my mom and dads house caught fire on july 22,2006 my mom did not make it out. My father did however he returned to the house to find her and he caught fire. He had 65% total body surface burns and very bad inhalation burns he was life support and that was the only thing keeping him alive we burried my mom on july 26,2006 left her wake and went to the burn unit and my father passed away this is a horrible thing and i just can not get it out of my mind i am so afraid that my house will catch fire and to know that my mother lay in there for 3 hours before they were able to go in and find her. She was on oxygen and the house went up pretty fast but i just do not see how i can get over this. somone please help. How long does it take someone to die in a fire did she suffer? there are so many unanswered questions. I am so scared that she suffered . when you die a horrible death are you being punished? someone please help
2006-08-08 16:50:21 · 5 answers · asked by j_lynn_1973 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi there, although I have not been through anything close to you, I do care and I am so sorry for what has happen to you, your question on yahoo brought tears to my eyes. Do not blame yourself, this is not your fault. You defiantly need to see a doctor first of all, get on some medicine that will help you with the fear, pain, stress... Stop putting so much worry and stress thinking that your house is going to catch on fire, you will make yourself sick. Talk to people, I am always online. You can email me anytime you need to talk. Your parents are ok now, they are looking down on you and wanting you to not worry. God took care of both of them and they probably didn't feel any pain because it was there time to go. You will be ok. Everything in life happens for a reason, although you will always miss your parents and the pain will never heal, you will see them again one day and you can only live your life stronger and for them. Please keep my email near and if you need to talk, cry, laugh go ahead and email. I hope everything gets better for you, I will pray.
2006-08-08 18:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry to hear of your misfortune. I believe that things happen in our life for a reason. The reason - you alone will have to find and learn.
Dont dwell too much on the details e.g. did your mom suffered or not and so on as these are things of the past. Now, you need to think and accept the fact that she is somewhere beautiful with your dad. They are probably looking down at you with concern too!
Cherish the happy, memorable times you all had together - never let them go, but please do carry on with your own life as well.
It may also help if you spoke to someone about it - maybe a good understanding friend or relative. These are times when you need company and support.
I wish you the best and will pray for you during these trying times.
2006-08-08 18:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sudden, unexpected natural disasters, causes shock, that a person cannot easily get over. No point running away from the thought. Instead, keep the body and mind calm, look at it a bit practically, and see how fragile and vulnerable the human body is, and then try to accept the reality. Slowly, the impact of the terrible tragedy will fade out, and the residue will be just the loving memory of near and dear ones, and this feeling of love and memory will surely help us to take good precautions, in future, and persuade us to help people unexpectedly caught in similar situation .
2006-08-08 17:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being punished. Freak accidents happen. This is truly a tragedy, but you must not go through this alone.
Have your physician refer you to someone who specializes in treating people who have lost loved ones by tragic circumstance.
You might also want to see if there are any support groups in your area for people, like yourself, who have suffered tragic loss.
You need to be able to talk with others who will completely understand what you are feeling, and perhaps give you some help in getting through this horrible part of your life.
Good luck and best wishes!
2006-08-08 17:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This too shall pass. Sorry to hear about what happened to your family. Ask the one from up above to give you guidance in times like this.
2006-08-08 21:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by tyrone b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋