HELP me pleaz
2006-08-08 15:44:54 · 40 answers · asked by Hott_Gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry for your loss.
Take comfort that his sufferring will come to an end.
Think of yourself in that situation, often it is for the best.
2006-08-08 15:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by RDHamm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is very hard to lose a grandparent. Crying is actually helpful. But if you want to stop at least for a little while, try talking to your family and sharing good memories of him. If you can, share them in the same room as him. Let him know that your family is bonding together to help him let go. Getting to a point where you can all support each other will make things easier. My Grandpa passed away 2 years ago and as we sat in the hospital waiting, day after day, we shared stories. "remember when..." then we would all laugh. Laughing is a good thing, don't feel guilty about it. You are sharing and remembering the good times, which is what you really want to do.
This is a really sad time, and you will cry a lot. I still cry occassionally. If you are religious, cling to the idea that he will be in a better place. If not, take comfort that soon his pain will be gone, he won't suffer anymore.
I do wish you luck in this. I understand where you are completely, I've been there.
I wish you strength to bond with family to help you through this.
2006-08-08 15:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by goodlittlegirl11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it hurts to have a loved one gone. No one can will be able to take your grandpa's place in your heart. The emptiness you that you will feel will pass. Now is the time to reflect on times past and to be thankful for those good times the Lord allowed you to share with your grandfather. And yes even the trials that you went through. I know that dwelling on these things will cause the tears to flow, but there is nothing wrong in that, it will give you the emotional release that you need. It can also be therapeutic. Another thing to know is that your grandfather's soul will be in heaven with Christ when he passes. Think about it and be happy for him that he will be in glory with the Lord. Your grandfather is going to a place of glory and leaving this sin-cursed world behind. No more disappointments, no more pain as these things will be replaced for him with the wonders of heaven. Recognizing this also takes the sting out of bitter regrets. Deeds of kindness that is left undone that should have been done, the " I love you's " told to your grandfather more often, all these things may have good cause, but don't let them bring you down into depression. Stop and think about it for awhile. Those things which you said or didn't say, or what you didn't do, do you think it makes a difference to your grandfather now? No, of course not, because where he's going all the cares, troubles, and hurts of this life will be forever passed. All the hard times and bitterness are going to be replaced by the goodness of heaven and forgotten. Don't dwell on what you might have done or should have done, rather, be glad that the unkind words or cruel deeds are past, forgotten.
For right now thank God for the times you shared together and anticipate the glorious reunion in the future.
2006-08-08 16:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you find a way to stop crying doesn't mean that you don't feel the same way inside. The best thing for you to do is to stay close to your loved ones during this time. When my grandmother died, my sister and I cried all over each other. There's nothing wrong with you for crying. Were I you, I'd worry more if I didn't cry about something like that.
2006-08-08 15:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by aghostprofilebeingempty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your grandpa. Spend as much time with him as you can and if he can hear you tellhim how much you love him. Remind him of things you have done together and tell him what he means to you. Be strong while you talk to him and then go to another room and cry your eyes out. Your grandpa would not want to see you so sad. I know it is a hard thing but if he is sick and suffering, that will end when he passes. Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 15:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang around him alot. Confront as much of this as possible. People are always telling others to "Look away."
That's not the way to live life. Things have to be looked AT. I don't mean "think about" - I really mean LOOKING. Like, go SEE him. Visit. Talk. Let him show you photographs. Let him teach you some old school stuff (that's always very interesting). Let him tell you about his first love. You can find alot to talk with him about or learn about him.
Real world stuff. Don't stay hidden in some room and get all caved in. Stay living in the real world and take advantage of him while he's still around.
When my grandmothers were dying, I made sure they told me all of the stories about themselves, their childhoods and whatever else.
When they died, I didn't get too upset at all.
2006-08-08 16:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by John C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is a part of life. It is as natural as birth. You need to treat him kindly and talk to him even if he can't talk back or you're not sure if he is listening. (Trust me, hearing is always the last to go.) Just realize if you cry too much in his presence, then it prolongs his suffering as it can make it harder for him to pass. Just knowing you are there in love and wanting to see him comfortable to the end will give him the strength to face what he needs to face.
When you are away from him, cry your eyes out. Mourning is natural. I wish you felt like reading now, but there is a great out of the body experience recorded by a physician. It is called Return to Tomorrow. You might want to read that in the weeks following the funeral. Don't be afraid to reach out to your family or your clergy at a time like this as well. My prayers are with you.
2006-08-08 15:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by whozethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old you are and what role your grandpa plays in your life. You don't need to force yourself to stop crying. If you cry is because you need to.
You need to look for information about your religion, and think about the afterlife according to that, and have faith. That will make you come to terms with your own sadness and stress.
Talk to a religious person such as a minister. Try to think about God as much as you think about your grandpa. Best of luck.
2006-08-08 15:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by LibraSun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't stop the tears. You are hurt knowing he is going to die. Talk to him. Have him tell you some stories. That way when he is gone you have something special that the two of you shared. Time will heal. But just keep the memories alive. I am sure he wouldn't want you to cry for him but rather to remember him.
2006-08-08 15:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about all the good times you guys had together. Think about where hes going. If he's in pain than remember that where hes going their isn't going to be any pain. Its not easy I know my husband died 21 years ago and I still hurt some all i can say is that as time goes by you learn to cope with it better but the pain never goes away.
2006-08-08 15:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by misty eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to cry sugar, then cry...if you are ready to stop then try to think of the happy things you can remember about your grandpa....maybe stories he used to tell, or things y'all did together...jokes or anecdotes about him...
It's okay to be sad...it's a difficult thing to go through...but you'll be okay...and he'll live on as long as he is in the memory of you and others in your family....
I hope his passing is easy and painless...and wish peace and comfort and strength for those he leaves behind...
2006-08-08 15:49:59 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋