2006-08-08 15:21:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
True to an extent...like everything. If your too nice, meaning you let everyone walk all over you by being overly nice, yes. I never quite understood this...honestly what is so wrong with being nice I get ripped on all the time for being 'too nice'. I never thought that it was a bad thing...until I realized how nice I was being. There is being polite saying please and thank you (which I've always done and is not going to change no matter what anyone says) and then for example there is too nice for example: say a co-worker continues to ask you to do their work for them and for a while it doesn't bug you and raises no suspicion. However, it continues until that person is using you all of the time...thats where the line needs to be drawn there is nice....and then there is getting walked all over. The average nice person would say something to the co-worker and it would eventually be resolved. The overly nice person on the other hand would let it continue and therefore the user loses respect for the person doing the deeds for them.
All in all it is ok to be nice to people I practice random acts of kindness on a daily bases...the difference is I probably won't see the person I held the door open for ever again so it makes their day. When your see people on a daily basis there has to be a balance between being too nice and looking out for yourself.
You know whats right and whats wrong and if someone needs help go to it. Thats what I usually do if people want to not like me because I'm too nice that's their perogitive...not mine. I think I have respect...I work hard so that makes up for it I guess (not that I have anything to make up for...geeze I'm starting to sound like being nice is a crime lol) its really all in the eye of the beholder.
Another difference is you can be nice to someone thats fine but if your in an authouritative position you need to act on whats best for the buisness/company whatever. Hey I know I have more respect for managers who have a balance of being nice and having the power to make decisions verses the ones who are just plain @$$holes.
2006-08-08 17:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by KitKat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice usually means being pleasing and that usually means not annoying or displeasing anyone and that means becoming a doormat and doormats seldom get respected.
Instead be loving, caring and nurturing, but first be all that to yourself, so that then what ever you do for others is a natural outflow of the love you feel within.
Otherwise what ever you do for other would be out of your neediness, and you might be thinking that only if you are nice enough you will get loved or respect.
Neither is the truth, because no one will respect you, unless you respect yourself first. People don’t treat you badly, they only treat you, the way you teach them to, so watch out what message are you giving to them take responsibility of all your interaction, never make other person the prime focus of any interaction.
People hurt us only when we allow them to, by giving them more importance than we are giving to our own self respect. That giving others the permission as well as the power to hurt us, so the best way to get your power dynamics in order is to take back the power you gave away early in life, never give anyone the power to approve or disapprove you.
As for yourself, only give your love away and not your power.
2006-08-09 00:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. This isn't a black and white situation. For the most part, I attempt to be at least courteous to people, if not precisely "nice" and most especially when I'm at work. People may glare at me for giving any sign of concern for their needs, but I can just shrug those sourpusses off and move on. Not all, or even most of the people I offer assistence to are rude to me just because I smile at them and offer my help. I believe that it is best to just be polite as a default and not worry too much about what other people think about you.
2006-08-08 22:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by Iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a lie, nice people get respect. You should be nice to people and expect that they respect you for being nice. If they don't respect you for being nice, kick their a s s and that will change their minds really quick. Then just ask them, "What's it going to be, nice or another whuppin?"
2006-08-08 22:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by valcus43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that most people appreciate a warm invitation. An answer when mild usually makes matters better. Yet there is nothing wrong with being assertive.
2006-08-09 15:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly there is some truth to this. People will often mistake kindness as weakness. So many of us walk around asking WWJD and when someone actually does it, they are taken advantage of and thought to be weak or indecisive.
A better question is why are so many people...so cruel-hearted.
2006-08-09 00:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by KERMIT M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being "nice" connotes different things to different cultures. If you mean, being "servile" or being a "pushover", then you won't be respected because this type of attitude projects that you think lowly of yourself that you would do anything you are told to do. But if you mean being "courteous" or being reasonably "of service", I think it is an admirable trait.
2006-08-08 22:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by brie2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be smart. Choose the right people to be nice to. Not all people reciprocate niceness. Through time and experience you will know when to be nice and when not to bother.
2006-08-12 16:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Alfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a person who gives his or her seat to an elderly or infirm person not be respected?
If you mean pushover then no, no one likes a lilly liver.
2006-08-10 00:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so
2006-08-08 22:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋