I am happily married for the last 3 1/2 years, been with my husband for 9 years total. I have an ex that seems to pop up in my life every once in a while. My husband has always disliked him, and never trusted him. I try to abstain from talking to him or anything, and for the most part that isn't a problem. Lately he has contacted me again, his girlfriend is expecting his 2nd baby, and he just got married to her last weekend. Anyway, I told him straight out that I don't want to talk to him anymore, that I loved him a long time ago, but that it was disrespectful to my husband to keep in contact. He respected my wishes for a week or so, and I got another email today saying he really needs to talk to me. What do I need to do?? If I tell my husband he will get REALLY upset.
ps I blocked his email address, do you think that's enough?
2006-08-08 13:32:00 · 16 answers · asked by chelle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ugh,he sounds really annoying.try to totally block him out.thats good u blocked him out on e-mail,if theres a way,block him on ur phone.or get caller id so everytime he calls,ull kno its him and dont have to answer it.remeber,if u never talk to him again,hell get the message.
2006-08-08 13:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If blocking his email does not work then you need to tell him again [not nicely but firmly] that you wish for him to leave you alone. I would also look into getting a restraining order.
Furthermore you need to tell your husband, he should know that you have asked your ex to leave you alone. God forbid that anything happens but in the event that your ex has gone off the deep end several people will have a clue. I am not trying to scare you but from personal experience some ex's just go unhinged at some point. Please be careful and again let someone know!
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-08 13:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by iceycalm101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blocking his email is a start. might try getting a caller id and blocking his calls. if this doesn't work, get a restraining order. i have an ex who did the same thing, he couldn't stand the fact that i didn't belong to him. the guys in jail now for a very long time
2006-08-08 13:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't describe your conversations with him as being very firm. You need to say something like, "Do NOT call or contact me at all any more. If you do, we will obtain a restraining order and have you arrested if you violate the order." Then you hang up. Do not discuss, Do not explain. Then, if he contacts you, do exactly and precisely what you told him you would do.
2006-08-08 13:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex-boyfriend has issues and doesn't know how to handle things. Why keep running back to you? He needs to grow up and get on with his life and the one he has with his wife and babies! I would get a restraining order and keep him as far away as possible.
2006-08-08 13:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by sunni1028 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is tell your husband how this creep makes you feel.and that no matter what you do he will not leave you alone.if he is any kind of decent husband he will talk to the loser about how you feel.while he is kicking the crap out of him.if he doesn't get the message,then you will have to get a restraining order out against him.some jerks never know when they are not welcome in our lives anymore.
2006-08-08 13:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order.
2006-08-08 13:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police and get a restraining other. Period!
2006-08-08 13:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mdk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that if he doesn't stop bothering you ,you will put a restraining order against him. and he doesnt believe you,put a restraining order against him.
2006-08-08 13:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT`S GOOD THAT YOU ARE NOT ENCOURAGING HIS BEHAVIOR, I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR HUSBAND SO IT DOESN`T LOOK LIKE YOU ARE BEING DISHONEST. IF HE DOESN`T GET IT BY YOU BLOCKING HIS E-MAILS YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR HUSBAND TALK TO HIM BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY HE IS NOT RESPECTING YOUR WISHES
2006-08-08 13:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by seanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋