I feel like I could probably deal with him another few years but we are on totally different levels. He has cheated and likes hanging out and is really not a trust worthy dude, at this point he just makes me sick really but then I feel like I am being selfish.
2006-08-08 13:46:43 · 24 answers · asked by Nadia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's better to get a divorce and show your kids that women deserve to be happy and have faithful spouses than it is to stay married "for the sake of the kids." Usually kids can pick up on the fact that you're unhappy, and if that is what they see in your life, then often they will think that is the way things are supposed to be, and therefore, they will be more likely to stay in similar situations when they are grown up.
2006-08-08 13:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong to get a divorce because you don't feel happy at this time. But then again if you think this marriage is going to end either way and he cheats on you, worst doesn't give you attention and respect you deserve, then yeah dump the looser. Oh wait, Well there are two choices. One Divorce and hurt the kids Two.. you get sneaky on that bast*ard. Find a guy thats worth while first. .. that way you'll be with him for a while and you'll enjoy life while the children are fine. Mmmmh sounds bad but yes cheating is the best answer here. Yeah yeah.. spend the dollar and get a sitter. Its his kids to so he can stay home as well.. Get a social life.
2006-08-08 21:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is to stay with him. Your just teaching your kids that its okay to get walked all over. Get out of that marriage as soon as you can. You and your kids will be happier.
Get out of the marriage, but try to deal with your husband as nice as you can for the kids sake. Divorce will open new doors for you, it may not be easy, but give it time. If you guys can treat each other as friends for the kids sake that would be much better then fighting.
2006-08-08 21:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personall belief ? No. However , if you are a believer, adulitry is the only real reason, and only if you can't forgive them. But if you are not a believer, it just doesn't really matter - its' your moral decision. What is more important to you , Your happiness? Or maybe the security/happiness of the kids? you know your situation, take all that is important to you, and those you love , then make your best call. Good luck !
2006-08-08 20:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by cryptic1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong to divorce him. It is probably better for the kids to get out of that relationship and situation. You and your husband aren't modeling good behaviors for your children. You are teaching them that it is ok for men to mistreat women, especially you. And you are teaching them that it is ok to do that if they are a guy. You are showing them what you think is acceptable for marriage to be like, and it shouldn't be the way you described.
It is not you being selfish. Think of yourself and think of you kids. They do not need to be in a house with a bad marriage. The best thing you can do for your children is take care of their mother, and that is you. You need to be happy, and you need to put them in a better situation and model how a relationship should be.
2006-08-08 20:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a happy person you will be a healthier person. A healthier person makes a healthier parent.
I left, & he wasn't all that bad of a guy, just not the right one for me. We have an agreeable relationship and 2 wonderful, well adjusted children. I'm glad I did what I did.
He has remarried and she is a good lady. Sometimes it's tough going it alone. But in the long run you need to be true to yourself.
Good luck to you
2006-08-08 21:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by coffeegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER stay together for the kid's sake...you do them NO favors. Every minute you spend in this relationship (from what you say, nothing he can do will restore it) is a waste of both your time and his. End it, get what is coming to you, get child support, and get on with your life. I do suggest that the next time around, you keep an open eye as to what you are getting...if you continue to look for the "bad boys" as husbands, you will get exactly what you deserve. Unfortunately, so do your kids. Good luck
2006-08-08 20:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids would be worse off by being around unhappy irresponsible parents.
So, I'd say getting out is the most unselfish think you can do- the kids will get one happy responsible parent, instead of 2 depressed and irresponslibe ones
2006-08-08 21:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes it is hard to get a divorce when u have kids , because it hurt them more then u or him , but if u are not happy with him and u can't trust him why stay with him ,. file for a divorce and get custody of the kids and let him see them like on the weekends
2006-08-08 20:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your reltionship strain doing to your kids, or what WILL it do to your kids in the future. If he's cheated he'll do it again and again. Divorce isn't such a bad thing when your husband can't even love you. Find a guy that will ove you and your kids and respect and love you like a husband should.
2006-08-08 20:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by K. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋