im suicidal or homicidal, either one?

Question

i just walked in on my husband having sex with my mom. i have 4 little KIDS! what am i gonna do...he had SEX with her!!! (she had me when she was young, so shes in really good shape) i mean the way i saw it, they were moaning and stuff and he was banging her so hard...i dont know what im gonna do...i wanna kill them or myself....i loved him so much...how coul;d he do this?

plz dont make rude comments, i mserious i really dont know what to do im sobbing my eyes out/

i was alseep on the couch, but i just got up...she just came over to bring me back a dish she borrowed...

my kids are asleep in their rooms upstairs...its 10 o'clock where i live. i cant sleep...im not going to try... i was sleeping before i walked in, i didnt kno where my husband went ,i went to look for him.

i wanted to see if he went to bed, then i probablly would...cuz the last time i saw him he was watching a movie with me...

Answer 1

babe, he doesn't deserve you. it might be hard but move. if you caught him with your mother how many other women has he been with?? and is this going to continue with your mother?? just get yourself together pack a few things for you and the kids and go to a hotel for a few nights.... tell the kids your going on a mini vacation. they will love going to the pool and swimming they won't know the difference. this will give you some time to think and not be around the two of them. i wish you the greatest luck with whatever you decide to do and if you need someone to talk to you can im me at any time i am usually always on during the day. God bless

Answer 2

This is abuse of the greatest order.
Contact womens shelters in your area and get some counseling so you will have more ideas on what you can do.
look into human services and see what you can find in your area. You need to be able to think and plan and get some compassion and help with the hurt the people you once trusted the most have don'e to you.
This must hurt mightily.
I feel for you but know You are not trapped.
you can find help from the comunity services and get a good lawyer to make the jerk pay enough childsuport for you to live on.
You deserve better than this.
IT is NOT YOUR FAULT not no way shape nor form is it you.
It is all them who are selfish and hateful to do such a thing.
My prayers will be with you that you find the solution you need.
Good Luck.
The pain will take a long time to fade.
put your and your childrens needs FIRST and let the selfish fools
be cast out of your life ... or at least have a lesser role in it.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
you are not the first to be betrayed like this.
there is help out there but you have to seek it.... and the abusive spouse will probably try to sabotage whatever you do but don't let him.

Answer 3

Í dont even know you and I am so very sorry. You can imagine my thought towards you mom and I'm almost sure it was not the first time this happened.Get out of your mind the suicidal or homicidal. Remember you are mother of 4 little ones that need you and that should be more important than your ******* husband. You did not specify what his reaction was when caught in action but there is no excuse for what eighther of them did. Non of them are worth your suffering nor death. It came hard on you to see this but it's not the end of the world. I advice you to see a lawyer and ask what your alternatives could be, they are the real professionals and also seek professional help for yourself. It will help to be able to talk about this with someone that can really help you overcome this awful situation. Im a mother of 4 adults already but there is no way I would commit suicide nor homicide for neighter one. My thoughts are with you and GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

honey run run and then run some more. your mother is a slut and should be treated as such, him he is no good and your mom probably is not the first one in your family that he has done or your friends or neighbors, there is no excuse for doing your mom and that is the most disrespectful thing either one of them could have done. under no circumstances should you allow him back love don't live there not when he's doing your mom, for him to do your mom he never loved you and as for her girl take a break and move on he is a dog a real dog and if you stay then you get what you deserve your mom is gonna keep right on doing him because she has no maternal ties to you and he gonna do everybody you know so take those 4 babies and get out of there. there are plenty of places yall can go to like a shelter trust me you can and will make it your kids are gonna suffer, so stop thinking of yourself you have 4 kids that need you, love does not count so don't use it as a way of staying because all the signs are there and you know it, the writing is on the wall, think of your kids and not about yourself and do the right thing remember your kids are whats important, i would never have my kids around such nastiness and believe me it's real nasty

Answer 5

Don't kill anyone ESPECIALLY yourself! YOU didn't do anything wrong here. They did but they still deserve to live even though you hate them so bad right now that you don't think so. I would never talk to my mother again no matter what and I would get a divorce as soon as possible. You should not make it easy for him. You should take everything he has because of what he did to you but he shouldn't be killed. Or your mother. I am so sorry about this. Nobody deserves to go through this but you need to keep living too. You will find someone so much better for you that will love you and respect you and not cheat on you.Hang in there.

Answer 6

any thoughts of suicide or homicide, no matter how justifiable they may sound, will end up with nothing but more heartaches for your kids and relations. when you are calm and rational enough, take a deep breath and confront the two. be the adult in the whole thing - one has to be. if you are not into confrontations, leave. either way, take the kids, seek counsel - legal and the other that deals with the psychological aspect since you will have a lot of burden to unload when this mess is over and done with. include the kids in that as well.

Answer 7

I agree with the nurse up to a point. (nurse from ohio) and basically every one else that says dump the husband and take the kids.
The only thing I disagree with is disowning your mother.
Yes, you need to vent to her, yes, you need some space away from her to think.
But..........You only have one mother and everyone makes mistakes. What she did was horrible but since she IS your mother then when things settle down later......approach your mom and ask if yall can go to counseling together.
Evidently there are some hidden and harbored feelings between the two of you somewhere and yall need to find out where they lay.
As far as husbands go........you can always get a new husband, but you can never get another mother.

Answer 8

Damm girl....that's got to be the most horrible thing to walk in on. Way to go mom. ( you *****) Did you have any clue that they were attracted to each other? That's a hard one,,,,what you should do now. I would divorce him, and dis-own her. Take that mother f-er to court and make him pay dearly. You've got 4 kids, take him to the cleaners. As for your mother, I would never speak to her again. Find yourself a therapist to help you get through this. Stay strong. And stay away from them. You are better than them. They are trash. Hang in there sweetheart. Wish I could give you a BIG hug.

Answer 9

There is a deep sickness going on in the world
and what is missing in all of our lives is Jesus Christ
The devil has come to make war on us
No one can tell you what to do.
The only thing for you now is what you are doing
conversating with the people
at yahoo
who can talk to you because
this way you may keep your sanity
Do not be selfish like they were to you
I mean you have 4 little ones
to consider. Pray on this and ask God to guide you
in all of your decisions.
So sorry this has happened to your marriage

Answer 10

Go immediately to a divorce lawyer, write a check to start proceedings, get him out of the house today! Do not let your mother NEAR your kids...she is a lunatic and you have no way of telling what is going on here. I cannot believe what has happened to you...are they auditioning for Jerry Springer??? And, if I were you, after booting both their a$$ out of your life, you keep this one to yourself...no telling what other people with think of the situation, and their thoughts will include you. This is truly trailer trash revisited. There is NOT a Court in the land that will not award you very healthy child support, alimony for a year while you get on your feet, and KEEP THE HOUSE and everything in it. Get a restraining order on your husband and your mother immediately, you do not need to see them for at least one month. There are thing is life that are NOT allowed, and this is one of them. I don't care who tells you what, if this is for real, you have been done wrong, as wrong as it gets. You have lost the two people you love most in the world...a husband AND a mother. MY heart goes out to you big time. YOU don't deserve this...hell, no one does, not even my worst enemy! MOVE NOW< clean out the bank account immediately, for a scum bag who has done this to you will have NO PROBLEM leaving you penniless! And, IF you father is alive and kicking, he would be the first I would run to for protection...for you are going to need it. YOUR mother is going to call you a filthy liar, your husband is going to deny the whole thing. But I will bet your dad knows your mother better than anyone and will know she is capable of doing what she has done. I am soooo sorry for you AND your children. Good god, what are you going to do to get over this one....I suppose, day by day, hour by hour. Good luck, and if you need, you can write me for support. Know that if this is some sort of perverted joke, Karma does evil things to those who play with it. It comes back 10 fold. I do hope you have been truthful, for it is your life that will be punished if you have upset us for your fun. I assume you are for real.