What should I do? My fiance wants me to move back into his mothers house with him.?

Question

We got into a fight well lets just say everythings always my fault and she wants me to pay all the bills nsleep on the couch but i kinda have no other choice cause im being kicked out again. what should i do?

Answer 1

sounds like you need to get the hell out and do it quickly. tell the mamma's boy and his mother to have a nice life together. if he can't stand up to his mother and defend you or support you any better than that, well it's probably just going to get worse. tell the tittie baby to STEP! you will have to start doing for yourself...and if you're paying all the bills at mommie's house, why can't you pay all the bills in your own house where you make all the decisions?

Answer 2

Do not move into your fiance's mother's house. If she expects you to pay the bills that must mean you have a job. Rent your own place. If your fiance isn't willing to go for that idea, get a new man.

My sister-in-law is living with her bf at his mom's house. She has loads of problems. She is also pregnant. The bf won't let her rent her own place, he even threatens to take the baby if she tries. She has lived there for 3 years now. When she comes home from work and wants to relax, she doesn't feel comfortable enough to put her feet up. She worries about how much housework and cooking to do. If she does too much, then they think it's not good enough for her, if she does too little they call her lazy.
It never works out if a couple live with someone else. There will be constant fighting. And yet not enough privacy to do the fighting.

Answer 3

Fiance and he doesn't live on his own?! What is going on in your lives that you 1.)aren't financially stable enough to have your own place 2.) are irresponsible enough to be getting kicked out of your current situation 3.) have a big fight that causes you to leave and still believe it's a good idea to continue with a marriage that is clearly doomed from the start. Yeah, good luck with that train wreck.

Answer 4

Be a woman do what you need to do in order to live in a house that belongs to you and tell your fiance that you are marrying him not his mother. Why pay bills and sleep on someone else's couch and you can just get your own. If he is your fiance then he should want better for himself too not to just live with mommy. Tell him to grow up or stay home with mommy.

Answer 5

His mother might be jealous of you, so no matter how hard you try to do things right , she'll blame you. If he's a mamma's boy he'll never make you feel like your more important then her. You have to do some soul searching and figure out if living with them is really going to make you happy. Maybe if you feel emotionally strong enough you could not live there. It's not like you'd be breaking up, it would be telling your fiance that you are not going to put up with this.

Answer 6

Sounds like you need to grow up and so does your loser fiance. Why would you want to marry a man that lives with his mother in the first place? Maybe you need to think why you are being kicked out and change your behavior? No one needs to get married if they can't first support themselves in rent, a car, and groceries.
If both of you depend on your parents for that still, neither one of you needs to get married.
Clean up your act, get an education, quit doing drugs, please, please, don't have a baby that we as tax payers will have to pay for because you can't get a job or are too lazy to find one and become a member of society that your future kids would be proud of to call Mom and Dad.

Answer 7

Stay with your fiance but don't live in his house. That will simply ruin your (future) marriage. Let's say you get married. You will have missed out on a good, peaceful lifestyle because you lived in someone else's house. Also you will not have the respect of your mother-in-law for a long, long time, and that will be torture! Every Thanksgiving, Christmas, Birthday, will be a complete drama and headache. And then once you have kids it will be incredibly stressful to deal with his mother. You'll always remember her as the lady who kicked you out of her house, and one day you'll have to welcome her into yours. Are you ready for that?

Answer 8

No - you shouldn't really get engaged to a guy who is still living with mother and wants you to live there with him. Mother will treat you both like irresponsible little children who can't do anything for yourselves. You're fiance needs to get a place for both of you and tie the knot. You see, there are alot of guys out there who are a little too attached to mother. Unless they are willing to break the bond - you'll never have respect as a wife and equal adult partner. You'll be treated like a pitiiful little child and his mother will feel so good about herself for helping you do what you can't do for yourself. Sorry, but I couldn't live with someone feeling sorry for me thank you very much. You're going to be miserable - unless that mother in law is a very very unique person.

Answer 9

You can never successfully compete with mamma. If he won't stand up for you now and lets his mother mistreat you, what makes you think it'll get better after you get married? My advice is run as hard and as fast as you can in the opposite direction. Nothing I have ever experienced is any worse than a hostile moth-in-law. You don't stand a chance. I don't know your situation, but for your own health and sanity, and possibly your life, please get out of that situation FAST.

Answer 10

Find a way to live on your own or deal with her. You can't expect to live under her roof and not play by her rules.

Talk to your fiance about how you feel about the situation and brainstorm for other options. Is there some way you can afford to do this on your own? Can you stay with anyone else?