My husband and I have a very deep and true love for eachother and the story behind how we fell inlove is very passionate. But, he started driving over the road one year ago and I find myself worrying at times. He doesn't act different ever or give me any reason to not trust him and I never question what he's doing or anything like that. But, I guess I'm only human. What do any of you truly think? Please give your honest opinion. I would like to know how many of you men would really be unfaithful while away from your wife also. Thanks for all of your serious answers.
2006-08-08 13:44:00 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know what you are getting at with is. when i drove otr my wife said i was having affair even though she had no proof of it. i love my wife so much that i could never do that to her. if your husband is in that much love with you as you are in with him then trust me you have nothing to worry about. i will tell you this much when i was out there on the road there were times i thought my wife was cheating on me. the next time your husband is home sit him down and let him know just how you fell. just give it some time and things will be fine. (easier said then done i know) wishing you the best of luck on this.
2006-08-08 17:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Phantom Chaos 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband is an otr driver. I find that trust is a must. Not all men who drive for a living are a living portrait of what is portrayed on television, or in magazines. My husband has been around the world and never left the u.s. so to speak. There isnt nothing he hasnt seen. He lives to get back home to his family, and i couldnt be prouder of the fact. Tho' he and I have seen our share of relationship problems lately, it has nothing to do with his career, and i know without a doubt, that he cant wont be looking to find anything any better on the road. He is 35 and has been a driver since age 19. He has encountered alot, and had every chance to experience everything. But i trust- and I must. Or i would go crazy. Remember, you are his love, and his life, and he does this to make a better life for you. Dont ever forget that. Give him a reason to want to be home.
2006-08-08 14:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman's point of view with years of marriage behind her, first, don't let your mind wander because the imagination will do more harm than good.
Secondly, if any man is going to be unfaithful, it doesn't matter if they are on the road or 2 blocks from home...so don't think because he is on the road that will give him automatic reason to be unfaithful.
There are many men out there who truly love their wives and simply would never think of being unfaithful no matter how long or how far away they may be from home. And your husband could very well be one of those men..Trust and believe in him unless he gives you justifiable reasons not to.
2006-08-08 14:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by 2179 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds depend on how strong your relationship really is. If you're true and he's never given you any reason to doubt his love, then I would say he would stay faithful even as a OTR driver. I've work at the terminals before and I've met plenty of sleazy drivers, but I've met plenty of down-to-earth family truck drivers. If you love your man enough and let him know you love him enough, then he'll come back every time and be faithful.
You have to trust in your love and it's strength and everything will be alright. If he's not given you a reason to doubt his faithfulness, then don't question it until you have reason to. If you start letting your mind get the better of your heart, then you'll just send up messing things up.
Good luck with your relationship...much love to you.
2006-08-08 14:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Changes In Appearance
2. Behavioral Changes
3. Changes in Sexual Behavior
4. Lost & Found
5. Business & Money Matters
6. Changes In His Attitude Toward You
7. Jewelry & Other Gift Clues (receipts/credit cards)
8. Red Flags From Friends (teasing)
9. The Children’s Clues (if you have any)
10. Home & Family Clues
11. Intuition
It is said if you experience more than 3 of these, it's likely you are correct.
2006-08-08 15:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the chances are the same as any situation, just slightly hirer for he is less likely to get caught where one could actually prove it, but if you believe he has been faithful then keep your trust up go out on the road with him, see if he is in the same areas all the time, and you dont have to pick at him to get your info, just ask where he is and what is going on, but you will most likely have to take a trip with him from time to time, also by doing this you will keep him interested in you and keep his mind on you and away from otheres, but if he can take riders and refuses to take yo with him then it might be because he is headed in the direction of someone he dont want you to meet.... but if you have as good a relationship youo say you do then just go with your trust the truth will always comeout no sense creating a situation that didnt exsist...
2006-08-08 14:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Rocco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It natural for someone to go through change and start thinking of the worst thing that could happen, but in my oppinion if you have never had a reason to doubt him then he is probably doing right by you and you should rest easy. I always worry about this kind of thing my boyfriend and I live together but he works out on the road as well not as a trucker but I always think he is out doing something when he don't answer my call right away or something but I know it is just my nerves that are making me nervous and not him.
2006-08-08 13:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern...I think you are worried because whereas if he were at home you would see signs..and you would be more likely to know because people talk. Since he is on the road, you are in a situation where you think you would never know and that really bothers you. I think we all want to make sure that we aren't being too naive, because Lord knows that if we had known what they had been up to we wouldn't be all lovey dovey when they came home. I think we just don't want to be a fool...that's just my two cents.
On to your question, trust is a choice...you either trust or you don't. I think that you should go by past behavior and what you know now. It sounds like he has been a very faithful partner and that you are just worried that you will never know for sure. Just remember that NO ONE knows for sure. We all have to choose to trust or choose to worry. Imagine yourself on the road...how faithful would you be?...and give him the same credit. I know it isn't easy. All is good..you are going to be just fine. Have faith in your man that he is who he says he is. Hope this helps!
2006-08-08 14:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think that if you have a truly honest and loyal marriage then he won't cheat. I also have a loving husband but can't help to think when ever he is away from me that he was with someone. I think ,it is our own insecurities. Did you have bad relationships prior to marrying your husband. Society makes us woman believe that all men are "dogs". Try to have trust in him. If he calls you everyday or night, have some fun on the phone, good luck. I hope this answer wasn't too generic.
2006-08-08 14:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by MrsMaltz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's upto how much trust you have in him.
You cannot sit up on here and worry about him if you have trust. There is such a thing as intuition and until you have proof, it's baseless. If you are insecure, that's seems like the definite problem that causing you to feel this way.
But just because of a job change is no reason to lose trust.. if anything you will need more of it.
Good luck!
2006-08-08 13:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by yadedyah_dc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋