Recently, the courts awarded my daughter's father shared legal and physical custody of her but they did not know that her father moved out of his apartment and moved in with his parents. He kept his move a secret from everyone including the courts and led me to believe that he was still living in his apartment when I would pick her up from visits. It's been established in court that Grandma smokes pot everyday and the judges didn't care about that or the fact that her father kept his where abouts a secret. Now my little 2 year old is being left in her care and having to live there for a week every other week for visits with Dad. Also, the judge would not let me speak, and would not take my police report or any of my other evidence for review. She twisted things around on me, threatened to throw me in jail, accussed me of all sorts of things that weren't true, and made me pay $800.00 in court costs. So do you think I should keep trying to keep my little one away from Grandma?
2006-08-08 16:24:39 · 10 answers · asked by booboobear 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Let me guess...no lawyer right? I lost my son (15) in June. My X pops pills, drinks, is a chain smoker, wife beater & child abuser. He held us at gunpoint for 4.5 hours when they were little. But he got a lawyer, convinced my son that all his "memories" are lies I made up. So my son said I wanna live with dad & the judge said OK. I had an old restraining order-worthless, divorce papers & other court documents from other judges making him have seatbelts, wear helmets...
No 1 cared. I've had to call the police twice just to go check on him. I wasn't allowed to see or talk to my son from May until the last week in July!
I know the pain you are going through. So many on here just say get a lawyer. If I could afford 1 I'd have one!! Don't give up on your child! File the papers & go back before the judge. If you believe the judge did something unethical you can contact that "BOARD OF PROFESSIONAL RESPONSIBILITY" Look it up in your state. Even lawyers & judges have to answer to someone. Feel free to contact me for moral support.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-08 16:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to recommend this, but if you have SERIOUS concerns about your daughter's welfare, you should contact child services as a last resort.
As a first resort, you should take the adult route, talk to your ex and his mother about your concerns regarding the pot smoking. Make it clear you don't want any of that going on around your little girl.
Examine carefully your reasons for wanting to deprive your child of a happy relationship with her father and grandmother and the potential lasting emotional harm this situation could have on your child. Obviously, the court didn't think daddy or grandma were much of a threat. Your "evidence" didn't carry much weight with them for a reason.
You have two options: Get more evidence thus incurring more cost for yourself and animosity for everyone else or, act like an adult and confront the situation with your child's long term best interest in mind..
2006-08-08 23:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do it. My uncle is like that too. He and his ex are not together anymore either, but she has custody of the baby. Im glad, I think its better for the baby to be with her than to be with a pot head. Even worse, he is a crack-head.
Just keep in mind that this is for the well being of your daughter.
2006-08-08 23:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by crysta_leal17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they gave Dad custody...then you must be a piece of work.
If it wasn't the hippy grandma it would be something else.
Anything to make other peoples lives miserable.
If the judge is shutting you out then your arguments do not make an impression or they are just sick of listening to you.
2006-08-08 23:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often do you drink, sweetheart? There must be a reason that the court took the daughter from you.
What skeletons are in your closet that your not sharing with us?
2006-08-08 23:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, I think I'd get another attorney. And I'd have a long serious talk with DPS. And the police. You should not allow yourself to be in danger of losing your child to them, but you should fight for her.
2006-08-09 00:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. But you forgot to tell us what you did for her father to have custody of her, I sympathise with you.. But whatever you have done is probally far worse then living with her grandmother.
2006-08-08 23:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow the courts orders or risk charges.
2006-08-08 23:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by carl l 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't allow it its your kid tell him to move out or stay away your an adult you know what the right thing to do if you don't you shouldn't have kids
2006-08-08 23:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops and tell em you smelll drugs coming from that address.
2006-08-08 23:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋