how can i tell my gf im gay and hav a bf?

Question

im 14 so idk how to do it

Answer 1

You are so young. I think have to make sure you are ready to come out of the closet completely before you tell her because the word is going to get out. If you are just be open and honest but brief with her. Let her know that it's not her, it's just that you don't feel that way about women as a whole and you have feelings for men. If you are not ready to come out to everyone just break up with her and try not to break her heart. Good luck!

Answer 2

Let her down gently. Tell her that you don't feel like it is right between you, "It's not you, it's me", tht she'll always have a special place in your heart and that you'll always love her as a friend.

Don't go into the detail about the boyfriend unless you're ready to be outed to the whole school. Give yourself a chance to know what it is to be gay, before any fingerpointing begins.

Of course, if you manage to keep that friendship with her, she should be one of the first to be told, when you are ready to come out. At fourteen, although you may think you know your orientation, you might not have fully come to realise just what it is until you're older. (I was in my 20's!)

Take care and good luck

Answer 3

Just break up with her, but gently, Do not tell her you are gay if it may get back to your parents and they are anti-gay. If they are okay with being gay, you may be able to tell your gf, but gently. Otherwise, just stay single until you are 18 and can move out, or find one helluva to keep secretly seeing your bf. But whatever you do, break up with the girl, because lying to her is wrong.

Answer 4

There is NO reason you have to inform her of your sexual orientation to break up with her. Just break up with her. You are too young to be in a "relationship" anyway. You should be dating and having fun, not maintaining a long term relationship. Commitment like that is a lot of work. Nobody is ready for that at 14.

Just tell your girlfriend that you feel like you are too young to be dating just one person. Freshman/Sophomore year romances rarely make it to Senior year. While still in high school, people get the chance to play girlfriend/boyfriend , a socially acceptable method of practicing for later in life. Nobody is really ready for anything long term, but they make believe... just like when they were children.

Break up, but don't come out. It isn't easy to deal with all that in high school. It will be MUCH easier in college. Trust me.

Answer 5

I'd brake it off gently and telll her you're not clicking or something. At your ages, she's bound to tell everyne you're gay, so if you're not ready to come out of the closet yet, don't bring the boyfriend up

Answer 6

It depends on whether you're out to everyone (aka, your parents), yet. If your parents know, tell your girlfriend the truth. If your parents don't know, just break up with her, because it will get back to your parents that you're gay, and they deserve to hear the news from you.

Answer 7

Just be true to yourself mate- the rest will fall into place. The longer you take to do this, the harder it will be for both of you and the more it will hurt all concerned.
Good luck.

Answer 8

break up with her and then tell her that u r gay thats what my friend thinks OR dont tell her coz man she will spread it around like fire ur only 14

Answer 9

Hey baby, I have something to tell you. I'm gay, and I have a boyfriend. I don't think we should see each other anymore.

Answer 10

Just be honest with her, she'll be upset in the beginning, but in the long run respect you for your honesty. Hope all goes well for you!!