He is a chiroprctor who I saw 1-2 x a week for mos. I was going through alot emotionally, as my 2 yr. old is autistic & my H was in denial and wasn't there for me. This man was. We were very attracted to each other. Although it was unspoken, the constant intense eye contact, offering his hand to get me off the table-hand holding, unnecessary touches,etc spoke volumes. We went to lunch. My H called nonstop. He got nervous and pulled away mentally. He thought my H knew. It was obvious he knew what I wanted and chose to come with me. We almost kissed, but didn't. He said I was making his stomach flip-flop. I saw him 2 days later nothing said. Days later he called & nicely told me he couldn't treat me anymore that he'd told his wife and she wasn't comfortable with us seeing each other. I said nothing happened and he said "ya but it wouldn't take much". I haven't seen him since--6 mos. I'm lost without him-his support,etc. I'm 38 and have never felt so deeply about anyone before.
2006-08-08 16:14:13 · 14 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, don't go to see him Really you will feel worse if you do. He was straight up with you and told you why he couldn't see you anymore. Best to get professional help dealing with your emotions about your son and your marriage. We can't always have what or whom we want in our life. Hard to accept, but so true. Don't interfere in his life, really, he was honest with you and he is married as well.
2006-08-08 16:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are unhappy with your husbands non responses where you needed support from him regarding your 2 year old, does not mean you can trespass onto another family and possibly try and break it up. If he did not love his wife so much he would have never told her anything. He loves his wife and apparently is devoted to her. Telling you he cannot treat you any longer spells it out so simply...he is not interested. Your best bet is to move on past this, get a divorce and move on with your life in another direction, meeting single men only. The pathetic part is...here you are grieving over this man...
and he is moving on in his life, happy, laughing etc
So get over him and move past it all.
2006-08-08 23:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get off that train of thought. You're both married!!! He also confessed to his wife so he obviously cares for her. Don't be a home wrecker. Yeah, it sucks that your husband didn't seem to be there for you in dealing with your autistic son, but that is no excuse to have an affair. It's wrong. Take your vows seriously. Get some Christian counseling, with or without your husband.
2006-08-09 00:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by gergy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Despite what you have been taught, the world does not revolve around you and your desires. He has made a commitment to his wife and you have made a commitment to your spouse which you clearly are not honoring. Just because you are not getting what you think you need from your husband does not give you the right to behave immorally. Just because you are in need does not mean the rules no longer apply to you. Grow up and quit thinking about yourself only. What would that do to your family and his? Your children?
2006-08-09 00:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since both are married, don't have affairs. Families will be hurt especially the children.
Chiroprators deal with pains and as they are wonderful emphatisers so we are naturally attracted to them. I used to email a friend but stopped because my daughter wasn't happy with our friendship. I really like him as a friend but guess this is life, we must be responsible to other people's feelings.
If my friend and I correspond again, I would enjoy the laughter once more but that is life, he is too busy and the season has ended so does the friendship. Sad ... but one has to be practical .
2006-08-09 00:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment to your husband when you got married-end of story. What sort of woman are you to use your son's hardships as an excuse to use it as an opportunity to look for another man. How would you feel if you were in your husband's spot and he was doing this to you?
2006-08-08 23:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the "mid-life crisis" and the "grass is greener" complexes rolled up into one! The man made it clear that he was not going to see you again. His wife knows what was going on - that means he felt bad enough about it to tell her and has chosen to save his marriage.
Be respectful of his wishes. Do not contact him again. If his situation changes he will probably call you.
2006-08-08 23:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel lucky that you stopped when you did.
I was in the same boat and for 7 years me and my "freind" were together. Then she married another man and left me without even saying goodbye.
2006-08-08 23:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll keep this simple. Your both married? Well then NO.
Unless your one of those people that like lots of drama and hurt in your life.
2006-08-08 23:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, go see him, go ruin your marriage and his and have fun
go figure, women, always looking out the window for a better ride
2006-08-09 00:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋