Where can a preacher's wife get someone to explain what helps you have a orgasm during intercourse? What is

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wrong with me if I can't have one? Is this normal?

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with you, except your boring life with a man who's given himself 100% over to a false religion. You need to ask him to leave his cloak in the chapel and be the man you want him to be at home. Actors don't usually become the people they are playing outside of work, and neither should he. He needs to experiment things with you in the bedroom. You need to ask him to do things to you, things you've always dreamt about but thought were "bad". Bad is leaving a man because you haven't shared your thoughts with him.
Not many women regularly orgasm through intercourse, most use intercourse as a means to an end- the end being the stimulation of the clitoris through friction. If he is like the Moolaade man (where he just lays on top, fulfills his needs and rolls over to sleep), you need to stop letting yourself be used like a blow-up doll and ask him to attend to your female needs. Foreplay is a necessity- it prepares your mind and body for intercourse, and can speed up your orgasm. Try being on top, closing your eyes and riding him to please yourself.
I've found that not many women allow themselves to orgasm everytime they copulate, once every three times is the average. I still do not know if that is because they feel like a Nympho, because the more pleasure they receive, the more they want, or because their bodies do not build as much endorphins as mine. But what I have found is that tieing a woman up, one who has had trouble with orgasms before, allows me to play with their errogenous zones much longer as they cannot push me away when they feel "sensitive" towards my tongue- this allows them to fulfill their orgasm. It takes time, patience and most importantly, understanding, all dosed in a lot of love.
Talk to your husband- NOT the preacher- and tell him what you want, what you desire, and if he does not, cannot, or will not comprehend you, then maybe he is not the 'one'.

Answer 2

Your husband doesn't seem to be rockin' the Ark. Religion has put such a negative stigma on sex that maybe the both of you have some preconceived opinions about sex, like it's wrong, dirty or sinful. Standard position only, no doggy-style, no shower, never outdoors, lights off, only lasts two minutes, never during the day. Sound familiar? Your husband probably gets off and you don't. That's because a man can reach climax immediately while women need more time. Make your husband have sex with you until you reach your goal. You will both be happier. Change it up, try new things. Absolutely do not listen to the sexually frustrated people at your church. You know the type. They haven't had sex since the Inquisition."Sex is for pro-creation ONLY!" Those type of people are uptight and there's always one or two in every crowd.Church is their breeding ground.They wouldn't know sex if it came up and slapped 'em between the legs!

Answer 3

Can you have one alone? Try getting on top during sex, that is the way a lot of women can orgasm who can't other ways. Also make sure you are really, really turned on before you start actual intercourse. It is really important for you to be assertive during and tell him what does and does not do it for you, laying there and waiting for the "orgasm fairy" will not work!

Answer 4

nothing is wrong with u if u haven't had one. don't say can't. it may be normal. orgasm can completely be affected by medication, whether or not your in deeply, truly in love and feel absolutely comfortable with your husband. if u cannot let ur guard/wall down in the bedroom u probably aren't allowing ur self to orgasm. alot of this is defintely up to us as women we are our own worst woman. i am afraid that as a preachers wife maybe somewhere inside u feel u are doing something bad, sinful wrong. u are absolutely nooooottttt. u are married u are partaking in the ultimate gift that God has bestowed upon us to have as such a sweeettt reward. if u feel it could have to do with some meds. talk to ur doctor. ask questions. i wonder can u achieve by urself. if so then possibly try to get to explain to hubby that u need and want to feel this wonderful orgasm that u can create by yourself and share this gift with him. believe me with all the love ur husband has for you he'll be happy to help in any way im sure and he will find soooo much pleasure in giving u pleasure. i find that clitoral stimulation whether with my hand or his both before and while he is inside is very very very helpful to acheive orgasm. relax and enjoy when u let ur wall down itll happen. gooooddd lucccckkkkkkk

Answer 5

there is nothing wrong to aspire for orgasms during sex, okay? it helps people have satisfaction with themselves during such acts.
however, never be tempted to do it with anyone except your husband.

no, there is nothing wrong with you if you can't have one. it seems your mate hasn't attempted to please you otherwise. now, the trick is, do you want to have an orgasm? surely you would because it is the fulfillment in sex, aside from creating life.

try to explain it to your husband that inspite of the love you have for each other, you feel unfulfilled when sex is concern. talk to him, tell him, the pleasure of a woman is also vital for a good sexual life, for both of you.

try to go to a shrink or a counselor, preferably a female who could relate to you...

relax, it's a phase of life that every female passes and she must communicate it to her mate and make him understand that an orgasm is vital for a healthy relationship between couples...

Answer 6

I think you should find a good gynecologist to go to and ask. Find one who is a women. I think they are more sensitive. You can probably have an orgasm, and probably have had one, but just didn't realize it. Sometimes you have to learn to pay attention to the signals your body is giving you. By all means get some help and enjoy your sexaulity in the way God intended it to be!

Answer 7

It is normal. A lot of females can't achieve orgasms through intercourse. You can try to stimulate your clitoris during and learn about the G-spot. You and your husband should be able to discuss this together and help him learn what feels best for you.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm

Answer 8

As a preachers wife, you seem to ask A LOT of questions about sex. There is something more wrong than we can help you with here!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Couples therapy usually helps...talk to your husband and tell him that he's not satisfying you. There's a very high number...something like three in five women can't have orgasms during sex. You're not alone, but I suggest you talk to your husband about it first, if you haven't.

Answer 10

you can talk to your doctor about that --- and yes, it's very common --- I have heard many women speak to me about this during my 10 plus years in home healthcare.... It's really a problem for most women.