why does my husband make fun of my eating and weight and my clothes?

Answer 1

There could be a few reasons.

But first of all do you agree that you overeat & overweight? People overeat b/c they are insecure & eating make them feel better temporarily. Your hub shouldn't make fun of it b/c when he does he's not helping you overcoming your problem- that's assuming that he's trying to help you by making fun of you. Second reason is perhaps he does that to make him feel better about himself- so maybe he's a prick to begin with.

In any case, he's not supposed to make fun of you, but it all comes back to you. If you think you have a problem with yourself you should try and fix it- and tell your hub you're trying to change your eating habit and that his support would mean a lot to you. If he loves you he'll understand. Notice here that I have no comment about your clothes b/c everyone's taste is different- you can either stay the way you are if you absolutely love the way you dress. If you don't, well I suggest do your own research to improve yourself.

In the nutshel, people feel insecure about themselves & they often do something destructive to themselves in order to make themselves feel better. You need to make a choice & get out of the rut- once you're making steps to make you feel better about yourselves, people will respect you at the end.

When you have succeeded & your hub still makes fun & unappreciating you- then you really need to re-think your relship with him & perhaps rid of him of your life.

Answer 2

It makes me wonder what your husband thought of you when he married you. What attracted you to him then? Because in the beginning the thing that attracts is physical appearance and character. Sometimes those two things do not go together. Good looks does not guarantee good character!
A person who is careless in his everyday habits, who takes no interest in keeping himself clean and presentable, proves two things: he does not really love his spouse as he should and he does not care what people think.
We cannot have a satisfying relationship with another person if he has a low opinion of us. In our daily life, in our relationships with friends and family, it makes all the difference in the world what they think of us. How can we be accepted or have respect from others if our appearance or body odor is offensive to them?
When we love someone, we want to please them. Perhaps a sit down with your husband and talk about what is it about you that he would want you to change. Furthermore, I'm wondering also, if he has taken any steps to improve this picture. He wants a beautiful wife, then he should be encouraging you instead of putting you down. I don't buy this put-down from your husband and fear there is an other reason behind his complaining.
I seriously believe that both of you need to talk it out before you become so depressed about the situation. God bless and serious, I hope you can work it out.

Answer 3

well besides the fact that he is mean he obviously is insecure and wants you to feel bad about yourself - my husband has a tendency to do this - while he doesn't make fun of me he will make cracks to me about when and what I eat - have heard a few comments about my "grandma" undergarments etc... of course I have 2 kids - been married for 15 yrs and am an at home mom - I just ripped into him one day about the fact that if he didn't allow me to tco myself by shopping - getting my hair done etc then what the f did he expect - tell your man to back down - I know it hurts and you feel alone but you aren't - make sure you are ok w/you and regard him as a "hostile witness" -

Answer 4

Because he has the mindset of an abuser.. And also because you are allowing it to continue.. You cannot change him. But you can change yourself. The likelihood of him doing this to the next person if and when you break up is about 99.9%. Read Lundy Bancroft's books. Look it up on Amazon, or he has his own website.. He has zero respect for you, and it will destroy you until you leave.

Answer 5

He is a disrespectful pig. Why are with someone like this. Get away from him and let him find someone else to hurt and abuse. You don't need anyone hurting you like that. Leave the pig to enjoy his life away from you. I'm sure he is a handsome guy , it sucks when a woman has a guys baby and then he complains because she isn't all sleek and racy anymore. Guys like that suck big green boogers.

Answer 6

Don't get mad, get even. Loose weight, wear sexy clothes, flirt with other duuudes. Thats getting even. Use him to your advantage. Don't let your self go hon. You should maintain your beauty no matter what... then lots of things happen in your life.. make friends. Have a social life.

Answer 7

Because he feels insecure with himself and he doesn't want you feeling too good about yourself, because then you might leave. Sorry, but that was my first thought.

I think you need to talk to him about boundaries..tell him that you wont' put up with him running you down anymore. Make sure that he knows that this is making you feel distant from him and that in time it will only get worse. Just say it like it is..that's what he does. Sorry to hear he is trying to hurt your self-esteem..just don't let it work. Good luck!

Answer 8

im not married, but ive read stories like dis in magazines, and if hes makin fun of u like dat, hes abusing u, and i think, be4 this gets really bad, u should take marrage counceling,and if nothing else, divorce, cause hes either unstable wit himself, or not ready 4 a good relationship.

Answer 9

Because he wants to make you feel worthless so that you won't realize you're better than him. Try making fun of the size of his penis or his lack of ability in bed.

Answer 10

If you weighed 115 when you married and weigh 250 now, you know the answer. If not then he's just a pig.