My girlfriend (Russian, well from Minsk, Belarus) met on Yahoo Personals just under a year ago..I helped her out while she was unemployed, by the way she's a civil engineer, .Anyway to cut a long story short...we were so close together, so comfortable..both agreeing that we could be soulmates. I got her an apartment in my complex with her daughter, to save her rent from her previous dwelling...everything was so good between us. She's working now as a security guard and recently got a bartending job up the road from where we live. She works five nights a week...Not a high class place to mention...anyway she met someone there and I only found out about it by accident..this was last Sunday one week ago...well she came into my apartment after she finished her shift and said that she wanted to talk..this was 4:00am..Bascilally I told her to leave and never to call me agian..She still wants to be my best friend and soulmate. I'm totally heart broken and want closure. Any suggestions..
2006-08-08 14:37:18 · 14 answers · asked by ken K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just tonight, I met her at the bar where she was working, and told her thatI had left a message on ther answering machine at home and to at least have the decency to reply. My message was that I wanted at least to meet her (to get closure). When I got home a couple of minutes later, she called me to say that she had listened. She said that she wanted to spend time with me...??? and that she would call me when she had time on the weekend.After her work she came home and I could see her with the other guy outside across the parking lot. She blatenly started kissing him so that I could see, she ten got into his car and drove off, I suppose to his place. She really rubbed it in and I knew that she must have know that I was watching, I'm not sure though.......By the way, Im 49, she's 43....Thanks to all who replied..this is making me feel a bit better....Now I kind of know what type of person I was with.
2006-08-08 20:19:37 · update #1
There's nothing you CAN do. Just consider it a lesson on life and go on with your life.
2006-08-08 14:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really heartbreaking to know that the person you love very much no longer have eyes for you but for someone else. Sorry about that. But you were right when you separated ways with her because you don't deserve her. She really could have loved you but not enough for her to love you forever.
Don't believe that you are soulmates because soulmates (as I read from articles) complement each other, thus making each person whole meaning that your soulmate will make your life complete, happy, and successful. Considering that she found somebody else when she could have chosen you to be her partner all her life, she hurt you for sure and if she was your soulmate, by the supernatural law about soulmates, she should have not done that to you.
For you to pick up the pieces brought about by that incident in your life, you just have to move on with the hope and belief in your mind and heart that, at the proper time and place, the right person will come your way through Destiny's help.
You'll never know, but she still could be her that you are destined to be with all your life. Give Destiny enough time to pave the way for your heart's happiness. Good luck.
2006-08-08 22:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe she used you to get what she needed. I have seen this story with a lot of Russian women. I think friend or acquaintance is as far as you will get. Soulmate is farfetched, by even the meaning of it. She demonstrated traits towards you that are hard to accept even in a friend. The reason why she told you about the other guy has little to do with honesty believe me, it probably has more to do with the fact that she wanted to leave you and she was ready to do it, to be with this other guy. You have done well in getting her out of your life, every single corner of it as it would be a reminder of what she has done and not good for your self-esteem as she used you.
The reason why she is saying she wants to be your best friend or soulmate is probably she has some conscience left and feels bad about it, a little, or she wants to use you again when she needs it, since you seem to be a guy who is pretty sorted.
Your heart will be mended and you will have your closure, but with time. Just whatever efforts she tries to make contact, ignore them.
A soulmate wouldn't certainly do what she did. You will find one soon enough, people in this world only stay alone because they want to.
Take care,
Doppelganger
2006-08-08 21:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Doppelganger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try not to focus on her. She was just using you because you were the kind man she knew she could count on, but if that is the kind of person she wants to be then you are better off with out her. You should move on i am sure there is someone else out there that is ment for you and one day she will know what she missed out on.
2006-08-15 17:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lelia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure just be her friend and after a while youll get used to seeing her with her new guy. maybe even get to be such a close friend that she starts telling you how great it is to have sex with him and maybe you will get to watch her go from that guy to another only being nice to you when she needs something or is single for a minute. ooohh or maybe you will get to watch her daughter while she goes out laughing and and having fun with some other guy that she will have in her mouth later that night while you watch tv with her kid shes getting banged in the apartment you got her.
2006-08-08 21:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by ben b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a big heart and this time you got a knife in it!Cut your losses,no use is carrying baggage around for her.Find someone new To her soulmate means SUGERDADDY!
2006-08-16 14:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for a change, closure will only cause more grief, just leave and go about your way, as for soulmates, do think SO!, you don't do that to someone you really care about
2006-08-15 18:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not worth your time. Tell her goodbye. Get involved in other activities and try to get over her. It will take time, since you felt that you were soulmates. Good Luck.
2006-08-08 21:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a healer, take time to greive your lost love, but try not to contact her,you will meet someone who will appreciate you.
2006-08-15 20:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her then stay friends.
Or let her go.
2006-08-16 21:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kyra D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋