Do you think parents know if their kid is bisexual (or gay)? I am just curious if most parents know. I'm still not sure of my sexual orientation, and I don't think I've ever showed any signs of being bi (FYI, I am a female teenager), but do my parents know and are just waiting for me to come to them? I'm pretty close to them, but I don't know if they would know if I don't tell them. I'm not sure if I will, but I'm just wondering...
2006-08-08 16:01:16 · 25 answers · asked by REDHED4 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would take the time to figure out who you are before going to your parents. They are going to come at you with a lot of questions and feelings that may confuse you even more if you aren't sure yourself and that could make it even more confusing. They may or may not know but that in the end if they know or not isn't going to be this biggest hurdle, its knowing yourself. Most times parents surprise you and are very supportive of who you are because they love you. Even if they are a bit confused or possibly shocked in the beginning they are there for you. Good luck!
2006-08-08 16:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by NY Lesbian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure, then no -- there's no way parents could be -sure- either, since IT'S UP TO YOU.
But let's say, for example, that you're a guy and they've seen you get very close to several guy friends while you were growing up. And you might have been friends with some girls, but never really got close to any. Then they might wonder. But they might still be wrong, because maybe you just didn't like any of the girls that much.
If you're not sure yourself, there's really no need to bring up the subject ... although if your parents are very supportive and understanding, it might be very good for you to discuss it. They might surprise you and say "we'll love you no matter what." Whew ... what a relief!
2006-08-09 00:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will depend on whether your parents and yourself are using your channels of communication to full capacity...or just second guessing each other.
I think you're striving to find yourself, establishing your identity, making efforts to be and feel different than the rest. The "in" thing in this century, it seems, is to imagine oneself to be bisexual, gay or something in between...just to be different. It's so "boring" to be just a regular Jane or Joe, I'm sure.
I was a teenager once, so I know what I'm talking about. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about my sexual orientation but just to bring the best in me by bringing the best in others. First and foremost, you're a human being with beauty inside. Don't worry about making that beauty shine through, though; just remember what Fred Rogers used to say: I like you just the way you are.
Be happy.
2006-08-08 16:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of anyone "suspecting" anyone of being bi. That made me laugh. Gay and lesbian? yes. Bi? NO. Parents know whether or not they discuss it or come to terms with it is another thing.
Some parents are really great with creating a nurturing relationship with their children so that when and if it does come up there will be no hurt feelings. Relationships become stronger with honesty and openness.
2006-08-08 16:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm sure most do. If they never say anything that may mean either they just don't have a clue or they are in denial about it or maybe they are waiting for you to come and talk to them about it. I hope when I come out I'll get the "i already knew" response when I tell my mom. Never know until you talk about it though, so good luck :)
2006-08-08 16:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first step is trying to figure yourself out first before labeling yourself. It is tough. I always knew I was gay and in my teenage years I would have to say my mother always knew though I am the one that ended up telling her. I know the fear you feel because we want our parents to love is no matter what. Take some time to understand yourself and who you are becoming, there is no rush to confront your parents with something that you are not sure of yourself.
2006-08-08 21:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents know about their child when it's the obvious. I told my parents i was 17, I had been with my girl for 1yrs and it was getting serious that's why i told them, But i had already had a cover up boyfriend(who i had fell in love with) so they thought i was lying. When i told them a week later we we're having sex she thought i was crazy, that it was all in my head. That it was all fake my wife and i have now been together for 3yrs. Some parents know but most of them have no clue!
in wateva you decide to do good luck!
2006-08-09 01:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by ur_scooby_snack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think my parents have a slight suspicion, but they don't want to believe I am gay. If parents have an ideal vision of their kids and future grandchildren, they'll never expect the gay announcement
2006-08-08 17:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best of advice is to pray and to wait until sure feeling atrraction to the same sex is normal it doesn't mean you are bi, but if you stay that why then yes whether your parents accepted it or not you should tell them good luck.
2006-08-08 16:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by nexus2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in many cases parents suspect their child may be gay and in even more cases they don't. I think alot of times when it is suspected, parents often either consciously or unconsciously go into denial. Some feel this protects the child and for some its a way of protecting themselves..
2006-08-08 16:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋