Ok. Well I have been dating this guy for awhile now. He can not get an erection at all, by himself watching porn or with me doing anything and everything. This puts him in so much pain he gets sick. What can we do to help him get and erection and keep it?. He had one for a bit tonight, but he lost it with in minutes inside of me. He says its not me, and he thinks Im beautiful and he claimes to love me.
2006-08-08 16:37:41 · 16 answers · asked by kreepyemily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ANXIETY AND STRESS TO PREFORM WILL MAKE A MAN FEEL LIKE HE IS A FAILURE. TRY NOT BEING AGGRESSIVE ABOUT IT. PAMPER HIM TENDERLY BUT NOT SEXUALLY. BE ROMANTIC, MAKE HIM A HOT BATH TO RELAX, TAKE A WALK WITH HIM BEFORE BED, HOLD HANDS, GET DINNER RECIPES OFF THE NET, PLAN THEM TOGETHER AND MAKE THEM TOGETHER, HAVE DINNER PARTIES AND DO THINGS DIFFERENT WITH EACH OTHER. THE PROBLEM IS THE PORN IT SOUNDS LIKE. YOU AREN'T MAKING LOVE WITH EXPECTATIONS THAT THIS IS HOW TO DO IT. MAYBE HE FEELS INADEQUATE DUE TO THIS PROGRAMMING.
AS FAR AS YOU HAVING TO DO IT TO ADD TO HIS PROBLEM, MASTURBATE. MAKING LOVE IS ABOUT PLEASING YOUR PARTNER, SEX ISN'T ALWAYS PART OF THAT.
MAY YOU SHOULD STOP DOING FOR IT ALL FOR HIM. GIVE HIM AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE TENDER TO YOU. IF WE DO EVERYTHING FOR SOMEONE ESPECIALLY MEN THEY DON'T WANT TO DO IT FOR THEMSELVES AND BECOME LAZY. CHALLENGE HIM TO FILL YOUR NEEDS WITHOUT INTERCOURSE.
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-08 16:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should take up a claime with your doctor. Get your ho on some pimp juice. That man be lickity splick in 2 minutes flat, and y'all be funky for at least 24 hours! mhmmmm honey child, but rememba, a brotha gotta see da docta if his memba don't wanna dismount afta 36 hours.
2006-08-08 16:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by paddy101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriosuly its a medical problem. have him see a doctor for the viagra or smthng like it. and also try a therapist? i know it sounds strange but it might be the answer.. if he has an unresolved issue about sex or his sexuality. he will eventually be fine. if you really love him or care about him all you can do is support him, try to let him know its not the end of the world, try to reduce the frustration that you show. it is very embarassing for him and your support will do wonders!
good luck love.
2006-08-08 16:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by mervelash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he take pills or drink constantly? Because my BF of 4 years at times Can get an erection because he has had too much to drink or too many pills. Check onj hius diet oir what kind of drugs he is taking.
2006-08-08 16:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't say how old he is, but you could take him to smart person who wears a white coat and has studied alot about the human body.
They're called DOCTORS and they have pills for that!
2006-08-08 16:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by E D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never heard of that do you think hes gonna tell you your butt ugly if this is so bad not known to many men why aint he seen a doc yet call one first thing in morning
or is he like 80 years old?
does he use coc@!ne or cr@c# cuz that kills all sex drive in men
2006-08-08 17:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a medical problem.
Talk to his doctor and try something like Viagra.
2006-08-08 16:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by TonyB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you. Your boyfriend needs to see a doctor. Seriously. God bless you for being so loving and supportive.
2006-08-08 16:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should go and see a doctor, he may have a medical problem. It may also be that he is just extremly nervous.
2006-08-08 16:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk the doctor next have him clear his mind of everything and mabey you should try a back rub on him to get him to full relax
2006-08-08 16:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋