I want to know how can i break up with my married girlfriend?

Question

We are seeing each other for around 3 years and I try to break up every month for the past 12 months, but she simply doesn't allow me, she said she will hurt her self and i will destroy her life.

I am tired of this, i met her husband and he is a very nice man, i feel ashame of myself i just don't know how to break up, she is 5 years older than me but she is very amature, i put my self in a hall and i am not able to get out of it.

she now wants to get divorce and live with me, it is impossible, my situation doesn't allow me to think of marriage and she is not the type of woman i want to mary to.

please send me your ownest advise

Answer 1

Oh , just do it please, don't wait anymore, we all make mistakes from time to time but you don't have to punish yourself anymore than you have, I'm glad you considered her husband , if not before at least now, it doesn't matter how you do it, you just have to do it for yourself, you said you don't want to be with her forever so just do it.

Answer 2

Well, she's trying to "fear" you into staying with her. Tell her you don't want to see her anymore, that her husband is a nice guy and you will NOT break up her marriage. Tell her if she wants to divorce him, fine, but don't do it for you, because you don't want to be in her life anymore. This really has gone on for too too long now, I'm sure you know that. She will regret what she has done. She has destroyed her life by having an affair. But she wants to make you feel responsible. Your in the wrong as well, as you well know. You should have never gotten involved with a married women. Your going to have to be straight up with her and just get out of the picture real quick. You don't want to marry her you said because she is not the type of women you want to marry. Well, no, she's not, she cheated with you, didn't she? See what I'm saying. Your a part of this. Your just going to have to be honest with her, leave and never look back. Hope you don't live in a small town where you might run into each other. You may have to change your phone number and move in the long run. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

I tell you what, years and years of people making these same mistakes and no one learning from them. She married the relationship never should have started. Now that you are here. Let's see what you can do.

1. Ignore her self pity cries. She will not injure herself. She has found a way to keep holding on and you are falling for it.

2. Accept her living together proposal and get used to her doing this type of thing for the rest of your life.

3. Grow up be a man and go to her husband. This is a very brave step. Be sure you have thought this out first. And your medical insurance is paid up (just in case)

Answer 4

Oh boy. Obviously whatever you are saying or doing to end the relationship is not working if its been going on for a year. First of all, this woman is married. Where does she get off using emotional blackmail by saying "she will hurt herself and I will destroy her life?" She is not your responsibility. She does not own you. You are not a possession of hers. If you really, truly want out of this relationship you have to put your foot down. You have to be firm and resolute. That means no contact. Sever all contact with her. Don't answer her calls. Don't answer the door if she bangs on it till the cows come home. Call the cops. No emails, no letters, no replying to letters. That's it. She cannot control you unless you allow her to, so you are as much to blame for being unable to disengage yourself from this messy relationship. And as far as her telling you she is going to kill herself or hurt herself-------tell her to go see a shrink. You say you are tired of this. You say you feel ashamed of yourself, you say she not the type of woman you want to marry--------so why is it so difficult for you to cut her loose? You can continue going along the way you are and lose your mind and health in the process or you can put your foot down and end the relationship once and for all.. Good Luck

Answer 5

Well, maybe you could try telling her exactly what you were telling the readers in paragraph 2 of your question. As for her telling you that she's going to hurt herself if you break up with her, she's probably bluffing. She might just be saying that so you will stay with her longer. You might also try explaining to her that it would be impossible for her to divorce her husband and live with you, because your situation won't allow marriage. I hope things work out. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You can't break up with someone that isn't yours. She is married. Tell her you were wrong to start anything with her and now your finished. Personally she doesn't deserve an explanation. Just stop seeing her and don't take her calls anymore. She'll get the message.

Answer 7

What do you mean she will not allow you to break it off with her??? She is the one that is married not you. You are single, got involved with a married woman, had your fun and now you wanna bounce..So just do it.

So what! if she says that she will hurt herself and destroy her life, she is a grown *** woman, that will be her decision and her choice. She told you that line so you can feel sorry for her.

Stand up for yourself and walk out of her life for good. Change your phone number, remain distant and avoid her at all times because once you make contact, that's it, she's got you again.

Stop falling for her tricks, if you really want to move on, then do it and stop making excuses for her. Leave before her man finds out the truth about you!

during your next relationship, try to make a habit of dating single women, you know, the one's that are not attached men. you don't want to make a habit of dating married women, because you never know the type of husband she may have, he might be the one to go crazy on your ***..so go the Single route!

Answer 8

Sounds like you both are married cheaters, because you said your situation doesn't allow you to think of marriage. I can't believe you met her husband and actally can look into his eyes, while having an affair with his wife. Yes, you got yourself in a hole and now its time to get out of it fast. Tell your mistress its over and she should stop maninupaliting and controlling your life. Tell her the truth about your feelings. If you have a wife you might confess, because your girlfriend is sick and might hurt you or your wife. Its time to take full responsibilty of your actions, whatever the outcome might be you coward.

Answer 9

Put an end...... You have to be heartless at this point and tell her "You aren't my type of marriage partner and there is no point for you to forgo your present marriage for the sake of me. I'll never marry you and I'm sorry... I hope from now onwards, I prefer not to meet each other". "If you thinking to hurt yourself just to make me feel guilty, then you're in wrong because I'll feel nothing no matter how foolish acts you are going to do".

Take this advise or you can choose to ignore - but if you keeping to drag on and on, it only brings harm and suffer for both of you and her husband is a real victim who doesn't deserve such treatment from anyone of you. Be sensible and mature..

Answer 10

My god in heaven, either people don’t know how to read, or they don’t care about people if they are up to no good.
You are in one sour pickle jar, my friend. Do not heed the other advice and just tell her. she is probably in a self-harming emotional state. Yes, she’s a cheater and she is manipulating you, but she’d probably harm herself given the right incentive. BTW, shame on you both. Sorry, I had to get that out.
Now, your best course of action is to get in tight with the husband, tell him that his wife has communicated to you that she is having suicidal ideations. He can have her committed. Once she is safe and in a therapeutic environment, you can let the cat out of the bag. The husband will be less likely to beat you or kill you because of the concern you showed for his wife’s well being. At least she will be safe and you don’t have to carry her blood on your hands.

Answer 11

Shes manipulating you.What a cow!! Dont believe her lies about getting a divorce, shes a control freak. You need to take control of this situation once and for all. Do NOT be afraid of her, believe me shes more scared of her man finding out about what shes up to. Tell her in no uncertain terms that you "need" to tell her husband, because you feel SO guilty and just cant be silent any longer.... say it like you mean it. You wont see her for dust. Good luck in getting rid of this awful cow!