I am not saying like she is crazy, but sometimes ppl just need that space in there mind left alone without anyone just sitting next to them trying to figure out what's wrong and stuff...ladies that questioning just gets annoying sometimes.
2006-08-08 13:19:47 · 17 answers · asked by Jack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The answer to your question in a nutshell. Women are crazy,but it works because men are stupid. I'll explain.
Women and men are very different when I comes to communication. For most women talking is a way of sorting out their feelings. For a woman speaking about a problem is not a way to the solution but a search for comfort. The solution is not as important as our comfort level in the situation.
Men are different. The solution is everything. Most men don't wanna talk about anything until he's brooded it over and come up with all the angles. Men don't need to feel comfortable. He's built to rough it. What a man needs most is to feel a sense of accomplishment. It's the driving force behind whatever he does. If there is a problem then he needs a plan to fix it.
Once he's done mulling it over. If he's still stuck. Then he has a decision to make. Talk or live with. This concept is foreign to most women.
Women have a built in instinct to nurture. So she can't understand why you don't want to tell her what's wrong, She believes if you talk about it it will make you feel better. Right. Not!
Men have testosterone that says I'm a Man. I can handle this, if this woman would stop yapping, go away, and let me think.
She's only trying to help. Most women just don't get it. Or if they do they can't help themselves.
It's not her fault. I grew up surrounded by men so I get it. When my man clams up I go against every fiber in my body that says grill him. I let him know I'm here if he wants to talk and I walk away.
You have no idea how hard this is. As a woman we just want know. I don't why, but it can drive us crazy the not knowing.
Try to look at it from her point of view she's just as annoyed at you for shutting her out. It's just another difference. Deal with it, man.
2006-08-08 14:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by genuine1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's got something to do with the whole gender difference. Women tend to be a little bit clingy and want to be with their man 24/7. Women are also more sensitve, as well. When you tell her that you need your space, she interprets it as " he hates me" or "he doesn't care anymore." The only thing that you can do is reassure your girl that it's just that you like your alone time once and a while, even though you still love being with her, and it's nothing personal. Sometimes, that's all a girl needs is reassurance. Trust me.
2006-08-08 20:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you tell her you want to be left alone??? Or do you just sit there with some look on your face, like why is she bothering me? Women always want to know what is going on in a man's mind, that is just human nature, but they also have the ability to leave you alone if you ask them to in a nice manner.
2006-08-08 20:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by manderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like closure- it's tough for us to leave things hanging, and it's just in our nature sometimes to want to nurture and make things better. We forget that sometimes men are dwellers, and need to quietly analyze things to know how to proceed from there. We just want to help you hurry up and get back to your old happy self, and also be sure that you're not mad at us! Don't be too hard on her; she just wants to help and doesn't mean to irritate you.
2006-08-08 20:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by ?princesshousewife? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in most cases, when the woman says "leave me alone" what she really means "leave me alone now but DO COME BACK LATER pretty soon actually" or she simply means "I'm upset, talk to me" We think that you are the same way.
2006-08-08 20:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a thing called communication? Simply explain, as you have done here, that you need some time alone. Nothing personal, nothing illegal, just time alone.
2006-08-08 20:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to read: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
2006-08-08 20:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by Irish Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll im sure she's really, really worried about you sweetie!!
are you not talking to her?!? that's probably the reason!!
she's just concerned and wants to help!!
guys need there space too i know!! but, the next time you speak to her just tell her your alright but, you need your space for the time being!
good luck!
2006-08-08 20:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by sexii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry ill leave u alone i didnt get the message the first time but i sure do now.....its like what part of no dont u understand...
2006-08-08 20:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Starbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a guy thing, Jack. Girls don't get it. When girls want to work stuff out they talk about it endlessly. They expect you to do the same.
2006-08-08 20:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋