your aunt could always bring in another psychic for another opinion. Tell your cousin to stop using the Ouija Board; those things can be dangerous and invite other spirits in. If they left the house (moved out) he might leave.

A family member had a somewhat simillar situation to this happen to her when she was young, only her father didn't commit suicide, but died very young. When they moved he didn't go with them.

Answer 7

I have to be honest, I haven't studied a lot of biblical background on death, However, I am a christian. I lean toward the demon thing a bit, but I have to say that I also believe that people's spirits do "hang" around. maybe there is some sort of unfinished business. I can't tell you the answer and no one here can either. None of us have ever been dead, nor can we tell you what the after life holds. I can tell you that If I were you, I would do some serious praying, and ask the Lord to show you in his word. I hope you find the answer you are looking for , Many people spend their whole life chasing answers, and all they have to do is ask. May God bless you my friend.

Answer 8

I can see why you are still asking, look at the type of replies you are getting..Jeez!
The extreme emotions of a suicide can lock someone into this side, I don't know what psychic told you he was visiting, but that is not true. I don't know what your question is actually, you explained the situation, but didn't ask a question.
The Ouija Board is a bad idea, you can attract all sorts of people locked into this plane, put it away!
I cannot tell you how to get him to leave, if that was your question. You need someone who can talk to people who have crossed over. Psychics are not necessarily Spirit Talkers. Don't listen to the religious Fundies, or the "you need Therapy" people, they have no idea what you are talking about.

Answer 9

First off, i am sorry to hear about the suicide...that is quite sad to hear. second, sylvia is a fraud. third it sounds as if he is still trying to reconnect with you all because maybe he regrets committing suicide or also because he might have some type of unfinished business (telling someone he loves them, a debt thats owed, something like that) also dont use oija boards because they arent wise for people in the spirit world. you have to find a way to pray that god will see his mistakes and forgive him and that god will grant him some type of peace (i am a baptist)...when you pray that he seeks some type of final peace than he will. Do not be scared that he is there. Talk to the spirit. Tell him that you love him and miss him and that you forgive him for all his mistakes and that you dont think any less of him. When my father died last year from hepatitis c he would visit me alot and i would tell him that i love him and miss him and that everything is alright and that visiting tends to scare and startle me. it will work. although it does sound crazy. you dont need therapy you just need faith in god that everything will work out and that god will help make things better if you let god in your life and allow him to help fix this situation...please let me know if i was any help at all.

Answer 10

I think he is dead and either in heaven or hell. I think you are all seeing a demon. I mean that is no crazier and just as probable as what you are proposing. Actually more probable. I am not sure what your question is though. I do know that a ouija board is not the answer. Sylvia Brown is not the answer. These are barriers between that family can Christ. There are not ghosts or spirit of that kind. There are demons. They need to be very careful.