i wanna get pregnant?

Question

so me and my bf have been togehter for a lil over a year now and we love each other very much we got tattoos of each others name and everythign he has my portrait on his neck and and arm and i want a baby but he doesnt any advice on how i can get pregnant we dont even use birth control anymore cuz he said he doesnt want us to have kids yet so we always use condoms any advice on wat to do

i wanna get pregnant and i know he'll b here cuz he said he wood if i did get pregnant u think poking holes in the condoms could help

Answer 1

Try getting married first.

Answer 2

This doesn't make any sense to me. You DON'T use birth control anymore, but you always use condoms. Condoms, as far as I know, are birth control. Maybe not foolproof, but they are birth control.

As far as what to do? If he is not willing to have kids and you are, then you need to move on. You've been together a year, pretty good, but not an eternity. You're not even married. How can you have kids without being married?? I know it happens, but usually by accident. In this case, you know you want one, and he knows he doesn't. Hey, the tattoo thing was foolish. If you both break up, you're gonna regret the tattoos, but having a child when you're not even married and thus unsure about your future? Right off the bat you're putting that child at a disadvantage, and if you want a child you'll love, you don't wanna put him/her in that situation, right?

I can't stress this enough: I am NOT trying to be some holier than thou preacher (and the thought that I might sound like Dr Laura makes me cringe), I just wish you'd ask yourself questions before anything happens. Sorry if I came across otherwise.

Don't do it......I don't know your age, but you sound young. If so, you have plenty of time.....be patient....

Answer 3

If he doesn't want kids, he doesn't want kids.

Period.

If you want to, or you feel you need to, then maybe he isn't
the guy for you.

Maybe he'll change his mind later, but if he insists
on using condoms there is at least the possibility that he
doesn't trust you to use some other method of birth control.

And frankly, from the wording of the question, I don't blame him.
This is not a "once he sees how adorable they are, he'll
be OK" kind of scenario.

Imagine that same trick played on you!

Answer 4

If he does not want to have kids and you get pregnant he will leave you. If you love each other like you say you do you will still be together when he is ready to be a father... Having kids means a lot of changes and you have only been together for a little over a year

Answer 5

You have to be honest with him. If he really doesn't want kids and you get pregnant he might leave you because of it, tattoo or no tattoo.

Let him know that you love him so much you want to have a child with him and ask him if he doesn't want kids now why not and when does he think he will be ready for kids. He might have reasons for not wanting kids now, maybe he's putting some money together so you can afford to have a kid or maybe he wants to marry you first.

Goodluck!

Answer 6

Be sure you are BOTH ready for kids. Children put a strain on a relationship because they take so much time. Time that was once spent with each other now must be divided with the kids.

Answer 7

First of all, you have to respect your man's feelings. Second of all a baby is a lifetime responsiblity, maybe it should take more than a year and half to be responsible for a baby's daddy. Third of all, if you really love your man then anything you want from him, is worth waiting for.

Answer 8

First off, condoms are birth control. Second, just apply the used condom and you may just get pregnant.
Good luck.

Answer 9

RESPECT HIS WISHES. MY DAUGHTER WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING THAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH. BUT SHE HAD A SON. THAT LOVE THAT HE PROFESSED LEFT OUT REALLY QUICK. SHE NOW IS RAISING HIM BY HERSELF (OF COURSE SHE STILL LIVES WITH ME). HE JUST TURNED 4YRS OLD AND IS A BEAUTIFUL LIL BOY. I KNOW IT'S HIS LOSS, BUT MY GRANDSON WILL NEVER KNOW HIS FATHER OR THE FAMILY THAT HE'S ASSOCIATED WITH. I JUST HOPE THINGS WILL CHANGE. GOOD LUCK IN YOUR DECISION. IF YOU TRAP HIM, HE'LL HATE YOU AND THE BABY FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE. IF YOU WANT CHILDREN THAT BADLY AND YOU ARE SELF-SUFFICIENT, CHOOSE A MAN TO FATHER YOUR CHILD THAT WON'T TURN HIS BACK ON YOU AND THE BABY. A CHILD SHOULD KNOW BOTH PARENTS.

Answer 10

Wait. You can't try and have a baby if he doesn't want one. Chances are that if you got pregnant he would think it wasn't his or he'd think that you are trying to trap him. You need to respect his feelings about this.