I've told her so many time about this. She also promised me not to do it but she is still doing it. According to her there's nothing going on between them but she tends to talk more to that guy rather then talking to me. What is the best way to advise her?
2006-08-08 15:37:33 · 20 answers · asked by callibrator 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she was a flirt when you met her, what did you expect?
2006-08-08 15:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is to find out why she talks more to another guy than she does her own husband. That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. What is it between this guy and your wife?
She needs to step back and look at things from your point of view. There really may be only friendship between them, but a married woman communicating and flirting with another man gives the wrong impression.
2006-08-08 22:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you're sure it's a guy she's textng? well either she could be trying to make you jealous maybe so that you'll pay her more attention, or maybe it's just a friend of hers so totally harmless or she has smthing goin on with this dude & doesn't really care what you think, or else she would've respected that you're bothered by this & stopped? It's upto you to find out which one it is and make a serious decision. On a side note: if you have already asked her & she hasn't listened you really need to let her know how much it's botherin you, it might not be as bad as you think :)
2006-08-08 23:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by tgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear her actions are a deal breaker. Ask her how she'd feel if you were sending messages like that and communicating with another woman...it's cheating, pure and simple.Sex doesn't have to occur for there to be a betrayal.
Perhaps y'all should seek couples counseling. There's a reason why she's interested in this guy (or what he represents) and is reluctant to cut off communication....it would help to find out what that is, and then work toward resolving it.
2006-08-08 22:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't 'tell' her what to do, everybody hates being ordered around. I personally find her behaviour reprehensible. If she loves you, I'd think she'd want you to be happy. She has some sort of need/desire this guy is satisfying. Maybe if you could discover what it is, you could help her. But this needs to end very soon. These emotional affairs - even though not physical - are dangerous and can be fatal to a marriage. Possibly you even need marriage counselling. Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 22:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by huztuno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's priming herself for an affair. She's talking online "playing out" and flirting...an actual physical affair will come next, which may or may not be someone online. If you keep your head stuck in the sand, the next thing you know you will be buried and she'll be walking right over you to someone else. You cannot ignore a problem and expect it to work itself out.
2006-08-08 23:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Dude, Wake Up - she's having an affair on you.
If may not be physical, just yet, but she is at least having an emotional affair on you.
Tell her to stop or the marriage ends.
2006-08-08 22:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by TonyB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to cut the shenanigans or you are out of there. Then be willing to follow your words with action, if necessary. You teach people how to treat you. She apparently needs a lesson in what you will put up with and what you won't put up with. Be true to yourself. After all, you have to live with you all of the time.
2006-08-09 00:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the simplest answer would be to tell her that she is married to you and not other guys and it hurts you that she is doing something that she promised she'd stop. I hope things work out. Good Luck!
2006-08-08 22:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be a real idiot if you let that happen.she has probably already had cyber sex with this guy.you are slowly being phased out of her life.shock her and pack a bag and move out.she will appreciate it and start having her real romeo over to have real sex with him.you sound like a loser, so you must be used to being treated like that by a woman.
2006-08-08 22:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dontt know becuase i am very flitatiuous also, but i think because it has alwyas been a part of my person ality no one has caught on to it, i mean i flirt big time and i shouldnt but i do, i know its wrong but i dont know what to do
2006-08-08 22:42:01 · answer #11 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋