I found out that these two were calling him almost everyday on his cell phone from different states. One from work, one was as they call it "his cousin". Anyway, the calls have stopped. I was upset, hurt and felt betrayed, we went to counseling - he said it was nothing more than a conversation. Anyway, we resolved our issues and are doing so much better. But one girl called him months later on his birthday. He told her not to call again because he did not appreciate how she treated me . I strongly believe they were attached emotionally to him because why is the one girl still trying to call. Overall, both girls were not pleased when I stopped the calls or they were not pleased with the fact that I found out they calling on a daily basis. As long as I was out of the picture they were happy but I did find out. Knowing that he spoke to these girls sometimes almost everyday, how do you think these girls have been taking it? Do you think they are feeling rejected and hurt?
2006-08-08 13:57:03 · 32 answers · asked by stockqueen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't matter how they feel. I mean they knew he was married so to he** with them. Serves them right. It is good to hear that you both are working on your marriage. Good luck.
2006-08-08 14:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are talking about your HUSBAND HERE! What the heck is he doing talking to two other women in the first place? If the issue was resolved - then there should not be any more talk about this subject. Who were they? How did he get a connection to them to talk everyday? Why would he be searching out young girls to talk to anyway? I am sure they are feeling rejected and hurt and chances are in the beginning, he didn't tell them anything. The person to direct your concerns with is your husband. You are still not over what he did. This is not over until you have completely forgiven him and there is no more issue.
2006-08-08 14:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares how they feel? HE'S YOUR MAN!
The fact that he was honest about it with you when you found out tells you he isn't out to hurt you. There were obviously problems between you at the time or he would not have entertained those conversations in the past.
Further, things are doing much better between you now and you already know that he has told other girl to pi** off. Don't let all these people fill you with worry. He's with you. Grab your marriage with both hands and don't let go.
2006-08-08 14:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets say the girls feel rejected and very, very hurt. Do you want to borrow your husband to them? What? I can't hear you. O>K then don't worry about the girls and you are making a big deal out of this issue. Really let it go. They are in other states?.. or what ever.. give him some space and he'll be good in bed. Get yourself a talkin buddy ehh. Why not. You need a new voice to.. Time to spice things up. Introduce him to your new toys.. He is just bored about this relationship. So are you.
2006-08-08 14:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur husband "may" be a good husband (what do u think,really?) but whats happening to him now is a bit complex. U see, us men....if we had a handfull of girl frnds before we got married..... sometimes its hard to shake 'em all off in a snap. Mabe ur husband loves u a lot (or maybe he doesnt.U'll be the better judge). But what he still does behind ur back is "not too bad". Sometimes its ok for us to chat or see old flames as long as our wives dont know.... BECAUSE deep down in our hearts we know how very much we love our wives.
But since old habbits die hard....we go out (secretly ofcourse) with old (even new sometimes) flames. Our (stupid) logics are:
1."I really love my wife.I'm just gonna see this 'other woman' for a quick something".
2.What she doesnt know cant hurt her.
3.She wouldnt understand me if told her and theres gonna be a fight, so its better this way.
And YES...i know these are pretty lame but....thats how us stupid men think. Not all of us though, some of us are REALLY REALLY faithfull and nice guys.
I hope u can resolve your issues with him (and them). God Bless.
2006-08-08 14:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Smart_Dumb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kind of like my issue i was having but vice versa... I'm the guy with (women)friends calling me or texting me... my wife was very upset but then realized they were alll over the states. i assured her that they were mostly for companionship reason since i work graveyard. but i let man go after the flirting happen. Because i just need an earfull, them the same. They might not of been happy with you but i say screw then since you're there and they aint. Now she chats all we basically use them for friendship when we're not together(harmless and cheap thrills)... I guess i really didnt answer you're but hey, i guessed i did the same to you... TVGC&HAGD :-)
2006-08-08 14:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by dfksone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there was an emotional attachment if not something else. Im sure they are feeling really rejected but as long as he has stopped and is committed to you completely...I wouldnt worry about the other girls and their feelings!
2006-08-08 14:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would not care about their feelings no more than them caring about mines call it karma you cant have someone if they are already taken .so to hell with them ! yes any one could get emotionally invovled over a period of time but thank goodness someone above gave you insight to see what was going on with your husband and i wish u all the best cause their are single women who dont care
2006-08-08 14:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by sexysummer34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wasnt doing any thing wrong why would he stop or why would he have hid it from you. I think you give your hubby too much credit. Forget about the girls feelings they dont care about your feelings or else they wouldent have called again and upset you.
2006-08-08 14:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by momof2borninmarch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer: get him a new cell phone number. If the calls continue, then he has called them giving them the new number which puts your man in the hot seat.
2006-08-08 14:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by tjw1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i don't think you should be as worried about THEM, as you should about your husband and what he does when your not with him. I don't want to make you insecure, but whats the explanation for girls calling him, anyway? I definitely would resolve that matter with him thoroughly before you move forward to feeling bad for the girls.
2006-08-08 14:01:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋