Ok before i start i know alot of people are going to say you should have not got pregnant,it's your fault and your dumb well i know i should have been more careful i am simply asking about my boyfriend. Last night i was talking to my boyfriend and he was mad at me. He said some awful things to me. Like never to ask him for help because he was tired of helping me, and he was not going to help me anymore because i put myself into situations. He also said that he does not care at all about my pregnancy and thats why he did not go to the hospital when i was bleeding,and that he does not care what happens to the baby because it's a fetus not a baby he says (im 6 months by the way). Also he said im not a normal person and he basically called me a loser last night im really hurt about this and part of me just wants to say screw him because i could do way better....what do you guys think i should say to my boyfriend and do about him thanks everyone!!
sorry about the spelling!
2006-08-08 14:04:30 · 34 answers · asked by stacieanne_04 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Let the loser go, have the baby and then nail him for child support.
2006-08-08 14:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry about your situation. I don' t know how much you want this baby. But I am sure your boyfriend doesn't want the baby which is sad for the little one. If I were you, I will talk to him frankly and see whether there is any chance that he will change his mind about the baby. If he really wants to get away from it. And you want to keep the baby yourself, then you need to collect information about single parent as much as possible. Find somebody who will support you such as friend, family. However, if you don't think you can handle the baby, adoption is also a choice.
Don't try to use the baby as a way to get your boyfriend to stay with you. He may put his anger on you or the worst your baby. Let him go if he is such a irresponsible person. Also you have to consider whether you are able to handle the baby alone which it will be difficult.
For the baby sake, consider adoption because the little one is the victim and he or she is innocence.
Good luck.
2006-08-08 14:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww sweetie, I'm sorry. First, I could never tell you that you're dumb or it's your fault for getting pregnant, as long as you take responsibility for it (unlike some around here), then I have no problems with that! Congratulations, by the way.
As for your boyfriend, he needs a new one ripped in him, if you get my drift. He sounds like a real jerk! You do not deserve to be treated that way, especially while you're pregnant. You and your baby does not need to be put under that stress.
Tell him to either shape up and start treating you right, or ship out and hit him up for child support once the baby is born. There are plenty of single mothers doing a great job out there! Good luck sweetie!
2006-08-08 14:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Chriscia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the pregnancy is your fault. It takes two to make a baby. From what you wrote about your boyfriend, it sounds very much like he is not there for you emotionally and to stay with him will only make it worse. You could still have him a part of the baby's life, if he wants to be. My advice to you is to give him an ultimatum. If he wants to be a part of your life and the child's, he better shape up. If he doesn't like it, too bad. We all get second chances, especially with love, and there is ALWAYS someone better. Hope I've helped you in any way...if not then that's cool.
2006-08-08 14:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bridget C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing in your life right now is the baby you will soon give birth to. As describe, I would not want this man taking care of my child. Someone who truly loves you would not only marry you, but treat you with respect and utmost care. By the way - you can't do "way better," because you are going to be too busy taking care of your baby. S/he should be your number one priority from now on.
2006-08-08 14:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say see ya, have a nice life. You can raise this child on your own......many many women do it on a daily basis. It won't be easy but you can do it. Right after the baby is born go get a lawyer and start the child support process. If he doesn't want to be there for the baby physically then he can be there financially.
No one deserves to be talked to that way. I know it is easier said than done but get rid of him. Don't look for others, just concentrate on yourself and your child.
2006-08-08 14:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by couriousk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids and one on the way.....and let me tell you I have had my share of men that were good and bad....there is a saying that says when somebody tells/shows you who they are believe them! he is telling and showing you how he really feels.....and since he said that your baby at 6 mos is a fetus and not a baby just shows how much he doesn't know.....let him go and find you someone that is interested in you and a sweet little bundle of joy to unconditionally love.....they are out there you just gotta be picky....and even though he's the daddy doesn't mean he is whats best for your child....if he resents the baby now he will most likely resent the baby later....good luck! I hope it helps.....
blessings and peace to you and your baby!
2006-08-08 14:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, you don't need that jerk. you are better off without him. it takes two people to make a baby. i would in fact go after him for child support though. make sure you do. maybe down the road he will eventually come around when he sees the baby and fall in love with it. good luck. by the way good for you for not aborting it. the person above has good ideas, just ignore him completely and he will wonder what's up.
2006-08-08 14:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my unvarnished opinion: you don't need to say anything to him, ever.
I know how young women are; they feel they can solve problems by "talking about" them. Well, frankly, you can talk until Doomsday, and that won't change what he said, or the fact that you are now pregnant.
I would urge you to never speak to him again. Clearly, he has nothing to offer you, or the child. DO NOT TALK TO HIM EVER AGAIN.
Don't call him.
Don't accept his calls.
If he comes to your house, don't see him.
If he confronts you in a public place, walk away.
If he persists, get a restraining order.
In the meantime, decide what is to be done about the baby.
Good luck, dear, you will need it...but, DON'T talk to him, I'm serious, not a word.
2006-08-08 14:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he doesn't love you. He is a nasty bully. The baby will be better off without him too if that's the way he feels. YOu and your baby deserve much better than that. He is the loser. When you feel like dating again find a man who is nice to you not a horrible one like him. You deserve so much better than him, get rid of him now! If he treats you like dirt, he will more than likely do it to the baby too, do you want to put your child through that? I hope you have a lovely healthy baby and find a nice man who is worthy of you.
2006-08-08 14:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋