Im 25 and I have a boyfriend I have been with for almost two years. I don't know how to tell if I want to marry him or not. I love him, but I do sometimes get jealous of my single friends because they have so much fun flirting with and meeting guys. How can you tell if you just dont want to marry someone or if your just not ready yet???
2006-08-08 13:36:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u have a feeling that comes over u that u dont c urself with anybody else,,just ur bf or gf
its a ver special feeling that lasts years!
2006-08-08 13:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're jealous of your single friends' freedoms, you're definitely not ready to get married yet.
You will know when you're ready to marry when you know AND understand that marriage is not about love, marriage is about commitment, and regardless of what happens down the line, this person will always be a part of your life from the moment you say I Do to the moment that death comes to one of you, whether you stay married, get divorced or whatever. Divorce does not erase the "I Do," it just erases the tan line where your wedding ring used to be.
2006-08-08 13:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i've been with my husband 27 years and sometimes i think after watching someof my friends that are sinle how much fun they are having but then after talking to them they have problems too. its not all fun and games no matter what side of the fence your on even though it looks like it. my single friends have said they would like to have a husband that loves them as much as my husband loves me. so see the grass is always greener on the other side it seems. and just because your married doesnt mean you have to stop flirting it just doesnt get as intense as you would if you were single . and you have to stay faithful thats what marriage is about, and i dont know if all the doubts ever go away i dont think anyone doesnt have doubts about marriage truthfully, it just seems easier some how i thought if we just lived togather. and we did for 9 years before i finally married him and the only thing that changed in our relationship was my last name..
2006-08-08 13:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your thoughts tell me you are not ready to marry if you would prefer to flirt with other guys.
you may never be the type that should get married.
marriage is not for everyone. our society is based on marriage
there is nothing wrong of living g the single life. even if you are 50.
once know you can make a commitment that would be the time.
2006-08-08 13:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just answered your own question. If you still want to flirt you definitely aren't ready to get married and make that marriage sucessful. Every time you have a fight you will want to go do something foolish. So how do you know when the time is right, when that person is the only person you want to be with and he is enough to make you happy... apparantly you aren't at that stage yet.
2006-08-08 13:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the idea of waking up next to the same person day after day after day doesn't scare you, you are probably ready. If you have to seriously question whether or not you're ready, you probably aren't ready. Life gets a whole lot more complicated once you get married. Take your time--you have your whole life ahead of you!
2006-08-08 13:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Pigskin Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married you will still have those feelings. You just have to control them. If you love him and don't have feelings for anyone else, and if you want him to be around all the time hen you are more ready than you think.
2006-08-08 13:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by momof2borninmarch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. If you even have to ask, don't even think about getting married. It is a very serious undertaking that will change the rest of your life. You DO NOT enter into it lightly or with any reservations.
2006-08-08 13:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're with the person you are to marry there are no questions or fear. Later - right close to the Wedding is when Cold Feet appear - but that is not the same.
... You just know ...
2006-08-08 13:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Silver L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always go out and dance with your man, you don't need to be going out with different men all the time. If you truly love your man and he loves you then go for it, just remember that you need more than love in a relationship. You just need to be committed to make things work and compromise and sometimes give things up for one another.
wish you luck
2006-08-08 13:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by audri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋