We have been together off and on for 3 years and we have been steady this time for overa year and we just got engaged a few monthes back. when would be a good time to take that plunge.
2006-08-08 14:32:00 · 45 answers · asked by sara 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go with your heart!
2006-08-08 14:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long ago the country folk would do a thing called "Hand Fasting". It wasn't a "religious" ceremony, it was basically two people clasping hands and declaring they were "Hand Fasted". They would live, love, and work together for 1 year and 1 day. If they hadn't parted by that time and they agreed, they were then considered "Married" (Today Handfasting is much like an "Engagement Ceremony")
Engagement periods are just that. Being able to learn about each other before making a lifetime commitment. You should give yourself some time before marriage.
In the meantime, you can both start making plans on where to live and work, about college and career choices, when and if you will have children, about finances, and you can even plan and save up for that special honeymoon.
So, I would start taking some time to getting to know each other before saying "I do" or "I will". If you are going to live a LIFETIME together, it would be worth a year and a day to find out if there will be any difficulties NOW.
(Just a Suggestion)
Plan Wisely and Love Well!
2006-08-08 14:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by dustytymes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with being 17 and in love and ready to be married. In fact I would encourage it if I were convinced that you were ready. Seems to me that you're unsure about it and the only reason why you feel you should be getting married is because you're engaged and feel that marriage is the next step, regardless of if you're ready for it or not. I think marriage is a HUGE step to take and if you were ready then you'd know. There would be no question about it on your mind. It doesn't really matter how old you are, all that matters is if you are in fact ready to spend the rest of your life with the man you love. I think that if you're not completely certain then just take it slow. Lots of people have long engagements. You really should be sure that you want to take the plunge before you do.
2006-08-08 14:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't experienced enough yet, please don't get married yet. At 17, you'll be changing ALOT after you get out of school.
What you think is the real thing at 17 isn't always the case once your in the real world. If you love him continue dating, marriage.........what until your at least 21 or even better 24 or so.
Good luck, but everyone changes and goes different directions after your out of school. You have no idea what's out there yet.
What if you do get married at 18, have a kid at 19, now your married with a baby and you want to go to college or go to the bar with friends, or get your dream job......Good luck, if you can make all that work at such a young age and be happy more power to you.
I would really wait a couple years AT LEAST before taking that plunge!!
2006-08-08 14:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still pretty young. I think you should wait a while until you are both established with good jobs. Are you considering going to University/College? Get a place to live, and then take the time to save up your money. My fiance and I have been engaged for a year and a half (I am 27!), and still don't know when the wedding will be! We just bought a house and experiencing what it is like to have a mortgage. Now we are saving up $$ for our wedding. There is no rush, we would rather be established rather then jump into marriage and fight about money. We have the rest of our lives to be together.
2006-08-08 14:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 4 years.
2006-08-08 14:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 years old had my baby at18 1/2 and it was very hard trying to finish school and being in a relationship. You have to make sure thats what you want. Just because you been
with your boyfriend for 3 years dont mean you have to get married.
Enjoy life dont make the mistake of getting married so young. I was married with my babys dad for 10 years and we broke up. Now I am stuck with 3 kids..
2006-08-08 14:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ivelisse v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good god, no! Are you going to college? If you are, you might meet other guys you like more. (I'm not trying to be callous, it's just that I've heard this thing happening a lot.) You are still so young. If you do want to marry this guy, then wait till you are out of college, and if you aren't going to college, wait till you are 20. That way you have time to think about it and save up money for a nice wedding and honeymoon, or buy a house together.
2006-08-08 14:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should wait out a few more years. Get a steady stable job first. Sometimes, people change once they pass their teenage years. Marrying so soon will be quite a big risk as compared to a small risk present in all marriages.
2006-08-08 14:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by singaporegirljuly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember True Love Never Dies .
The key words in your statement - "off and on"
Love is not off and on
Only you know when you are ready --You have the power to choose don't let nobody take that away from you.
Remember the saying
The Longer You Wait The Better It Will Be.
Good Luck
2006-08-08 14:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by whadup159 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait. a year is great but if you've been off and on how do you know the off part isn't going to be coming soon? not to mention why not get your college life on track and settle into that (assuming that is where you are headed). in any case i think you'd be better off getting along as an adult first for awhile before jumping into a marriage. weddings aren't cheap and you still don't know what you want because your still young. you have time.
2006-08-08 14:38:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋