the resson is he come home late and say he is working late and when she get off of work he come home like 5min before i do not no what to say do i tell her are do i leave it alone
2006-08-08 16:24:53 · 14 answers · asked by Brit-Brit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whether or not that man is good for your mom is a thing that your mom alone should decide for herself. You may tell her what you observe about him but you should not tell her that he is not good for her because if your mom really loves that man, you may offend her.
Your mom is old enough to know what is good and what is bad for her. Let her decipher that by herself.
I believe in the great maxim, "Live and let live." It means that we should never judge anybody about what he does in his life for he and he alone is responsible to God for all his actions. Other people may give bits of advice but should not interfere with any man's decision.
I observe this maxim myself concerning our family affairs. I only give advice to my kids but whether they take my advice or not, it's all up to them. They know their hearts' desires so I believe that what they do is what they want whether right or wrong. If I believe that what they are about to do or are doing is wrong, I tell them it is wrong for what is right is like this and like that... This happens mostly when it comes to decision-making about courses in school, love affairs, etc. When it comes to legal matters, the parents should seek help from proper authorities who can explain to their kids the consequences of their actions.
As far as your mother is concerned, it's an affair of the heart and only she knows what or who can make her happy. Respect her decision. But if you believe that she is heading towards the wrong direction concerning her decisions, your responsibility is to give her your words of wisdom and advice that may make her realize her mistakes.
2006-08-08 16:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, your mom may not listen to you. She may think that you are jealous of the attention she is giving him.
I would ask mom out for a shopping trip and lunch. That way the two of you are out of the house and he cannot walk in. Break it to her very gently by mentioning that he is late getting to the house. That is all you need to say. Don't say that he is a loser, don't imply that he is cheating, just mention the time he gets to the house.
If your mom is like most women, she will start to put two and two together and begin to check up on him. You don't need to get involved any more after getting it started.
2006-08-08 16:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find out more about him,like get to know him and if you don't like him your mom should be able to respect you as her daughter to take your word and drop him if you TRULY believe he isn't right for her and the there is something going on with him.BUT if you don't have any kinda of proof then leave it.
2006-08-08 16:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Guess who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back up whatever you tell her with something besides he stays out late. I think that you should just leave it alone for now but definetly keep an eye on him.
2006-08-08 16:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should tell your mom. It's best for her to know before she gets even more involved with him. Just tell her you love her, that you have something to tell her that you think she needs to know. I hope you have a good relationship with her that she will listen and not judge. That would be my only concern about you speaking with her. But I'm sure she will know you are doing it out of love for her. Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 16:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age,
but for now... I would advise staying out of it.
Don't get involved unless you have 'proof postive' that this man is doing her wrong.
If you have proof, then tell her.
Otherwise say nothing, and be supportive in the event her relationship with this man falls part.
2006-08-08 16:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know your mom so i cant really predict what she would say, but if you notice something suspicious with her man then you need to speak up. sometimes people who think they are in love become blind to certain things because they think they are happy. good for you for wanting to stick up for your mom! i hope my daughter is as concerned as you are when she grows up! :)
2006-08-08 16:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her, "Mother, may I speak freely?" If she says,yes then you say, "Your current victim/bf is no good. He's the wrong guy for us!" She might say, " who do you think is better?" . You could say, "the previous one, who you betrayed. " Or you could say,
I don't know, but there is someone better, out there.".
2006-08-08 16:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends...are you sure he is doing something wrong and if so you need proof...But be careful know what you are doing before doing it
2006-08-08 16:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont be able to change your mum's choice, but use the time to learn from it and see that this is type of man you dont want for yourself.
2006-08-08 16:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋