Ok, so, I'm 27 and I'm still a virgin. I blame my Catholic education as a child and also I'm just very picky. Also a hypocondriac so & I tend to freak out over STDs. Is it wrong to vaguely tell my new b/f (I hate to provide details to him, because I'd have to fabricate them) that I had 1 (only) lover before him? (when I haven't) That's still pretty rare right, for someone my age? (only 1)?
And once we've had sex, it wouldn't really matter would it? Would you guys be offended if you found out or not care? I feel like I'm just trying to protect myself & I don't want to hurt him in any way. Thanks !
2006-08-08 13:46:32 · 29 answers · asked by mary d 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I don't think that it will be obvious (no bleeding or anything) when the time comes, thanks to my friend the "rabbit", if you know what I mean! (think 3AAA batteries). plus, I'm a pretty good actress :)
2006-08-08 14:01:06 · update #1
white lies are still lies, yes, but I think the intention is the most important part. I would lie to protect myself, not for my own amusement or for profit or to be self-aggrandizing or something like that. Also isn't that a little cliche that you tell your b/f or g/f EVERYTHING, there must be some things that only you need to know?
2006-08-08 14:10:21 · update #2
Why don't you just be honest with your boyfriend? That's the only right way to be when you're in a relationship. White lies are still lies.
2006-08-08 13:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by AlaskanCutiePie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soooooo...You are 27 and a virgin. You appearently have more going on in your life than what your age implies. You obviously do not have time for casual sex; (that's a good thing). Perhaps your are a (focused) professional person. Also, you may have morals that you will not yield from. That's a good thing, too. Whatever the case, keep this in mind: Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Quite frankly, the only person who deserves a virgin is another virgin. Relationships should not be like expeditions where you have a guide (who know's the ropes), and someone who doesn't know how to get into the ring. If it's his first time, that would be great. And if it's your first time, that would be even better. So the best thing to do would be to "explore the ring together". At least you'll have an evenly matched "fight". Oh and one last thing: Be honest. You'll be surprised at what it will get you!
2006-08-08 16:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be honest in a realationship, then you don't have trust. And if you don't have trust, then you can't have a truely happy and successful realationship. Just tell him the truth.
If it was me, it wouldn't matter to me as long as the woman was honest with me. Virgin or not. Besides I am not ashamed to say that I lost my virginity at the age of 36. Yes, I am being honest and the women I have gone out with and or had a relationship with, didnt seem to have made any big deal over it. So what if your a virgin at 27. Keep it as long as you can and if you decide that you want to lose it, well....your an adult, it is your choice. But I can't stress it enough that you should be honest from the begining.
2006-08-14 17:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by free2bkirk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be honest with him and tell him you are a virgin why would you actually take him into your body? Perhaps you should wait until you care enough to be honest. If you just want to lose your virginity you can have anybody do it......they would line up for it.
But seriously, if you blame it on being catholic and a hypocondriac you are setting yourself up for disaster, I would suggest some counseling first! STD's will come at you like freight trains because of the guilt you will feel for your own sexuality........and furthermore, no toys in the world will prepare you for actual intercourse, so be prepared for a little pain and bleeding, a toy is no replacement for the real thing!
2006-08-15 13:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be very proud that you are a virgin. Why are you ashamed that you have not been used by some man for his own selfish needs? You must respect your body and keep it clean from the filth that some men are. Why do you think it is important to pander to the beliefs of Godless and immoral people? Please stay a virgin, until you find a man who will respect your and your purity. What good is it to gain the world's favor, but lose your soul?
2006-08-13 15:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the truth. First of all, if you WERE to decide to have sex with your new boyfriend, then he would know that you are lying. Most women bleed a little bit the first time they have sex and there is a MUCH tighter sensation having sex with a virgin. For your age is ISN'T rare to only have one previous sexual experience. I wouldn't worry about it. Some woman wait a much longer time than your age.
2006-08-08 13:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT would probly make your boyfreinds year to learn you were a virgin. He will be less likely to be jealous, he has no one to compete with, now or before.
telling him you were only with 1 person sounds like a lie. No guy would believe that he's more likely to believe the truth.
but if you still feel the need to protect yourself you should go with something like 3 guys. Not too much and not at all high.
Strangely thats the number most of the girls i have dated gave me. Speaking for the guys we're not going to believe you anyway.
2006-08-15 12:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by therealmikebrown 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is more wrong the other way (if ever wrong) :-D
In fact that may make men more hornier knowing that you are a virgin.... true! Plus it's no use to lie, because when the moment comes it will all be there for eyes to see and for him to feel...if you know what I mean without going into to much details.
You are gonna have to ask him to be very gentle the first time.
Take care,
Doppelganger
2006-08-08 13:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Doppelganger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello? It's wrong to lie about anything.
When you find the right guy, he will be more hurt by a lie that is revealed than your sexual history.
It's alright to be a 27 year-old virgin. I'd rather have a virgin than a liar.
2006-08-15 16:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by drop_frame2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a man. But I'll still give you my 2 cents.
Please don't give it up! I think a lil white lie is fine! I'm sure you've come up with excusses not to have sex and that's what most of us women should've done. I know most women envy those who still have their virginity. It is not wrong of you to lie! It is none of the man's dang business to know such a thing... The only one you'll ever have to tell is your husband on that night or your boyfriend who hasnt pressured you to have sex and you know he's the one!
2006-08-13 10:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by n p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋