i am very much a man,,,heterosexual,i enjoy females,,,however,,i really have the most fun from life when i am by myself and pretending to be a girl. the way i dress,etc...but i would still love to have a meaningful relationship with a woman,,but a woman that would allow me to be as much of a woman as i can be,,,and as much of a man as i want to be. are there lesbian women that understand this? good advise only please.
2006-08-08 13:34:40 · 19 answers · asked by texascrossfire 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I agree, Dearheart, that you probably would be better off with a lady who's bi rather than a lesbian. It's not that we don't understand you. It's that darned trouser snake of yours that we dislike. This would be no problem to either a bi woman or a very understanding hetero woman. If you like dressing up as a lady, my child, go for it. You probably look better in dress clothes than I do (I like jeans, t-shirts or smocks and bare feet...oh, and bells, lots of bells) I honestly don't know where you might find such a lady, but I wish you luck. May you find the happiness you need. Blessings.
2006-08-08 13:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me personaly, it wouldn't work. You can make yourself up to be as feminine as you can but you still have male emotions and more inportantly, you still have male anatomy. I don't even like using dildos, so that would be too hard for me (no pun intended). I am sure though that there are women out there that would be understanding of your need to be and feel feminine at times. I'm pretty femme so I can't say that I understand the whole "being as much of a man as I want" part and the momen I date aren't usualy very girly, I've never seen on of them in a dress. This is a tough subject and you would probably be better off asking advise from maybe, bi-sexual, transgender and crossdressing people, they would probably know better what you are going through.
2006-08-08 20:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by NoBoysAllowed! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. As with anyone, what you need is a person who will love and accept you for who you are. If you identify as male, but enjoy dressing/acting as female, it sounds like you are a transvestite. This doesn't mean you are a freak or anything negative, though there are certainly some people out there who would have a hard time dealing with this.
Most lesbian women will probably understand what you are going through, as they, too, have faced being considered "different," though don't except all of them to be sympathetic, as sexual identity and gender identity are two different things. Also, lesbians tend to not like penises, so if you like your penis, that could be an issue.
Above all, don't hide yourself from any women you do become involved with. If they can't accept you for who you are, they aren't worth your time.
2006-08-08 21:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cyn90 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to be with a lesbian. A lesbian would want to be with someone who is physically a woman. I think you need to explore yourself more and find out the root of your need to be a woman and if its just clothes or that you want to have a sex change. If you want to stay a man and just wear women's clothes try continuing to date straight women and find ones who are interested in cross dressing man. Being honest with yourself and the women you date will be fulfilling to you both. Good luck1
2006-08-08 23:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by NY Lesbian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd more be better suited to a bisexual woman. If you're a hetero male,a lesbian wouldn't be attracted to a male,hetero or otherwise. I can't speak for lesbians,because I'm bi,but ,personally,I don't find cross dressers attractive,but,then again,I've never met one in person who I might possibly be interested in. It might be different if I found out the man I was in love with had these desires. Just be upfront with any woman you become seriously involved with. Don't tell them on the first date,lol,but,do tell them so you're not lying to them. Good luck. In the meantime,enjoy yourself in private,and if you can pass,go to gay clubs and have fun,see what happens.
2006-08-08 22:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a gay man. not a lesbian...but we all have been through things very similar to what you're going through. When I first realized that I was gay I thought that I was the only one in the world...guess what? I'm not. and you are not the only person in your situation...you may be able to find other sites or people to talk to who can really help you with this...I sincerely hope so....but on a site like this you are going to take a lot of abuse...I wish you only the best...hang in there...it's your life and it's up to you to live it in a way that makes you happy.
2006-08-08 21:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bible says that in the marriage bed all things are acceptable.Your question should be,who can I marry that will keep it between us two only & let us enjoy our sex life!Lesbians like women anyway,so why ask them?
2006-08-08 20:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many cross dressers are straight; men who like women, women who like men. you will just have to find a woman who will accept this or see a shrink to help you figure out why you choose to be more comfortable in a woman's clothes. but from my understanding it doesnt go away that easily.
2006-08-09 00:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No luck with a lesbian but U r better off with someone who is Bi
2006-08-08 20:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by quizzed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to find someone with a very open mind.someone who is open to anyone, whether gay, straight, bi or trans... if she doesn't have an open mind she won't ever understand why you feel the need to dress up or pretend. always be honest... it'll take longer to find "ms. right" but in the end it's always worth it
2006-08-08 20:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by rebelgirl4cs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋