I took my serial cheater bf back after leaving him for 6 months. He did cheat on me for 4 of the 8 years we have been together, but we do have 2 kids and a dog. He is a good provider and I love him. He just had trouble staying faithful.
I recently found out about a girl, but I put a stop to it about 2 weeks ago.
Ppl say "oh you wont trust him (I dont), you'll argue, he'll cheat again, etc etc" but none of this has happened yet. We dont argue, it's like it all never happened.
I give him his freedom, (but he does stay up under me a little more than I'd like.)
Were you guys were wrong, the second time with a cheater can work, RIGHT? Or do you think this "honeymoon" will last?
ADVISE
2006-08-08 16:25:10 · 19 answers · asked by Nuni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He'll be on his best behavior for a few months...then probably revert to his old ways. Sorry to sound negative, but that's how it usually goes.
2006-08-08 16:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what color is the sky in your world today? Take off the rose-colored glasses and look at the guy. You put a stop to another girl just two weeks ago and you think things are OK?
Well, at least you know what you are getting. You know he is a liar and a cheat. You can't blame him if he does it again. You knew exactly what he was like when you took him back.
Is the honeymoon over? It will be soon. He won't be able to keep this act up for long before he is back out chasing tramps.
2006-08-08 23:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEAR ME!!! ONCE A CHEATER- ALWAYS A CHEATER!! You say you had to "put a stop " to some girl a couple weeks ago. I fyou have to keep watch over him- all you have is another child!! It is sad, but do you want an unfaithful man. I am alone and hate it =but I would rather be alone than with a cheating man. I wish you the best.
2006-08-08 23:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by twiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what on earth are you thinking? You say that he hasnt cheated since and its like it never happened yet you also say you found out about a girl 2 weeks ago and put a stop to it......come one honey you know your man is a cheater or he wouldnt of had another girl two weeks ago would he of now.
You say you give him his freedom and he hasnt done anything yet? Give him some time.......he will be on his best behavior for awhile and then when he thinks he can get away with it again he will return to the same old habit and you will be cheated on again. Why did you go back with him? Are you truely happy with this person and how he treats you?
You stated you had two children with this man......is it ok for them to see their father's behavior and think its acceptable to treat people that way and its ok to cheat? I dont think so......those kids need a postive role model and the man you are staying with now sure isnt that model ill tell you. Also you are teaching them its ok to be degraded, used, and cheated on and if you have daughters or a daughter she will think when she gets older its ok to get into this type of relationship and if you have a son he will think its ok to treat women this way and that isnt a good thing.
wake up and smell the coffee......he isnt gonna change and you need to get out of that relationship.......you can do so much better for yourself and your children. You are worth way more than to have man who is unfaithful to you and that could possibly drag home some social disease to you because of his cheating ways.
God loves you and wants you to have a joyful and abundant life but how can you truely have that life if you settle for less than you deserve.......dont you dare settle for less girl........you deserve the best and God has that in mind and planned for you. Somewhere out there is a man that God himself has choosen for you and that man will treat with you love, respect, honor and he will be truthful and honest.......all those things you deserve and more.
You get away from this man you are with now and take your kids and make a fresh start for you and them......dont let him wiggle back into your life....I know its hard but you gotta stand strong and do what is right for you and those precious children of yours. God will provide for you and help you along the way. Give yourself time to heal and get over this man and then when the time is right God will place a good man in your life im sure of it.
Good luck to you and remember God loves YOU and YOUR KIDS......I'll say a prayer for you.
2006-08-08 23:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by wendyceline2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geee, you just RECENTLY found out about a girl and put a stop to it 2 WEEKS ago?
yup, it worked, 2nd time around with a cheater and he tried cheating on you again, boy were you right
2006-08-09 00:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will give you 6 months, then it is over. He will find another person to mess their head up with. Don't be silly, kick this guy to the curb and making pay for child support. Remember you deserve better. One of the things I keep saying to myself is, is all about me,me,me, me, noone care about me more than me,me,me. Sorry to get away but you have got to see the big picture in another way. Star dating other guys. Best of luck!
2006-08-08 23:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by maury3222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...That is what we want to believe, that they'd stay faithfull forever. Now...will they ever?? Time will tell. That doesn't mean that you will trust your soul with him but....give him the benefit of the doubt. I hope everything works out for you (...and for me and my bf too , he was in love with a girl for three of the first 7 years we've been together)
2006-08-08 23:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you the best of luck. If a person makes a mistake and cheats once that's one thing. If he cheated for 4 years that;'s another thing. Again, good luck.
2006-08-08 23:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i remember you i answered one of your relationship questions before well if its working for you i guess its all good but me i think it wont last long he'll get the itch again but good luck to you and him
2006-08-08 23:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh u can trust him......
you can trust him to sh*t on you
you can trust him to cheat on you
you can trust that he'll be an ar*e forever
this is a good relationship because what you expect for yourself he will live up too
2006-08-08 23:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋