what should i do?

Question

Well i went out with this girl that just got done with her ex a week ago and she cant stop talking about him. I just dont know what to do, should i just let her go cause i feel like its too soon for her and me to be going out. Have u ever been in this kind of situation?..

man you guys are funny...lmao...yeah i wasnt really thinking when i went out with her. Thanks guys I feel like a loser now being called a "rebound guy", truth hurts (gets bandaid)...lol...yeah she wasnt really my type anyway....

Answer 1

Wow, ok so this is advice from "the girl" I don't think I talk about my ex more than 1 out of 3 days, but that is probably too much if your the new guy. Ask a couple of questions.
1. Is she talking about him for more than 5 minutes
2. What is she sayong?
Maybe she needs some time alone. Try giving her spac3e and just being a friend

Answer 2

We all give unconscious signals when starting to date someone. Constantly talking about her ex is bordering on the demeaning and she obviously doesn't care about how you feel about that. Break it off now because if she doesn't clue in that you have some feelings too, you will end up breaking it off later, probably with some pain. Tell her flat out that you think she needs time to get over her ex (and to see if she is actually broken up with him).

From her standpoint, girls are very vulnerable after a break up, particularly if she was the dumped and not the dumpee. Talking about her ex may just be a defense mechanism to put up a wall.

Best to leave the door open, see what develops, and keep playin the field dude.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like she may not be over her ex. If they only broke up a week ago, that's probably the case. If I were you, I'd ask her straight up, "Hey, are you not over this guy? " And tell her that you are not going forward with her unless she is sure that she wants to be with you. Otherwise, you could be wasting your time with someone who is just going to dump you as soon as her ex comes calling again. Since you guys haven't been dating very long, hopefully you don't have much invested yet. Be careful with your heart until you're sure. I've been there and regardless of the fact that I had not developed any substantial feelings for the guy, I was still pretty ticked when he went running back to his ex. I felt like he should not have been out there if he wasn't ready. Neither should she.

Answer 4

I think you should follow your own instincts on this one. She may be using you as a rebound guy, or she may like you and just don't know how to get over what just happened in her life. Every situation like this is different. I have been done with my ex for 2 years now, and though I have dated since then, I still refer to him as my ex. I still talk about him, not constantly, but enough to make people wonder if I still want him. I don't. But it was a traumatizing situation for me so I still go back to it. Sometimes you can't move on until everything makes sense. Maybe that is what's going on with her.

All I can say is go with your gut on this one. Only you can know what is right for you.

Answer 5

It's too soon. Let her go. When my husband and I were boyfriend and girlfriend, we took time off for about 3 months. I went out with a guy and all I could think about was my ex. This meant I was still in love with him...in her case she might even just be accustom to him. But she needs to get over him before she starts dating again. She's just trying to put a bandage over her wound. Rather then let it heal on it's own. If she removes the bandage, her wound will heal better. Tell her that. Who know's maybe sometime in the future, you two have a chance. Good Luck!

P.S you're the bandage.

Answer 6

i WAS this situation for my current boyfriend, here's the story:

I had a serious boyfriend, and we had just broken up because he moved to another country. (He was illegal in the United States). I was still kindof distraught over his leaving when I met my current boyfriend.

What actually happened was my current boyfriend teased me a little about having baggage, and although that wasn't the best way to go about it, I realized that I was going nowhere fast. I missed my ex, but couldn't move on and keep enjoying life, so I was kindof miserable. I realized that, and that I should move on, and it was for the better...because now I have a perfect loving healthy relationship.

I say you should bring up the fact that her situation makes you uncomfortable, and if she can handle a relationship with you, she'll probably choose you over missing him. Leave the choice to her.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Keep all hands and fingers close to your body and back away very slowly so as not to startle her.

Seriously, It is still way to early to be getting involved with her. Slow things up a bit. be friends and let her work her things out. See other women, If she is truely the one. then you both will know and things will work out.

Answer 9

Congradulations! You're the transition guy. When she gets over him she will be done with you and ready to date someone else. Walk away, don't make any sudden moves, and she may let you escape with your life and you emotions intact.

Answer 10

It's OK to go out but just don't have any expectations of starting a relationship with her. It is too soon for her to be serious about anyone else.

If you go out, just go out for fun and friendship.